Being a Singleton

There are times in life when you live alone.   You may have grown in a family, but now are off to school and leave the noisy dorm for a quiet private corner.

You may take a job far away and arrive alone, and live alone. At least for a time.

You may be married and then death or divorce occurs, and you are alone.

You may have children, but they grow and marry, and move away.

And you find yourself living alone.

Being alone doesn’t mean you are lonely.  Unless you can’t stand your own company.  Now that is a problem which you must face.

For most people it feels strange, for some, liberating.

What you have to do is set various functions for you to attend alone.

When you go to work, make it a social occasion.   When you shop, again, consider it as friendly as a party of peers.

Treat all social interactions as important, whether it is speaking to a cashier, a gas station attendant, a repair man.

Don’t become overly friendly, so that they wonder what is wrong with you, but when you speak to them, look them in face, use their name, if you know it.  Don’t be in a hurry, unless there is a long line behind you.

Live in the now.  See the world.  Really look, don’t just dim your vision as you pass, but see it.

Give yourself tasks at home, and spend time preparing your food.  It is not ‘only for you’, you are not an “Only”, it is For you.

Too many singletons grab junk food or heat up something, as if what they eat isn’t important.  Make meals important, because you can cook what you like, exactly as you like out, without worrying if there’s too much pepper.

Learn things.   You have Internet connection so learn something.

If you’re tired, watch T.V. online.  Watch what you want, and lock it off if it bores you.  Please yourself.

Too many people have spent their lives pleasing others, cooking what they want, wearing what they want, being the person they want.

It’s your time.

Don’t fret over the past.   Everything you did, you did for a reason.   If you went back in time, and did something else, it wouldn’t have worked out any differently.

There’s no sense in saying that “I should of…”  when at the time that choice was not in contemplation.

There are children whose parents never wanted them, so no matter how good they might have been, it wouldn’t change.

Their are parents who did their best but their children revile them.  There is no way to change it.  People make choices.

The choices were made and so, you move on.   Leave the past alone.  It’s over.  It is like mourning the end of T.V. series not wanting it to have ended like that.

There is nothing you can do, so leave it.   Be here now.

Make friends, but don’t swallow them or use them to assuage loneliness.   See being a singleton as granting you all the liberty you can manage.

Eat when you want, sleep when you want, do what you want inside of your domain.

Imagine if you lived with someone who demanded to eat what you despise, was awake and noisily active when you were trying to sleep,  or filling your ears with blah blah when you wished to think.

People can be invited in, then leave, and you need not feel lonely, because you always have you.