When a man brings other people into the relationship, there are changes in his behavior.
If you can catch them earlier enough to prepare yourself, and make decisions and plans you are far ahead of the woman who collapses hysterical to the ground because she never for one second thought….
One of the first signs, which is often ignored and explained away, is when a man becomes irritable. Everything bothers him. He complains about nothing, and there is nothing you can do to please him.
Many women think there is some reason behind this and he might lie; ‘work’, ‘neighbours’ ‘the car’, anything but the fact he is seeing another woman and your breathing annoys him.
In cages Lions prowl back and forth. They are trapped and know it. The man who walks back and forth as if his house is a prison and he is dying to escape has someone he wants to escape to.
He is here because of some reason other than wanting to be.
He leaves and doesn’t come back on time. Either he stays out late or out all night with some excuse. This is the red flag. Once he stays out all night, (unless he is in jail or the hospital) he was with someone.
These three basic signs, which could have ‘innocent’ explanations, don’t.
He has started an affair. He is irritable because he knows he is wrong and doing wrong and wants to do wrong. He feels trapped because he doesn’t want to be here with you but elsewhere with some one else.
He stays out late or all night because the balance between you and her has tipped in her favour.
Before you say anything, before you provoke a confrontation, make sure you have as much money in your name as possible.
If you have a joint account, clean it out and open an account in your name. Speak to a lawyer about property.
A very famous entertainer was unfaithful. His wife consulted a divorce lawyer.
The lawyer told her; “This year he made Five Million, Next year he’ll make Ten, divorce him then…”
and helped her to get the bulk of his estate in her name and that of his children by her; (tax benefits).
She went on and on, buying property in her name, getting her life strong, saying nothing to him about the other women.
When he died, she got 50% of his estate as the Wife, the girlfriends got 0 and as she had charted all his children, (he had 23) each shared in 25% .
This ability to withstand, to comprehend, to remain silent, to avoid confrontation left her respected and very rich.
The woman who makes the scene, who leaves the man or throws him out may wind up with nothing for very little.
Better not to catch him until one is financially and emotionally stable.
In some cases, where the wife goes on with her life ignoring his affair as if she doesn’t know, the affair has ended and he’s come back as if nothing ever happened.
She, who has withstood, who has calmly and slowly retracted her love and created her own life is in no way dislocated.
Often women create ventures for the children without him. They have lots of people and places and fun things to do which he has been left out of.
The wise mother doesn’t let the straying father effect her family.
When an affair takes you by surprise you will fall into an emotional maelstrom. This will not help you.
It is better to be prepared, see the signs, take various useful paths, so that at the end of the day, when he leaves or you leave, it will not be weak and broken but capable of facing tomorrow.
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Oh I don't to worry about my hubby.
I am not pretty, I have wrinkles, I have bulging fat tummy
My hubby is always around me.
He would find ways to make me pretty in front of him
The main point is, obey whatever he says, don;'t answer back during argument, you got your hubby stay faithful to you always.
The problem is that there are people who are unable to 'bond'. They change their friends like a blouse. They just can not bond. Many times a woman will marry a man who simply can't bond. She could be beautiful, rich, charming, perfect; it doesn't matter. He does not have the capacity to bond so can not comprehend being faithful.
You have certainly got the nail on the head. These are very useful tips for two people living in the same house. It can actually work if you do things with caution. They actually say that silence is the best weapon for someone who cheats and lies all along. Being quiet will keep him thinking and guessing about what your thinking. Like the place where you have said that you should not confront him until you have enough money to move on, to say the truth it may sound cruel and harsh at the same time but again it's good to also look on the bright side and act while the iron is still got. Men can lie but they cannot hide or fool women, women have this inner voice in them that can tell them something is not right somewhere, we have a very strong conscience that saves us a lot of times, so men ought to be cateful when when they do certain things.
The fact is, one has to imagine that this could happen and prepare themselves. If it happens they know what to do.