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    kaylar wrote a new post, Teaching Your Children To Be Independent 7 years, 8 months ago

    For most parents, the idea that their children don’t ‘need’ them is almost as horrifying as bereavement. Parents seems to want the kids to ask them what they should do, depend on them to make the world pretty, and […]

    • I simply hate all those so called infants who don’t have the ability to take their decision on their own. Your parents should be your guide who shall refrain you from doing anything wring but depending on them for each and everything is completely unacceptable.

      Such people can never ever live a happy married life. This is a hard fact and if parents don’t realize this and try to make there kids independent then they are really ruining the life of their children.

      It is a reality of life that each and every child has his own life and will have to manage it on his own as well. This is really important for everyone to understand.

      It is the choice of parents whether they want to raise dependent kids or successful kids.

    • Fortunately, I was able to raise our child well. At her grade one in elementary I initially taught her on her homeworks. Then I would review her for her tests.

      However at the middle of the school year, she told me that she can manage already and would just ask me for help whenever she can’t understand her homework. But since then, she never asked me again to assist her on her homeworks. She was one of the top 5 in grade one.

      Comes, grade 2 she was the top 2 and she graduated valedictorian in elementary. At high school, she was a scholar at a Philippine Science High School. So with when she was at University of the Philippines. She graduated cumlaude.

      Because she’s a cumlaude, she passed for a scholarship at a posh hospital’s school and graduated in Medicine as top 3.

      Now, she’s a doctor. 🙂

      What is a bit disappointing though, is I feel that I wasn’t much needed by her in terms of her studies. Though, she raves fro my cooking and would request for them whenever she’s at home for vacations.

      • The point is to teach a child how to learn, and step back and let them. Once you gave her the basics, she’s supposed to be able to manage. It is like teaching her to ride a bicycle. There comes a point you let go. And she goes on herself. So you did a very good job.

    • For me, much better if parents will teach their children at the young age to become independent. In that matter they will grow independent, wise, and can be able to decide for themselves unlike most children who become dependent on their parents in every aspect of their live without having the courage to with their own two feet. Truly, family is the best foundation to teach their children all the necessary values thet should know to become a better person in the near future.

      • Exactly. Too many parents smother a child, don’t let them exercise their judgment, and constantly try to make their lives too easy. They don’t develop the skills to be independent.

    • It is a big error for parents to always treat their children as kids even when they had grown up. They should allow them to be independent, to learn and lead a life of their own.

      Parents can only give some advice if their children seek it; they can just guide their children to the right path of maturity.

      • One has to start young, raise them to feel they can make their own decisions, then, when they are adults, they are capable of doing this and parents can be so proud.

    • True I have observed many such cases here too. One of the reasons for that is the parents indulging in ‘Helicopter Parenting’. They do not allow children to take decisions and own them up whatever the consequences. They say why are you doing these works we are there for you. Why do you have to go to the shop we will buy what you want for you. Why do you worry about money just ask what you like we will buy it for you. So on and so forth.

      This same trend continues unfortunately even after marriage and it will lead to a mess as the children are still having the same mentality of the child and have not grownup. They have not been enabled by their parents. The parents on the other hand feel they have given the best to their children and have taken 100 percent care of this. While they have basically made them incapable, dependent and dysfunctional. A good topic well highlighted.

    • During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger – it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers need to learn to make good decisions on their own.

      The process of helping children take responsibility and make decisions is a key task for parents. You have an important role to play in training and supporting your child to be ready for more responsibility. This means you need to plan when and in what areas to let your child start making decisions.

      How quickly you hand over responsibility to your teenager is up to you. It depends on many factors, including your own comfort level, your family and cultural traditions, and your child’s maturity.

    • Independence starts developing when you choose to stop actively controlling your child’s life. Instead, you give your child more autonomy and responsibility for her actions in some areas. You might not like all her choices or the results, but learning to be independent and responsible helps your child develop skills for life.

      When you’re trying to decide whether to give your child more responsibility for a decision, you have three options – yes, no and maybe.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Don’t Get Stressed Over What You Don’t Know 7 years, 8 months ago

    Let me put it succinctly, there are many things you think you know, but you don’t.  If you were honest with yourself, if you weren’t so quick to believe what is said or posted by Whoever, you might cut your […]

    • You are right; people should not just believe hearsays as if it is the truth, and then they will be affected or stressed by it. It is better if they hear or experience it on their own.

      • If people would relax, listen, comprehend, they wouldn’t panic over things and be able to slowly deal with any kind of challenge. But getting worked up about something that may not even be real is the problem.

