I an very strict when it comes to behaviour like telling lies, using bad words, pushing, pulling or fighting and being disrespectful in general but I am very happy to say Alhamdulillah that all 4 of my children are very well behaved in general.

They are not angels nor do I expect them to be but no one in my house uses four letter words or is…[Read more]

I get along quite well with my parents in laws, especially my mom in law. We do not stay together, and we usually go back to our home town and visit them every two months.

I guess it’s because we respect each other, and she knows me quite well. She knows I am a stubborn person, especially when it comes to parenting or about my children, I will…[Read more]

My in-laws are sadly no longer with us. They died within months of one another, roughly four years ago now. I loved them dearly, and considered them my friends. My father-in-law was an old hippy with a mane of red hair, and a beard and personality to match. He was one of the sweetest and most loving men you could ever meet, but he loved to…[Read more]

Believe it or not, I am actually on my third and FINAL set of in-laws! LOL The first set were only good to me if I did what they wanted all the time. They have not seen my son (their grandson) in over 20 years and it was not because I did not try to encourage it. They simply had no interest in him when they found out I was not going to raise him…[Read more]

I do not hate or dislike my parents as well, in fact, I really love them and think I am very blessed to have parents like them. I do not blame them, though we might have different thoughts in parenting. They didn’t learn how to be parents, and back in those days, they were busy to earn money and also trying hard to raise us. It’s not easy in those…[Read more]

My mother did spank us, but it was not very often. Spanking was the way that children were disciplined back then. My father never had to because we were daddy’s girls so we did not want to disappoint him or get him mad at us for any reason.  I did not feel hate towards my parents for them spanking me nor did I feel distant from them. I was taught…[Read more]

My dad never spank me, but my mom did beat us with something, and I don’t even remember what that was, but I remember it was not a cane, not a stick, as she didn’t really mean to hurt us or make us painful. But, the problem is I don’t even remember why she beat me. So, did spanking or beating really discipline the child? I really doubt so.

Some…[Read more]

Some sorts of discipline are needed to teach the children, and spanking is old! Though I don’t totally or completely think it is so bad if the spanking is not in a physical abuse form. A light tap on the bottom usually does it well enough to bring the child back from his tantrum.

Sent them to their room or corner should be sufficient enough for…[Read more]

@slayer08/

you are right!

When I was young, my bro and I were repeatedly spanked by my mom with one or 2 canes.

She bought the canes from the night market, tie them up together to make the cane thicker.

She caned us whenever we are picky on food, didn’t do homework, didn’t listen to her, etc.

She don’t use verbal advice because her mom never…[Read more]

@swalia/

wow, that was a good trick!

Using the person’s name in your first reply worked out well.

You know, my son isn’t clever at this type of trick.

When dad asked him whom he liked best, he said MOMMY, look at disappointed daddy face !

He put me in first place, I know that, he is much closer to me.

My teenager on the other hand is much…[Read more]

@swalia/

thanks for , your share.

Being the only child it is difficult to say who you are closer too.

Both parents are good to you, because you are the apple of the eye.

By means, you are right, saying papa and mama is the best answer.

They won’t feel unfair and judgmental.

Good answer my friend.

@morgoodie/
thanks for sharing with us.

I guessed that different teens in different part of the world behaves differently.

But you are right, feeing like an alien with parents is one reason.

That makes the parents feel distant with the teen.

Hence, it is up to parents to try to enhance the teen -parent bonding.

At least you had basement.…[Read more]

@kaka135/

thanks for your share. Yes we do have a spare key to her room. But we never use it because she does open the door when we knocked it louder.

She can’t hear with the ear plug in her ears.

Otherwise, she would be sleeping but awakens easily with the slightest knock.

If I am not wrong , she learned to lock herself in the room when…[Read more]

I think it’s really not easy to be a parent to a teenaged child. I always think it’s challenging.

Frankly speaking, I totally did not remember, but my younger sister told me I always locked myself in the room when I was in high school. I shared the room with my younger sister, and as I was staying in the hostel during high school, she didn’t get…[Read more]

When I was a teenager, I used to shut myself in my bedroom or down in the basement all of the time. I was basically a loner and I liked to be alone. I think as a teenager you are trying to distance yourself from your parents because you are trying to create a sense of independence and can only be that way when you are away from everyone. Teens do…[Read more]

@grecy095/

you got a point there sis.

It is easier to say than to be done.

My hubby and I tried talking to our teenager.

Asking her why she had to lock herself in the room.

She said she needed privacy and hated when someone just barge into her room without knocking the door. My son does that daily. Already told him not to do that because…[Read more]