HOW DO YOU KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE STRONG AND LOVING
This is the continuation of my article entitled “When does the loving stops?”
For me these are the phases of a relationship:
In marriage, there are also stages to encounter:
FREEDOM OF BEING A COUPLE
You are still giddy with the new found togetherness. You want to spend each day together, if possible. Eat out and travel to places with your other half. Dream of dreams most married couples do.
Acquire things for your temporary abode for a merrier and happy surroundings.
Plan for your lifelong of blissful togetherness. How many children you will have? Where will you make your roots?
LIFE AS A FAMILY
Finally, after eating out to all the restaurants and travelling to places you want to visit, comes the kids.
Your life now changes. Sleepless nights of taking care of your newborn. Buying less for the usual groceries, replacing it with things for the baby. You now have to learn the Basic Baby 101.
But this is rewarded with the smile, the sound, the laughter that your baby makes. Just the sight of those cute eyes, chubby arms and legs, makes you proud of being a parents.
KEEPING THE EMBER GLOW
With the coming of the baby, sometimes you take for granted the things that made you happy before the coming of this adorable creature.
To keep that ember glow, you have to inject a little ‘couple time’ in your life. Invent things or situations that you think will make your partner see how lucky you have each other. It is an effort worthy of your partner’s love.
PROVING YOUR SELF-WORTH
Sometimes this is where the relationship goes astray. Each partner may feel that their self-worth had diminish a little.
The lady partner may feel that she is getting fatter and not getting any younger. She may resort to attention seeking ways. Not necessarily seeking the attention of the opposite sex, but beautifying oneself, buying things that may boost her ego.
The male partner, on the other hand, also felt that his macho image had lessen. Maybe due to thinning hair or bigger belly. I think, men, sometimes, are vainer than women.
Men, sometimes, resort to seeking attention from other women, besides his wife just to prove that he still is the macho man he once has been.
THANKFUL FOR SURVIVING
After all that has been said and done, congratulate yourselves if you have survived this phase. It is not a mean feat to undergo a marriage, whether it was a good or a bad one.
Lucky is a wife that has a husband that loves her so much despite the change in her appearance from the time they met. Lucky also is a husband who has a wife that loves him unconditionally, despite his shortcomings.
A couple is united for a reason. What God has united, let no one separate.
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Great article! =)
Thanks!
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Very well, very fitting for couples who started a relationship up to the time that both are "retirees!" ha ha ha! I can relate to this! But the success of a relationship really depends on the couple; they should remain loyal to each other through the odds of life. Usually when we are old enough, it is just respect for each other that prevails, which could also be considered as "love" for each other; whichever way it is, it should be, for the relationship to last forever!
Very true, indeed!
Respect is what makes the relationship become solid. Without respect, foundation of a relationship is weak.
i have always been very thankful that despite the fights i had with my husband we grow stronger together. we both understand each other's needs as time passes and now we are being tested by distance...
Congratulations!
At this day and age, it is so hard for a relationship to stay strong. As the saying goes, "it takes two to tango", so for a relationship to stay strong, two hearts and mind should always go together.
After a lot of reading and encountering many serious situations, I have decided not to have any strong and loving relationship. The more I observe and examine the more serious they turn out to be. We get depression and even insomnia. I allow it to continue as it is. Just enjoying nature, moving to a restaurant together, going side by side holding hands together, some respect for each other, some objections, some quarrels, agreements and disagreements etc.,
I am happy for you that you have found your happiness just by continuing what you have now. Stay in a situation that will make you happy. Nobody should force you to do things not to your liking.
Just continue on enjoying life.
I love this article. Thank you for writing and sharing it with. As a young person, marriage is a hard subject because there are so few great examples out there. We see marriage as an unhappy union, something to make other people happy rather than the couple themselves. It is an expensive endeavor, for if it does not coast a lot then apparently the love is not real.
So you points have struck a cord with me as deep down i believe these points.