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    kaylar wrote a new post, Younger Woman; Stupid Older Man 7 years, 8 months ago

    There are many men who are captured by much younger women.  For some reason these men don’t own mirrors, but have fat bank accounts.

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    I said at the dinner, speaking to Ken but Jim was beside him; “The only […]

    • Mostly of those that I have heard of about men marrying very much younger than them has the same story.

      The young woman would shop no end at the expense of the old man. The old man cannot refuse the wife because he knows it’s all that can make the woman happy.

      Sad that men would be in such a situation.

      Oftentimes when they die the wife will again remarry, this time a man of her age.

      That’s the sad reality of older but rich men, they are just wanted for their wealth. And oftentimes, not only will he provide for the wife but for the whole family of the woman.

    • I’ve know older men who see younger women. They think it makes them look Cool and they in there silly heads feel younger at heart. So silly that younger woman is only using you for ur wallet. So u spend spend to keep her chasing after u but trust once ur money is gone she will be off to her next idiot. Tried to explain this to a couple men and of course they find listen.

    • It is a common scenario, and one would think if the young woman was deeply in love with the oldie, but maybe in his deep pocket only!

      • It is very hard. Firstly, the person is the age of your father. Unless you have ‘daddy complex’ it feels wierd. Second, what do you talk about? Take a man of fifty… he can sit and discuss incidents that happened forty years ago which impacted his life. She wasn’t alive, she doesn’t know… So talk about what?

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    kaylar wrote a new post, The New Definition of Popularist 7 years, 8 months ago

    The word doesn’t sound scary or evil.  Popularist;  sounds like a person or group which wants to be popular or holds the most popular opinions.

    If I were to ask random people, what the words popularist or p […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Teaching Your Children To Be Independent 7 years, 8 months ago

    For most parents, the idea that their children don’t ‘need’ them is almost as horrifying as bereavement. Parents seems to want the kids to ask them what they should do, depend on them to make the world pretty, and […]

    • I simply hate all those so called infants who don’t have the ability to take their decision on their own. Your parents should be your guide who shall refrain you from doing anything wring but depending on them for each and everything is completely unacceptable.

      Such people can never ever live a happy married life. This is a hard fact and if parents don’t realize this and try to make there kids independent then they are really ruining the life of their children.

      It is a reality of life that each and every child has his own life and will have to manage it on his own as well. This is really important for everyone to understand.

      It is the choice of parents whether they want to raise dependent kids or successful kids.

    • Fortunately, I was able to raise our child well. At her grade one in elementary I initially taught her on her homeworks. Then I would review her for her tests.

      However at the middle of the school year, she told me that she can manage already and would just ask me for help whenever she can’t understand her homework. But since then, she never asked me again to assist her on her homeworks. She was one of the top 5 in grade one.

      Comes, grade 2 she was the top 2 and she graduated valedictorian in elementary. At high school, she was a scholar at a Philippine Science High School. So with when she was at University of the Philippines. She graduated cumlaude.

      Because she’s a cumlaude, she passed for a scholarship at a posh hospital’s school and graduated in Medicine as top 3.

      Now, she’s a doctor. 🙂

      What is a bit disappointing though, is I feel that I wasn’t much needed by her in terms of her studies. Though, she raves fro my cooking and would request for them whenever she’s at home for vacations.

      • The point is to teach a child how to learn, and step back and let them. Once you gave her the basics, she’s supposed to be able to manage. It is like teaching her to ride a bicycle. There comes a point you let go. And she goes on herself. So you did a very good job.

    • For me, much better if parents will teach their children at the young age to become independent. In that matter they will grow independent, wise, and can be able to decide for themselves unlike most children who become dependent on their parents in every aspect of their live without having the courage to with their own two feet. Truly, family is the best foundation to teach their children all the necessary values thet should know to become a better person in the near future.

      • Exactly. Too many parents smother a child, don’t let them exercise their judgment, and constantly try to make their lives too easy. They don’t develop the skills to be independent.

    • It is a big error for parents to always treat their children as kids even when they had grown up. They should allow them to be independent, to learn and lead a life of their own.

      Parents can only give some advice if their children seek it; they can just guide their children to the right path of maturity.

      • One has to start young, raise them to feel they can make their own decisions, then, when they are adults, they are capable of doing this and parents can be so proud.

    • True I have observed many such cases here too. One of the reasons for that is the parents indulging in ‘Helicopter Parenting’. They do not allow children to take decisions and own them up whatever the consequences. They say why are you doing these works we are there for you. Why do you have to go to the shop we will buy what you want for you. Why do you worry about money just ask what you like we will buy it for you. So on and so forth.

      This same trend continues unfortunately even after marriage and it will lead to a mess as the children are still having the same mentality of the child and have not grownup. They have not been enabled by their parents. The parents on the other hand feel they have given the best to their children and have taken 100 percent care of this. While they have basically made them incapable, dependent and dysfunctional. A good topic well highlighted.

