There are situation in which the child loves school. It is almost an extended family. S/he had friends and feels safe and comfortable.
There are cases where the child hates school, sees attendance on the level of incarceration.
If this is your child take it deadly seriously.
There are schools which are overcrowded, poorly designed, with teachers who are disinterested and the kids are a mixed set.
In some schools, regulations prevent principals from taking action until someone is injured. In many cases the lack of streaming puts the bright child in with the dunce, and due to absolute mind killing boredom, the bright child becomes ‘disruptive’.
Depending on where and what community the school services, the ‘culture’ of the community infests the school, and good and bad / right and wrong are set by that community.
Where everyone agrees with the mind set, that is one thing. But where there is a mixed group, it may put your child outside.
Recently, many parents are looking at Home Schooling as a response to over crowded classrooms and forms of prejudice. This might be racial, but it also might be religious. ethnic or moral.
Some parents might be overly Liberal/Conservative and the school does not share their views but the obverse.
If you’ve got the money and connections you can send your child to Private Schools.
The problem there is, that there’s often a kickback to child psychologists, so every other child is ‘diagnosed’ with some problem or other so as to milk the parent’s pockets.
Another situation is that the child may be made to believe s/he is ‘better than’ other people.
As there is no easy fix, parents have to step up.
Join the P.T.A., become active at the school, make unwarned visits, so that you see what is really going on.
You might walk in on bullying, on a teacher looking out the window, on your child shoved in the back, etc.
Too often parents assume the child hates school as expected. It isn’t. A child should want to go to school. Parents should insure a child has everything necessary to attend school. If they can’t afford it, get help.
If you don’t like the school, move the child.
Sometimes a religious school is better. Sometimes it is just a simple transfer. Other times parents move to another district.
Nothing is more important than the education of your child. This is a permanent molding. If they hate learning because it is mixed up with bullying and humiliation, this will handicap them for life.
Remember, for a child, most of their life is spent at school. Getting up and going counts in the day, coming home and doing homework also counts. If a child gets up a 7:30 to get to school at 9 and gets home from school at 4:00 and does homework until 5:30, that is ten hours of a day in which they will be with their parents for no more than two or three.
Take a special interest when your child hates school, and Act.
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No disagreement with what you've said. School was always a place I liked to be. But I do realize it's not that way for all kids. Usually when kids don't like going to school it can be narrowed down to three things: (1) The other schools kids are doing something to make them dislike going to school. (2) The teachers aren't teaching and/or treating them well. (3) Or it's both!
As long as the school environment is not a place where the student is afraid because they feel threatened, then my advice to the student is:
~ try to avoid the nuisance classmate who makes it their mission to annoy you or the one who tries to influence to do things you shouldn't be doing and get you in trouble,
~ try to tolerate the teacher who probably isn't the best teacher in the world and learn what you can, and
~ if you find activities to do that you really like, enjoy yourself!
Tell the kids that school doesn't last forever and they'll be out before they know it. Also give them a heads up about what happens AFTER school! “Hey kid! If you think school sucks, wait until you get into the work world. Hope you find a job you like!”
You have to be 'hands on' as a parent. For example, I was in the Supermarket and saw two of my daughter's classmates who told me that the teacher had thrown her out of the class and said that any student who helped her.
When I got home my daughter didn't want to tell me what happened. I wrote a letter to the school, I went up there... the principal said he'd deal with it.
A year later they fired the teacher, she took them to Court and my letter was key in insuring she was gone.
If I was a laid back Mom or hadn't heard, my child would have suffered.
She loved school, so you can see the effect on her.
Don't want to fight but sometimes you've got to. Some people push you until you do! Glad it worked out for you and your daughter. Too bad it had to get ugly like that. :(
And don't forget bullying. It doesn't just affect children's currently, it also leads to many complications with personality when they grow up. Imagine a child who never had friends during elementary school to try and look for a group to hang out with in high school. That kid never even developed any social abilities to help itself.
When i was in elementary i really hate going to school that's why im always absent and my mom always get mad at me and spank me whenever i have my tantrums but it change when i go to my secondary education. I use to be active in school and study very well. I still remember way back then, my favorite subject is history and science which got my attention well.
