How To Deal with the Slow Brain

This is perfectly evident.   It takes you a second or two to recognise it.  It’s clear.  But!   If you are around a person with a Slow Brain, they will take forever to recognise it, and in between, will ‘disagree’ and lure you into pointless discussion.

This kid is autistic.  Met her and within 2 minutes realised it.   The parents were going on as if her behaviour was normal.

Now I know better than to say a word.

Firstly, if you are so stupid as to not realise your child has a problem, there is no sense in me saying a word.  I avoid the child, keep her away from me and move on.

This is not the problem.  The problem is mentioning it to someone who knows the family better than I, who is like; “No!  There’s nothing wrong with her!”

Now the Someone in the story, I’ll call her Dummy, is one of those people who will absolutely resist any idea that doesn’t come out of her mouth.   She has a very slow brain.  She can’t see when people are pretending to be her friend only to use her.    She can’t understand the motivation for certain remarks, and just looks blank.

She can’t read people.   And, of course, as I said, if the idea wasn’t in her mind, you can not expect agreement.

So Dummy goes on, lets the autistic kid ‘play’ with her own, which results in her daughter getting a good boxing up, and after the second or third time, realises there is something wrong with that other child.

Because Dummy recalls me advising her, she does not allow any discussion at all concerning her child and the autistic one.  For that would mean that I saw it, Dummy didn’t.

When I have to deal with Dummy, I say nothing.   I’ll tell other people, and they’ll do whatever it is, and not say a word to Dummy.

Everyone around Dummy knows that John’s wife is unfaithful, but to tell Dummy would result in her defending John’s wife.   So we all talk around it.   When it comes out, when John divorces his wife for her infidelity, Dummy will ‘tell us’, and we’ll exchange glances.  But to tell Dummy, before Dummy knows?  Waste of Breath.

Some people can have all the evidence available.  You can give them time, place, date, web page, and they will discard what doesn’t conform to their idea.

Arguing is a waste of time, because this person takes ten times longer to process information than Forrest Gump.

When a Slow Brain decides that you should or should not do something, (slow brainers love to tell other people how to live) don’t answer.   Do whatever it is you intended.  Don’t tell Slow Brain.   Let Slow Brain think the words were accepted and acted upon.

Some day, in the future, Slow Brain will learn, either directly or indirectly, you didn’t pay the slightest attention to the warning.  Or, not.

Many people have faulty synapses in their head.   They have a belief in their own brilliance.   They know the answer to everything.   Losing, failing, being proven wrong is never internalised.   They will proceed with the same fervour the next time, and be wrong again, and again.

They never seem to notice that their circle of friends gets smaller and smaller,  and it is only those at a distance they still talk to.

They never seem to notice that outside of those forced family invites, no one wants them at any function.   This is because the constant, “Oh I disagree…”   or  “You should…”  is worse than tedious.

This isn’t  an expert whose words you want to hear, this is a person you know has a slow brain, and what you thought about and discarded last month is still sitting strong in that head.

As soon you realise you are dealing with a Slow Brain, stop.   Do not bother to give advice, listen to advice or discuss anything.   Keep moving.  Smile, Hi/Bye and keep moving.   If forced into proximity, let the Slow Brain babble.  Say nothing that is in anyway discordant.  Introduce no topic.

If you can, laud how nice this is or that is, or just act happy.   This will keep the Slow Brainer from banging your ears.   As soon as possible, escape.

For it is very likely your tongue might be pulled, and you will wind out blurting out facts which will only lead to a dispute.   And as I said before, when you argue with an idiot it is hard to recall who is the idiot.