Meeting Your Intended’s Family; Vital

Today, a couple might marry without meeting each others families.    To do this is a big mistake.   You aren’t meeting them for approval  you need to know where the prospective partner ‘comes from’ and where he or she is going.

Unless s/he was adopted, the genetic makeup of your Intended’s family is crucial to learn who and what you are about to marry.

When you look at the relatives you are looking into ‘the future’.

This is where s/he will be in twenty/thirty years.   This is not just the physical attributes but the emotional, intellectual, and spiritual complexity.

If what you see or hear upsets you, leave now.

Today she might be a beauty queen or he have the body of a Track Star. But her mother is fat, his father is lazy, his grand mother has a bad attitude and her sister is into some cult.

The beauty queen might forget about dressing up and keeping to the diet, the Track Star might forget the gym once the ring is on the finger.

People enter the dating scene by becoming their most beautiful version. Once the ring is on the finger, they kick back.

If you see the family you’ll know what to expect; for if they have all kept in shape, so will your intended, if they haven’t, so too your intended.

Appearance isn’t Everything

How a man relates to his mother (or a daughter to her father) is a signal of how the spouse will fare in the relationship.

Some men are ‘Momma’s Boys’ and that is not going to change. Some women are ‘in love’ with their Daddies, and their husband has very large shoes to fill.

A Momma’s boy will leave his wife Home Alone if Momma calls him. Don’t marry a Momma’s Boy unless Momma likes you better than him.

If your prospective Mother-in-Law has had broken relationships it is likely her daughter will put her female relatives first. Women brought up by women often view men as ‘the enemy’ .

Watch how your potential groom’s father treats his mother. That is how your beloved is going to treat you.

Whatever you see is what you get. Keep your eyes and ears open, and your radar on maximum.

If his father speaks in a carefully controlled voice to his mother; “Didn’t I tell you….” suggesting that as soon as you are out of the room she’s getting a beating; that is who you are marrying.

If they love and respect each other, gazing with warm eyes, then you’re marrying into a real family.

Don’t think you are brought like a lamb to the slaughter before your Intended’s family. You are coming as an ‘Inspector’ to see exactly what you are getting yourself into.

And if you don’t want to be there, leave now.