Today, after spending some time reflecting on my current relationship and the trials, tribulations, late night talks, and joy we’ve encountered together; it seemed like a great subject to write about to maybe help or just give insight into the relationship of two people who are almost a decade apart in age and what comes with that.
My boyfriend is almost 31 and I’m going on 24 years this may. We met when he was 27 and I was 19, through my eldest sibling and her husband while swimming at a local swimming hole. He was a long time friend of my sister and her husband and they had invited him down to hang out and beat the heat during the arid summer. I loved swimming so of course I was there. We chatted it up while swimming and became interested. At least I did.
After meeting i happened to work at the local diner in town and he invited me over to his place after work. He cooked dinner and just hung out and watched movies. He was very different than not only boys my age who we’re intolerable in my opinion but also older guys I had dated before. Instead of trying to get laid he was a gentleman to me. two months passed and he hadn’t even kissed me yet! The big difference there was i had been on first dates and had these men and boys try to get some. But this man, the love of my life now, showed me respect where the others had not.
The next trait or behavior that set him apart was his work ethic. This man did construction, irrigated for his elder neighbors for free, ran his own ranch and various other things. before him, hell boys my age couldn’t even get a job, let alone want one. For me this is huge because I’m a 100 percent and 100 percent kind of woman when it comes to relationships. You both give it your all or it won’t work. So for me a loser with no motivation who thinks i’ll do it all isn’t going to work.
Next this man, my love, showed patience with me, interest in my goals, a willingness to make it work, no matter what it takes. Now dating people my age I never saw this, it was always their way or the highway.. so usually the highway lol. having a bit of anxiety from time to time patience and understanding is vital and with this man i got exactly that. I love being able to sit up either early morning or late at night and talk about the goals him and I share and how we’re going to achieve them. Especially now that him and I are only a few months out before these dreams start becoming reality.
Now we’ve gone over all the pros of my boyfriend being older but here are some cons; to begin with lack of enthusiasm for adventure, he seems very comfortable and has no interest in challenging himself. Very routine by this age he has his routine and likes to stick to it which drives me crazy. Body pains and such so he can’t go doing some activities that i enjoy doing. Taking me for granted but i feel all relationships have this issue as it just happens over time if you do not notice and nub it right off.
All in all I feel for the amazing man i have who gives me support, love, advice, insights that even with the drawbacks of his age its all worth it and I’m so glad i found this man at the age I did.
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Nothing wrong with a little age difference.
I was 18 graduated from High school and moved out .
And He was well over my age at 42.
We we're together for 5 years and yes my parents hated it at the time .
I was head over hills with this guy .
Everything was perfect we even purchased a house .
Had a pool in the backyard an amazing house .
I had everything a girl could ask for without asking .
As time grew I drifted away from all of it .
I didn't want to settle down so I moved out while he was work and left a letter .
But anyways 5 years is the max for me but I can't help that I like older men .
Age really doesn't matter. As long as you love each other, you will love all each others' flaws.
I am older by more than 5 years to my husband. But,we are now going 27th .
Though, in the first years of our marriage, it seems I am the one always making the decisions. TBut as the years passed by, we now know what each other like and dislikes and get to adjust to each other already.
He has a short temper but to that I am now able to adjust. I know that in a while he is back to his jolly self.
Age conquers all , when it comes to love.
Well said young boys sometimes can be the most annoying people ever. Older mature men are the best way to go. Dating a found boy is the worst mistake that a young girl would make ever. They are very immature all that think about is when they will be able to sleep with you and just take advantage. They never take things seriously, all that went to do is have fun with you then damp you and that's very unfortunate. Well i don't mean to discourage any young girl here, but I am speaking out of experience. I have been in a relationship with a guy who was a bit immature and i regretted ever being in a relationship with him. He expects you to pick up the cheque when you go out, he wants you to buy him gifts when he doesn't even buy for you, and so many other annoying things. But truth be told if you are a girl in your late 20's get a man who is in his 30's, who knows what is right and what is wrong. He will treat you well because at that age he knows what he wants and how to get it. Usually people who are in their thirties have gone through so many things, they have gone through trials and tribulations and all these things, so they know what to value and what not to. So I wish you and your boyfriend a wonderful relationship and i urge you to nurture it to where you want it to get to. All the best and may you keep the candle burning.