Assigned to a barrio school as a school head somewhere in a mountainous for two years gave me a unique experience to share. As a school head, I had to take charge of 16 teachers handling grades 1 to 6 pupils with 2 relief teachers in the elementary school.
Transportation going to that place was very scarce, but there is a regular public vehicle parking at the agora market in the city proper every early in the morning, waiting for the teachers. Then by 6 in the morning, the passenger car would have to go so that it could arrive in our school before 7 in the morning. It was exact time for our flag ceremony.
For two years, since I didn’t have any service vehicle for I relied on that service. At least I had never missed my routine school supervision and administration task to my teachers.
In my second tenure of service, a teacher transferee was assigned to my school. She’s good looking, well-mannered, polite and courteous. Her family name seems related to a noted and prominent person in our community.
In my course of supervision, I sensed her that she was not at ease in her daily teaching job. I called her up in my office and had a heart-to-heart talk with her. She trusted me that she got a persistent problem with her hubby. And she told me that she had been married for 8 years with no children yet. She said that both of them were capable of bearing a child according to their family doctor. Where does the problem lie? I asked myself.
Every school days, I followed her up until we had a closed door conversation, talking something delicate which two of us only knew. Before the summer vacation set in, she told me that she’s pregnant. I was happy for her and for her obedient of obeying my parental advice to her.
My advice was so effective. Out of those long years of their continued married life, communication was their problem. She seldom talked to her husband for she was afraid that she might be beaten. Same case with her hubby. he didn’t enough time for her. He’s preoccupied in his drug session with friends. He always came home late in the evening or even early in the morning.
My advice was focused on three practical things to do making life worth living. They are as follows:
1. Never fail to pray always. (making herself susceptible to the companionship of the spirit and making her husband’s pride turns into humility)
2. Never mix work with play (Always give time for family affair. She keeps on preparing the best or favorite food of her husband. She takes care of his needs from pair of socks to toothpaste.)
3. Honor marriage as ordained by God for man and woman to be one.(She never complains. She becomes submissive to her husband who was deeply touched and came to realize his deficiency of his duties and responsibilities as husband to his wife.)
Now this teacher has been transferred to the central school. She has now three lovely children. Genuinely getting rid of one’s pride and constant communication are the key to a successful and contented married life. And I did effectively implement them to an almost-broken marriage woman in my school. Obeying my counsel, she became pregnant. I know God has all the doing for all of these.
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You are a cool friend and a good counselor too.
You can give good advices to people in need of help.
You did a good deed but your title had misleaded me.
I thought you were trying to say that you made your wife pregnant after 8 years of marriage!!
Sorry, the titles gave such a look.
@peachpurple, hehehe, me too was misled not only on the title thinking it was he making his wife pregnant for 8 years, and the intrigued while reading thinking he was the one impregnated the teacher for they had made a close door conversation hahaha, tricky story, suspense ,but nice.
You are such a good boss. Communication is the way to solve any problem as long as we really listen to each other.
I do agree with those three advices of yours. Constant communication and always be sensitive to the needs of the other makes the relationship bond stronger. And yes, praying together as a couple gets them closer together.
@Rachz, I better remain single with that kind of experience a husband had changed only after trying hard by the wife to make their marriage stand strong.It seems unfair, and I am not that type with long patience to someone stupid enough not to understand the hurt.Better split and forget.
@cely being single is not the option here because guess what one day you will forget about all the challenges and you will want to get hitched. Men are naturally not prone to showing emotions when it comes to women. And the best thing is for them to stop seeing stuff being done to remind them that they have someone in their life that they need to take care of. And patience really does pay, unlike you who says that you cannot be that patient to wait for a stupid guy like you said to come to his senses, if might be very hard for you. But you can always try to practice it while your still single so that when you finally get there you will be able to handle situations differently. We all need each other at some point in our lives
You know God used people or situations to help people or protect them from ills or evil deeds from other people. Like this story the employer came as a blessing in disguise she obviously didn't know that she would have had someone who would talk to her and change her situation for good. Prayer is powerful tool that we should never take for granted because it works. Praying for each other can save many couples from falling away from each other.
@nakitakona, Hi friend? I am so touched with your story and cannot spare my tears to fall.You know I like stories and wrote many stories. I am touched with your tender advise to your teacher. Yes, prayer is so strong and God had allowed the couple to renew and gave them golden treasure, 3 lovely children.Congrats friend.
Your story is so inspiring. We really need to offer prayers not only in good times. That includes, the difficult times too. Some people forget to be grateful to God. The reason, they think that their happiness is unlimited. It should be balance.
When I read your title I was like why would this guy be writing about his natural affairs with his wife in social media little did I know that there was something more to it then i had realized. Like the saying goes never judge a book by its cover always go through it first before you say anything. Wow I wish we had people like you all over the world. Which boss would take the time to tell to an employee aboutfamily problems back that not his business, but you did. You are truly a blessed man to have done what you did for this woman. I have also learned something from if and it's great. Humility never hurt anyone instead it has helped so many people all over the world. I hope the last always keeps in touch with you even though you are far away.
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It s a fictional title and misled the readers reading in a glance the title but the title compels the readers to read the full story how it happened for eight years.
Your mentor ship affects her and brings fruit because every labor has its sweet fruit sooner or late. Goodness reward never goes unrewarded on earth.
If you are passing along a mountain and say something aloud, you will hear your own voice again after a moment. It will echo or resound.
You will hear once again exactly the same thing which you have said. For example, if you have said aloud 'good', the echo will be 'good', but if you have uttered 'bad', you will once again hear the word, 'bad'.
Similar is the case with our actions. If a person helps his fellow beings, others will also help and honour him. Allah is also pleased with such a person, and showers many more blessings upon him. However, if a man does evil deeds and harms others, he loses all sympathizers and no one turns up to help him when he is in difficulty.
The Almighty Allah says: “Whoever does good, will see the result of his goodness, and whoever does bad, will also see the result of his wrong-doing”.