Can different maturity people create successful relationships?

Different partners’ maturity generally causes the collapse of the relationship. Because exactly by our maturity we learn to identify our own needs and opportunities. If one of the partners knows exactly what kind of relationship he wants and expects, then the less matured partner in this case is still in the searches of this, and when he matures his experience and transparency of wishes, that can not to comply with opportunities of his partner.

Often can be seen relationship of “mother-child”. This is when the more mature partner like grow, educate and develop the other partner. However, in this relation it is worth to remember the example of the real-life biological family – what children doing when grow up? Well, they leave the parental home. The same can happen in the relationships, when grown and developed weaker partner matures and finds other, more satisfying relationship.

Also, different maturity encodes a greater risk of different values. Often couples that are getting better at the beginning, as if to fall asleep on their laurels and expect that it will always be so. In this way, only when faced with life’s challenges and crises, they realize that the both of them have different values.

There is open philosophical question – what is attracting to another person, the differences or similarities? I am of the position that argues that the basic values must be the same, but personal nuances can be different, thus reinforcing, compensating each other.

What are core values? It is the largest and most important human desires, aspirations and needs. For example, if one of the partners constantly seeks to travel in life or dream move of the current place of residence, and the other imagines himself living only here, then the relation of those people uniquely is determined that any of partners will be unhappy. At this point even a compromise may be difficult to find. However, very often partners in the relationship take righteous position and trying to lure, to persuade the partner to see, feel, think and behave exactly as he wants.

So, I think that every difference of partners: the maturity, attitude and valuable – should be discussed and known.

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