@peachpurple Hope you will put to practice the suggestions you have made here. All the best.

@dawnwriter I am not sure if my parents have been watching TV programs, online information and they have friends and still go out to have some activities often, they understand that the world now is different from theirs. The children nowadays are different as well. Sometimes, I even prefer them to be a little bit old style. But, I am thankful for…[Read more]

@dawnwriter I am not sure if my parents have been watching a lot of TV programs or online information, they understand that the world now is different from theirs. The children nowadays are different as well. Sometimes, I even prefer them to be a little bit old style. But, I am thankful for their understandings. Moreover, they respect me as the…[Read more]

@Lee Ka Wish many seniors did that.

They will empty their coffers for their kids and the kids will throw their hands up.

I agree that all of us should actually plan for our future, not just the seniors.

My parents already have plans for themselves, so even though we can’t support them financially, they can still live a good life. As children, we just always remind them to spend if they wish to, and there is no need to leave the money for us. Some parents here would…[Read more]

@bestwriter/

I agree with you.

We as parents, should start to plan for our old age plan now , at our 40s.

We need to invest our savings into other places where we could accumulate interest .

That means more money, easier lifestyle in future.

Then, we don’t have to worry when we are old.

We don’t have to show our hands to our kids, asking…[Read more]

Planning should start at an early age.

Very well said.

It is not just financial dependence but when seniors depend on their children then the  children’s thinking becomes law. The seniors become vulnerable and mess up their life totally.

I think it is a  big mistake not to plan for the future whether you are young and old.

As parents, we are also spending a lot of money on our children’s school fees and other necessities but I do not want to be dependant on them ever even if they are very obedient and supportive.

It is best to save money on a regular basis and find ways of…[Read more]

@dawnwriter

right you are my dear !

My mother in law told me that kids don’t have to study hard. Later on, they still have to work. So what is the point to put in effort in studying and waste time going for tuition?

I can’t believe what I had heard!

If kids were to follow the footsteps of our older generation, there won’t be any future…[Read more]

I noticed that old folks don’t plan for their future.

For example, my parents and my parent in laws.

They are in their 70’s and 80s.

Still, they are living with their older or youngest child.

When they were in their middle age, they slogged like hell, for the sake of the family, fed the kids, educate them but they do not keep aside some money…[Read more]

@4cryingoutloud your replies about seniors in nursing homes makes me cry as I remember a certain documentary I watched in the past. It is still hurting me. I agree, younger ones need to learn from senior, it is not that they do not have gadgets that make everyone know-it-all at present it means they know it all. Seniors have more experience, that…[Read more]

As I have already commented children are so placed – many a time in a different country – it is not possible for them to give the kind of attention seniors need. Good nursing homes could be the answer as there they get all the care.

Joint family system is a thing of the past when elders ruled the roost.