Forgive, forget and move on

Writing title and speaking about it may be easy, but doing it in practical life is quite difficult. It has been two months exactly since a bitter event happened and from that time, those memories are stuck with me. I knew what happened to me and my family was totally unfair, but somehow we never got an opportunity nor a situation to shoot back. Its just so unfortunate, that despite being on a right side, its only we who got the bitter pill to swallow, not them. In future, i would definitely step up and shoot back if someone is meting out a unfair treatment on us even if any of my family member resists. We just cannot keep quite and agree to whatever they say. I believe we are not in 1947 sitting on satyagraha. There are times, when one needs to be patient with the situation, but again there are times and situation where one should not keep quite. Keeping quite in that situation is equivalent being a criminal, because somewhere you are also involved in letting your loved family to suffer the unfairness. This is the lesson myself and others really need to learn.

I learned my lesson and vowed not to ever repeat the same mistake, but those memories still remain farm-fresh.Just as we all say, time will heal all the wounds, but somewhere down the line, it is really not working on my part. The memories keeps flashing often everyday and at the worst, those events repeat in my dream in a sequence. I have been trying to get over this for a long time using several ways, but none has worked successfully. I tried to induce myself into more happiness by doing things i love, although it did keep me away from those memories for that particular time, it made a comeback when my happiness dissolved from peak to normal level. Once i get a bitter memory, i try hard to get a happy memory to fight it, but unluckily for me, those memories are so strong that it just holds on. Then i one day found out the reason for those bitter memories staying on with me. It was primarily due to the frustration of not shooting the salvo on them during those events. Briefly, i thought i should go to them purposefully and vent out my anger. But at the end, i would also end up being like them. If i had to fire a salvo, i had to do it right there, not at this time which will sound more like a revenge. So i decided to forgive, forget and move on. There is no point in trying to take revenge or vent the frustration. At the end, whatever event had happened, be it bitter or unforgettable, it is done and dusted. Revisiting them only adds salt to the wounds.As a first step, i decided to forgive what they had done. Secondly i have to forget the incident and move on, which i’m currently trying to do. So far the results have been encouraging, slowly the memories are fading away. I just hope it fully vanishes and bring me back to my normal self