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When does it come to the point that you stop helping people? I know you are to help people without expectations. You should keep doing for some one even though they may not appreciate you. You may keep helping people do things that they should do, but it’s easier for you to do it. You may even make excuses for people. When come the point that you stop?
I fought with this with my son, when he was being placed in placements for his “bad” behavior. I would make excuses of why he was being “bad.” Of course I blamed myself, as I was a single mom and had to work one if not two jobs. I realized by me making excuses for his “bad” behavior, I was enabling to continue to do his “bad” behavior.
Each time he was released from a center and got home his “bad” behavior would start again. I had to do some “tough” love and send him to get help again. I wasn’t going to enable his bad behavior that only he was responsible for!!
I’m facing this dilemma again, except it’s wit my MIL. I do things for her and she doesn’t appreciate anything I do…half the time ,y husband brings up ALL that I do before she will thank me. I wrote about this earlier and some comments are that I should still continue doing things for her without any expectations from her. Why? That’s just enabling her. She will expect me to do it all the time and she will expect me to do more. So by doing things for her without any expectations is enabling her to be rewarded, for what? I’m the one isn’t being rewarded by getting any recognition. When she realizes when I quit doing things for her, because she shows no appreciation, maybe then she will then “have to” show appreciation.
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I think those are the better reason why you should stop helping someone. Me, I and my brother are not in good terms right now because he never help us at home.He is not always there when we need him. I stop helping him because he can't be of help and he can barely help himself. It seems he doesn't have any dream.
I may consider this as a serious family matter. This is a father-mother responsibility. A family should have a father who takes the lead while the mother is supporting the father. In doing their respective job, their children would be taken care of.
We did this in our own family. Every Monday, we hold our family home evening with all our children present. We have our short program with a prayer, with a singing of the hymn, reading the scriptures from the Bible. As we do them regularly, we find no problem with our six children. We also go to the Church every Sunday as a family.
It has nothing to do with you but everything to do with your ungrateful MIL. You have to diplomatically withdraw from the scene giving excuses and not letting her know that you are giving her back for her ingratitude. See if it works.