?To love or not to love that is the question

What is Love? How do you find love, or does love find you? Where does these feeling resinate from? Have you ever looked at you counter part and asked, is this who I’m suppose to be with. Some would say if you have to ask that question then maybe they’re not the one. What about all the people looking for love and has never found it. Are they suppose to be alone.  To me love is all in what your willing to deal with. Or should I say put up with. After being in a relationship for 5byears, and being cheated on, I feel like I want love to stay at bay. I don’t understand why love hurts. Its love its not suppose to hurt. I have many friends with so many reltionship problems. To listen to some of the things that goes on in these relationships its scares me to even think about love. Why don’t men/women step up and be a better person for the person they say they love. Why can’t we as all people just be happy with who we ‘re with. I don’t believe you can be in love with two persons. Just doesn’t seem natural to me. Why is love so hard to grab and keep? Some please help me understand I’m 34 and still has not touched love. And I’m a great person. Is love not meant for me. When I talk to these friends of mine the only advice I can give is from my own personal experinces. What happens if you never find love. What then. Do we go get pets to fill those voids. Do we deal with the fact that we ‘ll die alone. Or do we keep trying.  I welcome all to dive in with your thoughts. Ask your self do I truly love this person, and if not why are you with them. And how do they feel about you.