The definition of friend; a person who knows you, but likes you anyway. A friend is someone who knows your views so you don’t have to speak.
But most of all, if you are a friend, you will know why he didn’t invite you to his wedding.
We had met, never did the ‘Me 101‘ so I had assumptions about who he was, where he worked. But it didn’t matter. We were friends. And it was later down I learned he was a driver.
He had a rough life I never asked about, he didn’t much speak about.
I considered him, bright, attractive, charming, all the positives.
Then I saw this woman standing by the table. I glanced at her, she was a blob. Nothing to look at.
It was later I was informed she was his ‘girl friend’. I found that strange as he hadn’t put off the vibes of attraction.
Anyone can read the signs when people are connected; he gave no sign that the woman meant anything to him.
I found it peculiar.
Then I learned she had a lot of money, a big position.
She bragged and postured, behaved as if we ought bow to her. She didn’t talk, she made pronouncements. Her views ended all discussion.
I found her odious. But knew why he was with her.
Not long after he and I were catching a lift, and out of nowhere he began a diatribe about how much he disliked the concept of marriage.
I appreciated she was demanding a ring. And he was doomed.
A few weeks later I was in a cafe, exchanging words with another who mentioned the wedding that happened on Wednesday.
I did not speak. Maybe shock, maybe sorrow, but I made no sound.
I had spoken with him that morning and he hadn’t said a word about a wedding. I had actually called him on that very Wednesday about a minor matter. He had not even hinted of what he planned to do that evening.
I sat in that cafe and felt nothing. Not hurt, not angry, not insulted. My non-feeling captivated me.
How was it a person I’d known for so many years, a person I had as a friend could get married and not only leave me off the guest list, not even tell me?
Strangely, I encountered him and his wife a short time later. We greeted amicably as always.
I said nothing about the wedding, nor did they mention it to me.
I suppose if I had come to his wedding, I would witness his humiliation.
His wife was babbling about the poor quality of coffee at a particular hotel.
I looked at him, met his eyes, nodded. It was okay.
I was his friend. I understood.
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having a real friend is the most beautiful thing in the world. sadly in my case I can say I was disappointed many times by people that I considered my friends
I usually have 'two-tiers' people who are my friends and those who are kind of environment. Environment always lets me down. Hypocrites, liars, actors... but real friends are priceless
Well, did he married for money not for love?
It is a good thing that you had understood him
Such a saad case
Sounds like a drama
It is very sad. He married for money and didn't bargain on the fact she works for an embassy so after marrying him dragged him way around to the other side of the world to stay home and look after the children.
The other day she brought him back on a visit and it was like he had a leash around his neck.
Another friend of ours was 'not allowed' to see him.
But I say nothing.
Friendship is most important thing in human life but we all must keep in mind that in choosing friends keep two things in min; either your friend must be beautiful or intelligent because your friends are your introduction in the society where someone lives. But I say
Make new friends but keep the old
These are silver those are gold
We make friends throughout life, in play school, school, college, office, just everywhere. As we grow through different phases in life, we meet new people and make new friends and do not necessarily give up on old friends. It all depends on how strong the bond of your friendship is. Friends are always there to guide and support you through the ups and downs of your life. They are the people who are always there to lend a helping hand to you.
These are most important friendship qualities as..
Sharing is caring
Trust and Loyalty
Personal Adviser
Listener
Selfless – Always ready to help
Cheers you up
Knows you inside out
Forgiving
Straightforward
Not Judgmental at all
Friends are good and they can also be bad people it all depends on an individual choose your friends wisely , they are likely to hurt you at some point in your life. It's not easy keeping friends for a long time. There ar3 those that will come into your life who will make things good and there ar3 those who will come into your life to ruin it for good. I have had friends who have come and gone in my life and sometimes I don't regret them leaving. You usually come to realize later that they would have got you into trouble.
Your friend probably decided not to tell you about his wedding for reasons best to known to him. Men ar3 usually very jealous beings maybe he thought that if he tells you, you might tell him something that he may not be happy with. So the best thing was to keep silent and have the fun that he was hoping to get. People are very funny. If you have made a choice that's your choice I will not try to make you change your mind, that is what you want and that's what you will get. I feel it was wrong for your friend to have hidden the fact that he was getting married and still call you his friend. He probably felt embarassed to even mention it when you met, he will one day remember the friendship that you once shared.