Actually, this a throwback to my college days and childhood days.
When we were in college, my second sister and I would always quarrel over a lot of petty things.
That’s because sometimes when I will be dressing up for school, I cannot find the t-shirt or blouse that I have in mind to wear.
After a futile search at all cabinets in our room, I would take a look the hamper where we keep those used clothes for laundry already. There I would find what I am looking for.
I know that it’s my second sister who has worn it without my knowledge and me not seeing her go to school in it.
And when confronted, she would say “ well, you would also use some of my shirts without my knowledge, so I also take it that I can use yours also without asking your permission “.
From then on, we made a pact to ask for each other’s permission, whenever we like to wear a shirt that belongs to one another.
At times also, she would cook leche flan or custard in a small container, only for herself. So when we saw her eating it, we would also want it, but unluckily, it’s just enough for her and she won’t give any for tasting.
So, I would cook some for me and the rest of my siblings and don’t give her a share of it also. Lol
When our father came to know about this attitude of hers, she was reprimanded. Thus, after that whenever she likes to eat” leche flan” or custard, she would tell me so we can cook it together.
My other sisters, as we are all 5 girls, don’t quarrel with me, since I am the eldest. But this second sister would always pick a fight with me because she doesn’t want to be told what to do, even if it is what is best for her.
It is always the two of us, that our father would spank with his belt, because of those petty quarrels. Though, when he spanks us. he would do it lightly in our covered butts.
Then, he would let us kneel on opposite corners of the receiving room where he can see us.
But that wouldn’t deter us from sticking our tongues to each other while we do that. Lol
Our other sisters would watch us grinning and too afraid to do what we have done. Lol
But now that we are all matured ones, we are all so close, especially my second sister.
She was the one who helped me spiritually when I had the lowest moment in my life in my early times of my married life.
Sisters or brothers do quarrel when they were younger. But not anymore when they become adults. Do you agree?
So, how are you and your siblings when you were younger and later when matured?
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yes. This is true. This is an eternal truth with the lives of all. Sisters and brothers quarrel among themselves and even bear spanks from parents and it will not deter them. They continue it and as they age they slowly develop affection towards each other and they help each other. It is this quarrelsome nature in their childhood that makes a strong foundation for their affection. They dress together, they share and they learn how to make the parents happy. They remain as sweet memories in life.
This is generally seen mostly in the Indian culture. But, I am not aware whether such things do happen in the cultures of other countries also. I think they do not.
In India, ever body has got right to chide any child if he commits a mistake or go wrong. Our neighbor also sometimes chide our children if they go wrong. They do it nicely and in an appreciable manner.
Our teacher in the school is fully licensed to punish us like a policeman. Ultimately when we grew up it is this teacher who will be in our memories and we respect him and remember him throughout our life.
Unfortunately, I am the youngest one in the family and all my elders were chiding me and even kidding me equally. I was sometimes even their protector for their mistakes and even saving them from the domestic punishments. They were showing at me for their mistake when they were questioned by parents and escaping punishments. All the three sisters are jewels and they all loved me throughout and are still loving me. I am really grateful to them.
Actually , here in the Philippines , the parents can choose to be disciplinarian to their children as long as they don't inflict too much physical pain to their children.
Our father spanks us in our childhood and my husband also got to spanked with a slipper on my daughter's covered butt, because she was getting stubborn. After that incident, our daughter learned from that and from then on stopped on being stubborn and grew up to be a smart, simple and obedient girl.
Hen I were younger I had a great childhood and seems to be that there were always something to do. I have two sisters and WO brothers my babybroter has always lived with my and my mother and my other brothers and sisters was raised up with my grandparents after they got older because they moved in to help take care of them,even tho they lived with my grandparents I still got to see them everyday.we got along pretty good. Me and oldest sister would bump heads sometimes. We still lobed each other though, even had lots of good times.
I think that's how siblings are, quarrel with each other but still they love each other. Children are naturally naughty and can't be told and stubborn so that's why they always clash, especially with siblings.
However, all of this will be eventually outgrown, and will be replaced by love for each other.