    • yes, right

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    Krishna Kumar replied to the topic Cheating In Exams By Students A Bane For Human Excellence in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    Thanks for sharing the information. Even I am trying to tell the same thing do not put pressure on children to score marks or grades as they alone are not the be all and end all of life but the same time it is not right on ones part to ask somebody else to do his work for him when he is supposed to do the course. If someone has chosen a course it…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar started the topic How We Can Motivate And Challenge Ourselves In Different Ways in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    Life is a like a road on which we are on a journey and  which is filled with puddles, patches and at other places the road of life is smooth. It is for us to see the smoother surface and see that we have a smooth drive in life by avoiding the rough patches which we are going to encounter at different times in our lives. We can be successful in…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar started the topic Cheating In Exams By Students A Bane For Human Excellence in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    Life for all humans has become very complex since the time of birth. Fortunately or unfortunately it is a mad rush for that elusive success which is in very less quantity but the number of people aspiring to reach the number one spot or the pinnacle of glory many. Since childhood in many countries especially developing countries children are…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar replied to the topic Quotes: Ten Quotable Quotes in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    Quotes are a interesting read whenever one reads one of reads what is read again to understand the meaning of the and get a new perspective of the same. Here from the above list which I went through again today quotes number 6,  7, 9 are the best I liked today. It gives life a new meaning  at the way one looks and perceives things. One more i…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar replied to the topic Religion – Hinduism – About Puri Jagannath Temple – Odisha in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    Odisha is above the state on the eastern side of India. It was known in history as Kalingadesa. One more interesting thing in the state of Odisha is the Chandraghanta river which has dried up. It was a huge river which got dried up over a period of time. The  mouth and source of flow of the river was discovered by the archaeologists last year.…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar replied to the topic Religion: Hinduism – The Fate Of Cows & Cattle In India At The Hands Of Traders in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    Thanks for your inputs and participation. Slaughtering for consumption or any purpose by humans is wrong. If the same treatment were to be meted out to humans. And people were slaughtered, butchered and sold as meat would humans like it? It is very easy for us to sit talk when we are safe but if we also face the same fate then things will be…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar replied to the topic Emergencies: What Should We Do in the forum Group logo of Knowledge Is Power Use It WiselyKnowledge Is Power Use It Wisely 7 years, 8 months ago

    I am revisiting the article and adding a new incident where an accident took place in a home which I thought would be of use to readers to read and be careful about. There was a house where leakage from a cooking gas cylinder was taking place. The homemaker who had been out had come and felt the smell when she opened the door of her house. She…[Read more]

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    Krishna Kumar replied to the topic SHORT POSTS/ LONG POSTS in the forum Group logo of About LiteracyBaseAbout LiteracyBase 7 years, 8 months ago

    In the comments if I  post comments which also add value to the article already posted if the comment is around 300 words one gets 10 points. I think this one point is once cent.  If it is around above  700 to 1000 words it gets around 20 points if it is above 1300 to 1500 and above it fetches one around 30 points. If you post a an article with te…[Read more]

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    Dina replied to the topic SHORT POSTS/ LONG POSTS in the forum Group logo of About LiteracyBaseAbout LiteracyBase 7 years, 8 months ago

    Well, if you have lots to discuss it would be nicer you make the long posts.

    Though, thinking about a shorter post is much easier.

    Bu whatever way, they both earn. Though, I still don’t get fulfillment when my long post doesn’t get any comment at all. Comments are what makes our posts fulfilling. It means somebody took the time to read it…[Read more]

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    Dina wrote a new post, How To Deal With The Most Common Illness in the World Called “Colds” 7 years, 8 months ago

    Actually, I am proud to say that at my age , 57 year old, I hardly get colds. For the past two years I haven’t gotten colds.

    Last December until January , since the weather has gone from being so hot to b […]

    • Useful information for people suffering from colds. In my case I generally get some cold during change of temperature. Once I had cold for more than four months as there was a viral. It did not stop even after medicines and the doctor advised. It is better to eat normal food and live your life as you live rather than taking medicines as nothing works. I have also stopped taking cold drinks, water from refrigerator, ice creams etc.

      I get colds generally when the temperature is varying around plus or minus 10 degrees Celsius suddenly due to changing weather pattern, I also have nasal problem a bit of sinus which add to it. Breathing polluted air, dust particles, pollen’s of parthenium and some other plants also result in colds and coughs. Thanks for the share

      • @Krishna Kumar

        Really, you had colds for four months! That would be hard. A colds can always bring you a headache.

        My daughter said that having colds cannot be because you always drink cold water. ACtually for me, I love cold drinks. Maybe you will really get colds when you are not used to drinking cold drinks then suddely you drink one.

        Sometimes too, you first have to normalize your body like when you came from the outside where it was too hot, you should stabilize your temperature first before you drink the cold water.

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    Tiada wrote a new post, Few ways to sterilize your little one’s milk bottles 7 years, 8 months ago

    Milk bottles and accessories are some important thing to the little one if he/she is like to having milk via bottles.
    The milk bottle will accumulate mold or stains easily if just wash and leave it there without […]

    • we are talking about babies not only kids, so until today the best way to clena the babies feedng tools are by sterleizing them by steam, its the safest way after its been washe dwith soup and water, other ways such as detergent will in most cases leat to allergy among these kido and for sure between those of new born from age zero to 5 months as they are sill getting adapt to the new life and earth and lots of things, so do the steam claning after cleaning them from foods

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    Dina replied to the topic I just drop by before leaving home for work to submit a blog in the forum Group logo of Thinkers GroupThinkers Group 7 years, 8 months ago

    That’s how we are. Though we have our full time job, while on our way to work we try to formulate in our mind what are the posts we have to make, its title and how to expand it.

    Sometimes, I would just jot it down on my cellphone and when I arrive home I expand it.

    Along the way also, we look around for anything that we can make as topics to…[Read more]

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