While you are still breathing, I guess you need to plan for the future. We do not know where our time is up but it doesn’t mean we stop from there. It is good to always plan. Plan is a guidance for a goal to achieve. If the goal is not targeted, change the plan not the goal. I still plan, though recently it doesn’t work for me because I always…[Read more]

@morgoodie, exactly, some times the children put their parents in nursing homes and then NEVER come see them.  This not only happens in  nursing homes but with mentally challenged adults as well.  The family puts them some place where they’re taken care of and then are “ashamed” and never see them again.

If the younger generation would visit wi…[Read more]

@kaka135, yes the parents got along with their children.  The children apparently could take seeing their parent in a nursing home, yet they were unable to take care of them.  Maybe the child felt guilty about sending their parent to the nursing home, but why NOT come to see them to make sure they are taken care of.

As far as their health i…[Read more]

@kaka135 have a point there. I know a certain person wants to be in a nursing home because her children are fighting with each other on who will able to take care of her. For her, if she will be a burden to them, she would want to be staying in the nursing home and find people who are experiencing the same. The decision makes me cry. I am praying…[Read more]

I love older people and I think that even though they are not “up with the times” they can still be a great source of information and education to the younger generation. I often feel more in tune with older people than I do with people my own age. My mother never wanted to go to a nursing home, but when it came down to her being very ill, she…[Read more]

@slayer08 Yes, I agree with you. We actually do not know what will actually happen 10 or 20 years later, so parent should actually let the children learn to be more independent and thus they will learn how to take care of themselves, and we just take care of ourselves too.

@4cryingoutloud It’s sad to hear that.
Actually I am fine to be sent to…[Read more]

@grecy095, yes sissy..I use to work in nursing homes.  Some families NEVER see the people that they put in nursing homes.  That’s why there is such a demand for people to work in nursing homes as well.  You don’ t get to spend personal time with each individual that is there because most nursing homes are understaffed.  A “loving” nursing hom…[Read more]

@dawnwriter Yes, I agree with you. I guess, we just need to let the parents be the parents. They need to learn as well. Moreover I always think it’s a blessing to be parent, so we should really play our role and enjoy the play.

Sometimes the grandparents can be too strict and still like to use their way to discipline the children too – spank,…[Read more]

@bestwriter @kaka135 I firmly believe that parents and not grandparents should be in charge of bringing up children.

Grandparents either tend to be too lenient towards grandchildren and bribe them with things which totally spoils the personality of children. Most cannot keep an eye on children’s activities in a way parents can.  

Grandparents s…[Read more]

@bestwriter Yes, I totally agree with you. I always like the grandparents to spend time with the grandchildren, and also children of course, but the parents’ responsibility should really give back to the parents, not the grandparents. 🙂

Yes, there are surely some conflicts while bringing up kids. I am really glad that though my parents, parents…[Read more]

@Christi  You are right. It is pathetic to see old folks so helpless and penniless. It is all their fault.

@Lee Ka There is also the issue about clash of ideas on how to bring up kids.

Lee Ka. Grandparents could be around but not take on the responsibility

@bestwriter I do not think my parents and aunts think that, as they actually have their own activities to do and their friends in home town. But it’s just that they might be too protective to the children, or the children are too dependent on them, so they just have to help out the children. Of course, they are always happy to help the…[Read more]

@bestwriter I do not think my parents and aunts think that, as they actually have their own activities to do and their friends in home town. But it’s just that they might be too protective to the children, or the children are too dependent on them, so they just have to help out the children. Of course, they are always happy to help the…[Read more]

@Lee ka   Grandparents want to stay in the loop so that they are of some use to the family. They are worried they will be rendered useless if they do not contribute. I see this happening here all over.

@bestwriter Frankly speaking, sometimes I think the seniors I know here take care of their children and grandchildren too much. My uncle and aunt are taking care of their grandchildren, sending and picking them from school, they even help to check their homework. These should be done by the parents, not the grandparents, though I understand their…[Read more]