Mmmhh my mum is an amazing lady indeed. I can say that she taught us well when we were kids and so on. She taught us how take take care of one another and not do things that would hurt the other. I have two sisters of the eldest one passed on. Right now we are just the two of us. Me and my younger sisters have been living like twins but the truth is we are actually 5 years apart. Some people don't even understand how we get along so well with each other. I guess it's the way we were brought up to be caring towards each other, and helping one another whenever we can.
I cannot say that we have never fought, we have not physically but with words and i think that has made us better because we know each others weaknesses and strengths. She may sometimes get in my nerves by doing things that I may not like, I will get mad the whole day but that will not last for 2days, we will have forgotten the hurt and moved on. I loved all my sisters back in the day and i still love the one remaining to bits. She one person that i rely on most of the time and vice versa so we actually compliment one another in all that we do. It's important to keep the relationship between sisters strong and close because when you get into trouble that are the ones that will see you through.
That's very nice to know that your mother took care of each and every one of you well.
Us, too were taken cared of well by our mother. Though, it is inevitable that my second sister who is a bit stubborn and wouldn't want to be under me since Iam the eldest , would always pick a quarrel with me if she doesn't like what I said or what I do, even if it is the right thing to do.
Oh well, that's how siblings are, in childhood would be enemies, but growing up they learn from their quarrels what each one dislikes thus, changing their ways to at least conform with what each one likes.
Sisters or brothers do quarrel when they were younger. But not anymore when they become adults.yes. I do agree.
Personally, Growing up, our relationship was interesting. Reallinng all the silly things we did, just left me laughing. But i guess it made our lives interesting and fun.
We had our own fair share of every normal life experienced between and among siblings. Quarrel this minute and making up the next minute. I loved my siblings so much that When we quarrel,though pissed but I'll still go close to them. I would follow my immediate brother about even after an arguement.lolz...
Between my sister and I, we dragged and argued on issues that matters nothing.clothes, chores, attention etc., but the interesting part is that we make up without knowing. Should we argue on a matter when running errands together,we will not talking to each other till we get home. Lolz...
But now, as adult when offended you talk about it, you may show your grievances but in a more mature way, and rectify as soon as possible. Sometimes, may even overlook or tend to ignore those behaviours that may have caused quarrel in the past... Lolzzz..
I guess it's all part of growing up.
Just wondering how boring and uninteresting life will be without all these. I guess all those experiences gives us memories of our childhood, and also gives us something to miss when we're all grown up, and facing our individual lives as adults. Stories to share with our children..*smiles* and also the enlightenment on diverse strategies to solve such intending issues between or among our children, which definitely will still arise at some point in their own lives..
That is true . I think all of us in our childhood experienced having quarrels with our siblings. Though , these quarrels makes us realize while growing up what our differences are and try to correct them as we grow up.
Thus, as we grow up we become close to one another.
Wow. I've always admired those who had a relationship with their parents or siblings. I didn't have quite a great relationship with my mom growing up. I was really close to my dad. My dad also had four other sons, making me his fourth child, and the only girl. My mom's son and I grew up together, so I would love to think of my big brother as my best friend. We cleaned together, covered for each other, played outside together, etc. My dad's sons were very distant. I think they held resentment toward me because my dad was in my life more than theirs. I can understand their anger toward him, but I always have to question why me? Sometimes we talk and sometimes we don't, but I wish day by day that our relationship was a lot better than what it is.
SO you mean, you aren't close to your mom because she loves her sons more than you and those sons are not from you dad? I am just a little confused on the situation.
Although, usually , daughters are closer to their dads as I have observed.
It would have been better if you were close to both parents. Though, sometimes we cannot help loving one much more.
But to be honest, I also love my father more.
I had a great childhood although my younger Brother was a terror! He would always pick at us girls and start fights. Needles to say my mother always had a belt around her neck to get the next unexpected child that was acting up. This was a time when it was O.K. to belt your child or use some other form of physical punishment. Of course we were always little angles because of the fear of getting licked in the butt by some leather. We played outside from sun up till sundown, now days kids have no idea what playing outside all day is. We used our imaginations and made some cool things with our hands, we were able to fix our own bikes and solve our own problems, not like today's kids
During those days, the belt is one way of disciplining the children. And I think, it was a very effective way because we children fear the belt so we behave. ha ha ha
You are right, during those olden days, we are happier and I think healthier children because we get to exercise always by playing outside.
