How to Handle Your Stress with your Child

Sometimes, when I am facing stressed out, I couldn’t make myself cheerful in-front of my child.

I am worried that my stress outburst might affect my child.

Stress

Stress, is an emotional feeling of pressure that you are unable to cope. 

It could relate to work, relationship, family problems, children problems, 

financial problems and illness.

You become frustrated, burst out in tears without any symptoms, pulling out

 your hair with anger, lack of appetite, lack of motivation and would even 

have suicidal thoughts.

 

It is alright

When you are feeling down, you don’t have to feel guilty over it.

Initially, I felt like a bad, evil mommy when I had to face stress alone.

However, after reading articles related to stress, I had realized that one 

need not have to hide the stress feelings from your child.

It is alright for your child to know how you feel once a while

 ( not frequently)

Parents who always hide away their stress would deprive their children

to misunderstood that parents are supposed to be happy even during bad 

times, regardless of problems.

Your children should know that life has its ups and downs.

 

Nothing is perfect

 

It is alright to be sad and it is right for your child to know your sad feelings.

 

Here are 5 tips how to handle stress with your child that I had 

observed

#1-Cheer up

Sometimes, your child’s temper and tantrums are the main cause of your stress.

Experiencing his daily bad emotional control, could try you crazy while you are unable to cease his nonsense behavior.

You know that scolding and hitting your child isn’t the solution either. You are likely to receive counter attacks by your child and leave a “bad scar” impression.

Try cheer up mood instead for both you and your child.

• Bring your child outdoor- to the park, playground, zoo, funfair or shopping mall
• Go have some fun at the archade centre where you can spend time hammering the crocodiles, throwing basketball in order to vent your your anger and stressful mood.
• Get another parent and child, go out together as your companionship. With another parent around, you are able to discuss your depression and helps you to feel better than bottling up inside. Your child will feel happier with another friend too.

 

#2- Embrace

Try the hug trick.

• A warm hug from your child can magically reduce your anger, frustration, anxiety and worries in seconds.
• Make sure that your child likes to be hug too.
• Otherwise, don’t do it.
• Ask your child whether you can hug him or he hugs you.
• Hug firmly but not tightly. Don’t squeeze your child like a teddy bear!
• Embrace your child in your arms, whisper your heart felt words in his ears .
• Don’t hug too long, a few seconds will do.
• If your child doesn’t like hugs, hold his hand and caress it on your cheeks.
• The warmth from your child, helps you to cool down like a magic potion.

 

 

#3- Find a shoulder to cry on

If your child can’t help you to cool down, call a close friend, a relative, your parents or siblings who is a good listener. He /she could provide you a shoulder to cry on without obligation when you needed one.

Do this when your child is outdoor, at school or not at home.

 

#4-Have a good cry

One way to relief yourself from stress is have a good cry, bawl your eyes out and wail like a child.

It is best to cry when your child is out, not at home , if you do not wish him to see your down side.

If you feel that your child is able to give you comfort, it is alright to cry infront of your child once in a while.

Crying helps you to feel better, relieved and exhausted.

However, do not cry often infront of your child. You may startled him or scare him off.

 

#5- Let it out

Walk away from your child if you needed to let out your stress.

• punch a pillow
• jump up and down
• stomping your feet
• walk in circles
• walk up and down
• don’t slam the door or throw objects, you may hurt your child accidentally
• refrain from spanking or hurting your child
• don’t hurt yourself either
• screaming into open air ( when the airplane is roaring in the sky ) is the best way to let out
• shout out to the sea
• visit the karaoke ( sing along box) where you can sing or wail your voice out
• dance – wild crazy dance to the music at home

 

However, remember to give reasons to your child why you are behaving “abnormally”.

Remember that your child is innocent.

Otherwise, he will imitate your actions in future

 

Question

How do you handle stress with you child?

Do you scream at him?

Do you send him away while you cool down?

 

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