Appearance is Everything

He was beautiful, perfectly proportioned.   He was nineteen years old, and dazzled the eye.

Women looked at him as he passed.  He was all that.

He married and he proved not to be as beautiful inside as he was out.  His wife left him a few years later.

That was a long time ago.

Running into him recently,  was over weight, his once beautiful face was puffy, and his eyes sort of lazy lidded. He was so unattractive.     He was the type of person one glances at then pulls their eyes away.

His ex-wife, who expected to find shards of the man she had married all those years ago (and divorced all those years ago), was stunned by this ugly stranger, who had no humour, no play in his stiff and repulsive personality.

She had, sometimes, rued, leaving him so early in the marriage, (he was not 23 when she left) felt blessed that she had gotten out before his internal ugliness transformed his physical beauty.

Although we may say we don’t marry someone because of how they appear, that is not true.

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If that man had resembled the man he was today, that woman  never would have had a cup of coffee with him, much less dated, and never get near to marriage.

Although I mention this from the female eye, it works the same with the male eye.

A man marries a beautiful woman who could be a model. He loves having her on his arm.  Loves seeing her, being with her, ignores anything unpretty because what he sees dazzles him.

After a few years of marriage she gets fat and sour.    He leaves her, because he married the model, not the person.

If he had not been captured by the ‘wrapper’, but investigated the contents,  he never would have married her.

If she appeared then as she does today, he would not have looked twice.

We may pretend we look ‘within’ but usually, it is the wrapper which catches us, and very few wrappers are around valuable contents.

The pretty wrapper may hide rotten contents, and unless we take time to go beyond it, are likely to find what was always hidden inside coming through the skin.




  • kaylar

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    • For some men, they always have this vocabulary of being pretty. Take note, it should be outside and not internally beauty. The superficial beauty is one of the reasons why men turned the world upside down. Can we blame men? Well, it is their nature to appreciate beauty.

      As for me, I don't go for external beauty. You might say, get real! If loving someone because of its external beauty, then it is considered true love. In reality, men can never be monogamy. They are never contented.

      • If a woman marries a football hero she expects to be married to a football hero. When he no longer plays, she doesn't expect to find herself married to a big fat slabber guy.

        Appearance is what attracts you or chases you.

    • These are all words meant for saying only. When it comes to practicality each gender will have their own preferences.
      Men should love nature. Otherwise, he is not considered as a man. A woman is always supposed to feel secure and safety.

      In my opinion, there are no such things like external beauty or internal beauty. Everything is decided by mutual understanding and trust.

      Talking about such abstract things is totally weird and self-deception in modern society.

      Let us think and live in the present and do not think about the past and other abstract things which have nothing to do with the present.

      • That is not true. When a person is handsome or pretty that is the first thing you notice. And if they play it just right you miss the fact that inside they are very ugly.

    • They say beauty is in the eyes of the0 beholder and that's true. When I choose to love someone there is something within them that pulled me to them. Nowadays people marry for financial gains, some will marry for genuine love. Before people get married they are always asked to meet up with a marriage counsellors, for the simple reasons just to find out how you both relate to one another. And the one question that may come up is are you friends? I was watching an interview of a couple going through marriage counselling, and it is a challenging time. It may be one hour but the teachings that come out of there are very strong. You will find the couple suddenly getting into an argument without even knowing it, they will disagree on certain things that they never thought that would disagree on and so on. Anyway so when you marry someone who looks like a model or he is a basket baller at one time just know that age normally catches up with everyone and that he or she will not be the same five or ten years ahead. They will have changed and you need to register those changes in your mind and heart so that when it happens you don't look shocked or feel offended. Embrace the fact that things change. It's very unfortunate that most of us hardly think about these things and that's why divorce rates are very high.

      • Depends on what you are inside. It comes out. The chap I spoke with was not a nice person. He had been very handsome when he was young but was not a nice man. So he got the face and body that was more honest.

        Certain people would not get jobs, marry or be treated a certain way if they weren't pretty.

    • I have seen in real life appearance is deceptive and there is great difference between appearance and reality. All people count beauty of a man as her appearance showing personality nature but the matter becomes entirely different.

      Appearance hides faults of beauty and character in the eyes of lovers and thus he is deceived by her appearance wrapping in the black veil of greed and nothing else.

      For example: the most beautiful skin on this earth is of the snakes but its nature is entirely different from his skin just like beautiful women and man skin and face beauty become very charming and attractive but their becomes deceitful and cunning.

      It is a concrete fact that appearance does not expose woman and man's inner self at any cast because it the beauty that hides all faults of character in the eyes of lovers.

      therefore always love honesty not beauty because honesty is truth and truth is beauty and nothing else on earth to know for men and women. Everybody chases beauty and money at the end he is deceived by the beauty and money because the nature of both is faithlessness since its creation.

      look at the beautiful flowers bloom and die just like beauty fades with the passage of time but truth remains the same.

    • That is very true.. the problem is.. we can't 'unsee'. A physically beautiful person attracts us and we don't see what is beneath.

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