Sad that nowadays, children are into playing with their gadgets, that they don't get exercises naturally, anymore. And they don't know the fun of interacting with their fellow children. Though I suppose at school, they get to play with their schoolmates.
Growing up my sister and I argued same as other siblings. I do not know if us having different fathers affected our relationship, but I think as children we were about average when it came to how we treated each other. My mother and I have always had a good relationship even through my preteen phase. My sister and mother however did not have that great of a relationship. Part of this, I think, was due to my sister moving in with her dad when she was about 12 years old and she may have felt as if our mother did not care about her or something even though that was not the case. When my sister and I were together we argued, I think, more than most siblings. We got into arguments at dinner, church, movies, family events, etc. I know one reason we fought so much was because of how disrespectful she was to our mother. This often caused fights and I think put a distance between us as teenagers. Another thing that we fought about was how my sister acted, spoke, the music she listened to, etc. At that time I was too immature to accept that she was her own person. I did not like her friends or the music she listened to, therefore I judged her and this led to arguments. At that time I thought it was okay, now though I know I should have been more understanding. It was not until we graduated that we started to talk more as friends. My sister is now 24 years old and did not start being more respectful to our mother until she was about 22. Even though my mom did not force us to to talk, my sister and I did start to build a relationship now that we are older and more mature. We started calling each other often, going out to lunch and having more in common. I am glad to say that with in the past few years, even though we do disagree once in a while, my sister and I have become a lot closer and I consider her not just my sister but also one of my best friends.
See, I think it is the immaturity in all of us that lead siblings to fight each other.
In the case of your sister, I must say that partly because she grew up being with his father, thus she developed a hatred to your mother because instead of her, it was you who was with her.
Well, understandably, children would be jealous of what each one would have.
Though, as you observed, all those were outgrown and because of maturity, both of you realized that you are one family, so you came to understand that the both of you will have each other when the parents will eventually be gone.
Such is the prize of maturity.
I grew up with 3 elder siblings all are girls with our youngest sibling not yet born (she was born after my 3 sister were already married. They love me so much and I love them also, we may quarrel over toys, food and all other small things under the sun but after an hour or so we make-up we are siblings after all. Now that we are all grown up (me still considered one of the youngest) we still have that sisterly love in us especially on our little sister who is gonna be 8 years old this march (I was 14 years old when she was born) eve thought we bully her often.
Wow, that's a big age gap with your youngest sister - 14 years!
I know that she's the apple of everybody's house in the house despite being jokingly bullied at times.
At least, now that her elders have married and is all grown up, she can still be with your parents since most of us once we are already working , we are on our own already.
Sisters are sisters no matter how much quarelling they would have in their childhood. When they mature they become closer.
So, you are all 4 girls. Us, we are 5 girls, my father trying to have a son. When we are already 5 girls, he decided to give Up. Now, most of us have sons forour children. Two of my sisters have 3 all boys each.
My sister and I are eight years apart. Growing up, we got along - she actually cared for me, and helped me with my homework! Now she is married and with kids, but we still speak here and there. :)
Actually, it is so nice when sisters have big gap on their ages. The tendency of the older one would be that she would be so caring and loving to her younger siblings , just like being a parent to them.
Lucky are those youngest because all her older siblings loves and cares for her and when they have their own jobs would be giving her whatever she requests that they can afford.
Unluckily, I am the eldest so I didn't experience that. I did all the caring and loving.
My sister and I used to fight a lot as children, but as adults we made friends. I think a lot of siblings have a big rivalry thing going on. I know we did. Now we just accept each other for who we both are and that we are very, very different in character.
I think most children are like that. One of the traits of children is selfishness. They want everything they see for themselves only.
Even when our only child, now a lady doctor , when she was a kid don't like a sister or a brother. She only wants herself to be our only child.
But when she grew up she began being selfless and learn how to give to others.
Unluckily, I never get to know how she will take it if she had a sibling, because she was our only child.