As we culminate our week-long family activities in the Church, I took the great opportunity to say once again the 3-little words I had uttered to my high school sweetheart 47 years ago. It’s the Mabolo tree had served as the only witness to that momentous event in life. It’s too private. It’s only between me and her.
As my family was about to present their special dance as a part of the culmination program, I called up my wife. At the presence of the Church members who came from different branches and units in our locality, I made it public by using the microphone. Without fanfare, I called up my wife to come closer and said to her, “I love you”. She also replied, “I love you.”
Nineteen days more to go, we will be turning 65 years old. We have a synchronous birthday. We celebrate it together. We have the same month, the date, and the year of our birthday. I have two secrets to tell I’m able to maintain our marriage for 44 years of faithful, happy married life. Well, I told the congregation that I kept on courting and courting my wife every day. It is in courting stage that I gave everything that is good. It is at that stage that I control myself to get angry, to be ready when she needed me. Added to it is a constant communication. Without communication everything is uncertain.
By and by, I made a roll call of my six children. I mentioned my eldest son, Dondon, 44, who is residing away from us. My eldest daughter, Dona, 41, married. Next is Gingging, 37, unmarried. Comes next to her is An An, 34, married. She’s working abroad. Then our youngest daughter, Gigi, 33, unmarried. And our youngest son, Toto Jun, 30, married.
It is a great challenge for my wife and me to raise those children, to give them the proper education they want, and to grow them by our good examples. My wife and I are working together for the welfare our children. As a member of the Chruch for 36 years, we’ve learned this spiritual principle. Family can be together forever. We’re patient and faithful in following the principles of the Gospel. Likewise, we keep the promises we have made after we’re baptized in the Church.
We’re not perfect for we do have some errors, mistakes made but we strive to prove our faithfulness. It seems difficult but we know it is possible. Courting and communication are the best weapons we use. They make our marriage unperturbed for we have proven it. We continue doing it whatever matters.
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My warmest congratulations for having that solid tie with your wife and family.You have a very strong relationship.The good thing is you are both educators and if parents are teachers , they are also good fathers and mothers to their children.Cheers!
@lovern, I am the only educator and my youngest son and daughter. It is indeed a tough way of life to survive for such 44 years of marriage. It is our cooperation and understanding that make us strong and immovable in a time of distress.
First and foremort I have bend my head so low in respect to a great marriage.Your announcement in church of the three important words after 44 years is another milestone. Not yet man,raising children from age zero to above 30 is not a mean achievement. No,making most of your children have their own famililies make you a super dad. Hail to the dad of the year!
What you have been really making me happy for a person whom I have known in the cyber world is apt to praise honestly. Thank you for that. I know you have a great and terrible experience when you lost a son. Am I not correct? As a dad like me, you have so much concerned for him. In your own humble way, you are also a great dad for your family.
Wow am so moved with your story of persistence and challenges. In this year's that we live in I
It's so unusual to hear that a couple have loved together for 15years and overits usually a maximum of 10 years and that's it. Am moved and encouraged that marriage a do work for those who want them to work. It takes a lot of courage and determination to go as far as you have. Let me just congratulate you on your 44 years of marriage that's a milestone. How do you keep up with the vortship part? Do you take her out on weekend nights or still but flowers how do you do it. I would like to have a heart and time to do that for my spouse and grow old together. Maybe you shed some light on the courtship part could be a big lesson for most of us am sure. Thanks for sharing your story and I wish you more loving years together.
I have a lot of things to share about our love life, our great challenges in life, and our happiness that is indescribable but for God's term is love. Everyone has their own way of making their life as it should be, that is, for their happiness. Man is here to search for his happiness and it could only be found in God's humble way. And I have proven it and have found it.
What else can be more happier than being in love always to the person we always be with. 44 years are already golden to me, that will never doubt the pure love in the hearts.
I know, sometimes, the rocky road is within you but what is important is how you walk through to that path of your marriage life and you have proven how love can conquer all the trials and problems in your marriage. Many families should envy your marriage, but more than that, we should follow your footsteps.
You are right there were "rocky roads" in our first to two years of marriage. We had said to ourselves that we couldn't mend it anymore. Our family would seem to be broken due to personal reasons and pride. But we all trust the Lord and He provides what we need and most of all, we learned how to be forgiving and how to accept our own faults and strengthen them.
I am, of course, happy to know that you are going to follow our footsteps. Our only secret is communication among ourselves, communication to our Heavenly Father. If you could do it, I am sure you will reach the happiness what we have had today.
Yes, you say right that marriage is the second name of mutual understanding between husband and wife. Marriage is also called the of soul compromise. There are many benefits of marriage first you find a life partner for talking day and night. I say woman is a talking bird on earth who sings for husband and children for whole day.
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Continue (or perhaps revive) the courtesies of courtship in your married life. Successful marriages do not just happen they must be developed. Don't take each other for granted, or the monotony that results will destroy your marriage.
Keep love growing by expressing love for one another or it will die, and you will drift apart. Love and happiness are not found by seeking them for yourself, but rather by giving them to others. So spend as much time as possible doing things together if you would get along well. Learn to greet each other with enthusiasm. Relax, visit, shop, sightsee, eat together. Don't overlook the little courtesies, encouragements, and affectionate acts.
Surprise each other with little gifts or favors. Try to "outlove" each other. Don't take more out of marriage than you put into it. Divorce itself is not the greatest destroyer of marriage, but rather, lack of love. Given a chance, love always wins.