Change is a word we except during divorce

We, as humans, will see the person we want to be/become and will tuck that person down deep inside of us. Why? Because, we see where we are in life and we are scared of all of the “obstacles” that stand between us and who we want to become. We are scared to change, scared to hurt those around us; we are scared of CHANGE! We tuck that dream way down deep and we look past it. My father told me all my life “you can change anything about yourself anytime you choose to, at any point in your life, as long as it’s for the better”!
So why do we continue on in life when we know deep down that “this” is not where we want to be? Why do we continue letting things/people stand in our way? We are scared! Scared things won’t turn out right, things won’t go our way or the way we “plan” them. Does everything we do every day of our lives always go as we planned? NO! So why let the fear of you having to change your “plans” in life stand in the way of YOU becoming a better person? Life does not always go according to our “plan”. But we compensate, we change our “plan” and continue on. So why can’t we compensate for the “bigger” plan in life and step out of the box and reach for the stars?
I want to teach/show my children that you can do anything in life that you set your mind to! There is NO can’t in life. Always tell yourself “YOU CAN”! And you can/will accomplish anything you want.
Yes, the road is not paved, it’s dark and scary, people will get their feelings hurt. But, if those people can’t accept change in their own lives, or change things in their own lives for the better. They don’t need to be on “your road” with you!
We change daily, you are not the same person today that you were yesterday. You learned new things and that changed you. I want my children to look and me and see that I can do better and become a better person. I can accept change. Yes, I am scared, but I WILL NOT let that stand in my way. I will persevere and I will be better! I won’t let anyone/anything stand in the way of me becoming who I want to be.
Quotes:
Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyways.
There is no challenge more challenging than the challenge to improve yourself.
The only thing constant in life is change
What you deny or ignore, you delay. What you accept and face, you conquer.
She changed her CAN’TS into CANS, and DREAMS into PLANS
Acceptance:
I went looking for the definitions of the word “acceptance”. What I found was a lot of websites and pictures telling me to “accept your life as it is”. NO! You do not under any circumstances “accept” things you are not happy with!! I believe that is considered “giving up”. Giving up on anything in your life is NOT acceptable!! I am told to “accept the things I can not change”. I don’t see very many things in my life that I can not change. There are things I can not control but not things I can not change.
I will not accept anything I am not happy with. I have the ability to change everything.
Once you accept the fact that there will be those that get “hurt” on your new journey, you are well on your way to your new life. Weather you hurt someone by leaving them, unfriending them, or leaving them in your past, there will always be someone who gets “hurt”. Lets face facts, all your “friends” are not on your side. They don’t all truly care for you and fully support you. There are those that will not accept you on your new journey. They are scared of you because you overcame your fears of change. These people will only hold you back and talk you down from your goals. They won’t change their lives so they don’t want you changing yours. LEAVE these people!
I understand the pain of losing “friends” in your life. But, you can’t let people stand in your way. Think of this as a way to make new friends.
Accept that change is scary and you will not be the same person you were. That is what change is all about! You have spent your entire life accepting things. Some were easy to accept ie: plans change, weather changes. Some things are harder to accept ie: vehicle break downs, boyfriends/girlfriends leave, friends leave…
Thing of something that happened in your life that hurt you. Now, think about how you feel about it now. Are you ok with it? Are you ok? If you accepted that this happened then you have overcome this obstacle.
Life is about change, acceptance, and overcoming. We persevere, we become better and stronger. We don’t let things drag us down or hold us back!
I have accepted that I am not the same person I was yesterday. I have accepted that not everyone likes me, and that is perfectly ok with me. I have accepted that I will hurt people on my journey through life. I don’t do it on purpose. I am not responsible for them not accepting me as trying to better myself. And I will not let them stand in my way. I can accept that not everyone will see me as trying to be a better person.
I understand that he will not be happy about my decision. He will never understand why I am changing my life. He will never see me as the person I truly want to become. I have accepted this. I know I will hurt my children. I can only pray that one day they will understand that their mother wants to give them a better life, better stability, and prove to them that you CAN do anything you set your mind to! Its never too late in life to change.
Accepting this fact has been the hardest. But knowing I can give them a better life has made my acceptance easier.
Acceptance of any type of change is not always easy. Having a support system really helps. Weed out your “friends” and find those few rare gifts to help you through. Those that will let you break down and cry and scream, then they will wipe your tears away and tell you they believe in you! They will remind you of your goal and will get behind you and push you forward. They never let you quit and never let you get discouraged. They do whatever it takes to keep you going.
What you deny and ignore; you delay
What you accept and face, you conquer
Face your fears, your doubt, YOURSELF! Don’t let your mind tell your heart that you can’t. Face your obstacles and accept them, then overcome them. There is a way to overcome everything in life. “Where there is a will, there is always a way”! Accept the obstacle that is stopping you from going where you want to go. Now choose a path around that obstacle. Over the obstacle in your way.
Let me clarify something. I’m not giving up on Ben. I have to move on to become a better person. To become the person I want to be. I am at a dead end road so I’m reaching for the stars and taking a leap of faith. I have to overcome this obstacle to get to where I’m meant to be. I don’t view it as giving up, but moving on. I have come to realize this is not where I’m meant to be and I will not let this stand in my way. I have accepted that I want to be a better and I want to become better. I will accept any/all challenges and I will overcome them. This is a stepping stone on my path to a better me. This is what I have to accept when I accepted the challenge I made to myself to become a better person.
Pain is defined as physical suffereing or discomfort caused by illness or injury.
Now rememeber back to when you had a pain. A tattoo, having a baby, or some other injury. You remember what caused the pain and you remember what that it hurt, but you can’t remember how the actual pain felt. You don’t remember what pain feels like. The memory is still there, you know it hurt but you don’t feel the pain anymore. You still have the scar to remind you but the pain is gone. Maybe our minds block the memory of how the pain felt, or we just forget with time. Either way we have healed. We overcame what tried to hurt us or bring us down. Not always with a great outcome like having a baby or a new tattoo. You burn your finger and it hurts, you get a blister, but the blister heals. You remember getting burned but you don’t remember how the actual pain felt. The mind is a great thing. You can remember when someone broke your heart, but not how bad it hurt. You remember what they did that hurt you, but just that it hurt you. You don’t remember how the actual pain felt. You can’t describe it other than “it hurt”. We all have scars, memories of what hurt us, how we felt. But the mind has healed itself. Unless you feel the pain again you don’t remember what it felt like. Time heals all wounds. In time you look back and remember you realize you have healed. The wound has healed. Maybe, you still have a scar, either on your body or inside your heart. You learned from the pain, you know what to do different so it doesn’t happen again. You have grown, you have changed. Things are not the same. You carry the scar to remind you of what was. But you changed so that it doesn’t hurt you again.
“Staying with someone because of the circumstances is one of the worst things that you can do. The moment you decide to overlook the signs that God has given you with someone, is the day you choose to close your eyes to never seeing happiness every again. If you really loved yourself, you wouldn’t allow yourself to willingly go through hell, when there is still someone out there willing to give you heaven on earth. Never let a circumstance determine your love life. You are more powerful than you think you are. I know you are afraid of starting over. I know you are afraid of being alone, but it’s far better to be alone and have peace of mind, than to be with someone and you don’t even know why the hell you are still with them. That’s not being in love, that’s being in debt to your circumstances.”