I have studied many cases those who hate for going school becomes intelligent more than those who go school regularly. School is just the place of discipline and no education at schools. Every great man hated going school because school snatches human intelligence and bound students do what the teacher says. History is full of such persons who hated school and got international fame. Shakespeare is one of them. In modern age I will recite just one example of Rabindranath Tagore. Who hated going school but git Nobel Prize in literature.
Listen what he says about the school.
Rabindranath Tagore -- born 1861; died 1941
winner of the 1913 Nobel Prize in literature
Tagore was a superb writer and one of the founders of modern Bengali literature. He was the first non-Western author to win the Nobel literature prize.
[School] forcibly snatches away children from a world full of the mystery of God's own handiwork, full of the suggestiveness of personality. It is a mere method of discipline which refuses to take into account the individual.
It is a manufactory specially designed for grinding out uniform results. It follows an imaginary straight line of the average in digging its channel of education. But life's line is not the straight line, for it is fond of playing the see-saw with the line of the average, bringing upon its head the rebuke of the school. For according to the school life is perfect when it allows itself to be treated as dead, to be cut into symmetrical conveniences.
And this was the cause of my suffering when I was sent to school. . . . I was not a creation of the schoolmaster,--the Government Board of Education was not consulted when I took birth in the world. But was that any reason why they should wreak vengeance upon me for this oversight of my creator? . . .
So my mind had to accept the tight-fitting encasement of the school which, being like the shoes of a mandarin woman, pinched and bruised my nature on all sides and at every movement. I was fortunate enough in extricating myself before insensibility set in.
No think in lone what is the role of school in making men great.
My hatred of Sharon Springs Central School.
That school had some of the worst teachers in the whole United States. Including one teacher who doesn't work there anymore, Shane Barton. Shouting at me for an accident. That fucking asshole raised voice almost got him one step closer to having his vocal cords slit from his throat. He'll probably say "it's disapline" while I'll say it's illegal menacing. His wife, Tara, did a much better job disaplining me than he did. When he was replaced by Coach Smith, a much nicer teacher, I actually said "Finally, he's gone!" I was waiting for him to die in an accident because I was sick and tired of seeing him the fuck alive!
Then there's Mr. Mahar, the former school superintendent. He punishes me by slapping me and shaking me which is illegal. He would say it's corpral punishment which is illegal in New York at that time. I didn't have the courage to tell my mother this, if I had, Mahar would have been in jail for child abuse.
Mrs. Lane, that ugly old hag, should've croaked a long time ago. She the type of teacher you wished you slapped right across the face. Her attitude almost made me explode in her face.
Ms. Keller is the most fucked up excuse for... anything I have ever met. Everytime I tell on a student for something they did worng, she doesn't believe me or she believes I was the one who did it. She probably has a saying, "The first person to blame a crime on somebody is obviously the real person who did it." Holy fuck, They should've fired her.
That's all I have to say. One things for sure, if they ever decide to have the school demolished, I would be first in line for any machine to get rid of that hell house.
My hatred of Sharon Springs Central School.
That school had some of the worst teachers in the whole United States. Including one teacher who doesn't work there anymore, Shane Barton. Shouting at me for an accident. That fucking asshole raised voice almost got him one step closer to having his vocal cords slit from his throat. He'll probably say "it's disapline" while I'll say it's illegal menacing. His wife, Tara, did a much better job disaplining me than he did. When he was replaced by Coach Smith, a much nicer teacher, I actually said "Finally, he's gone!" I was waiting for him to die in an accident because I was sick and tired of seeing him the fuck alive!
Then there's Mr. Mahar, the former school superintendent. He punishes me by slapping me and shaking me which is illegal. He would say it's corpral punishment which is illegal in New York at that time. I didn't have the courage to tell my mother this, if I had, Mahar would have been in jail for child abuse.
Mrs. Lane, that ugly old hag, should've croaked a long time ago. She the type of teacher you wished you slapped right across the face. Her attitude almost made me explode in her face.
Ms. Keller is the most fucked up excuse for... anything I have ever met. Everytime I tell on a student for something they did worng, she doesn't believe me or she believes I was the one who did it. She probably has a saying, "The first person to blame a crime on somebody is obviously the real person who did it." Holy fuck, They should've fired her.
That's all I have to say. One things for sure, if they ever decide to have the school demolished, I would be first in line for any machine to get rid of that hell house.