    • During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger – it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers need to learn to make good decisions on their own.

      The process of helping children take responsibility and make decisions is a key task for parents. You have an important role to play in training and supporting your child to be ready for more responsibility. This means you need to plan when and in what areas to let your child start making decisions.

      How quickly you hand over responsibility to your teenager is up to you. It depends on many factors, including your own comfort level, your family and cultural traditions, and your child’s maturity.

    • Independence starts developing when you choose to stop actively controlling your child’s life. Instead, you give your child more autonomy and responsibility for her actions in some areas. You might not like all her choices or the results, but learning to be independent and responsible helps your child develop skills for life.

      When you’re trying to decide whether to give your child more responsibility for a decision, you have three options – yes, no and maybe.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Don’t Get Stressed Over What You Don’t Know 7 years, 8 months ago

    Let me put it succinctly, there are many things you think you know, but you don’t.  If you were honest with yourself, if you weren’t so quick to believe what is said or posted by Whoever, you might cut your […]

    • You are right; people should not just believe hearsays as if it is the truth, and then they will be affected or stressed by it. It is better if they hear or experience it on their own.

      • If people would relax, listen, comprehend, they wouldn’t panic over things and be able to slowly deal with any kind of challenge. But getting worked up about something that may not even be real is the problem.

    • yes, right

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Casting Their Own Prejudices On You 7 years, 8 months ago

    Sometimes, if you pay attention, you can find someone’s ‘Achilles Heel’.   That is their weakness.  It isn’t that you go out on a safari, it is that they will fling words at you which are ‘ […]

    • You have no chance of winning over an angry person. Yes, just let him say his peace and just be calm.

      That’s actually how we are when we are angry, we are ready to attack with our mouth and sometimes with our fists. But once we have unleash it we realize what we have done, but too late to repair the damage that was done.

      Though, in what you call the rabid Anti-Putin, it is best to just keep your silence on the subject.

      I learn that politics and religion are two of the most sensitive topics actually.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Relationship Problems Between Parents and Children 7 years, 8 months ago

    There is nothing odd about Parents and children having difficulties.  The relationship between them can get tangled like electrical wires.

    Arguments, anger, periods of silence, these are not strange.   They h […]

    • You are very lucky. There are many situations where the parents are estranged with the children, and just can’t get back together.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Who Has Ownership of Your Brain? 7 years, 8 months ago

    The title is a question I intend to ask of particular friends of mine.   All three have gone abroad, and within a few years, they have turned ‘rabid’.

    The First had gone to the United States where he has turned […]

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Why You Keep An Ex an Ex 7 years, 8 months ago

    It is something I say all the time, repeat all the time, and can give long lists of errors made by people who ‘take back’ someone they broke up with, or who broke up with them.

    In 99.999999% of the cases it […]

    • I agree. Especially, if you separated from your husband because he beats the wife, physically and verbally.

      There are a lot of cases here in the Philippines, where the woman separated from her husband because of that. Then, the husband would ask for another chance and the woman would go back, because of their children who wants them back together.

      Sad to say, that the man beats her again physically and verbally.

      Now, she has to file a complaint and have her husband imprisoned. That should be what is to be done for a husband who beats his wife.

      • When a woman marries an abusive man, he often so destroys her sense of herself, she second guess her actions. Because her confidence is shaken, she makes the mistake of letting him back into her life for dire consequences.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Faight and Look at the Other Guy 7 years, 8 months ago

    In America the word Faight is spelled ‘Fart’.   It means the passage of gas from your nether regions.

    When you are a little kid and don’t have much control, sometimes it just ‘happens’.   If it happens with o […]

    • Trump has always been true to his character even before he became US president. His flaws was always there to see for anyone who bothered to pay attention. For Trump it was “ME,ME,ME First!” During the presidential campaign he use “bait and switch” tactics promising the electorate things he had no intention to fulfill. Unfortunately for him the general public is getting tired of his childish antics and Trump’s credibility continues to erode. He’s like the boy who cried “wolf”.

      • He is a spoiled brat who cares for no one but his pocket. The people who voted for him still try to support him, despite his childishness, and stupidity.

    • I think, Trump has really been like that indeed since he was a child. And being rich, he doesn’t accept that he commits mistakes, but others committed it.

      It’s sad that America has chosen a president who only knows how to make some escapes for the failures he is now making in his governance of the country.

      But I hope, the people will unite and he will have a change of heart and hear what the majority wants to improve the country and work together for the good of the country.

      • No, I think those people who supported him are so stupid they will follow him off the cliff. I don’t see anything positive coming out of his presidency.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Books You Must Read – Stranger in a Strange Land 7 years, 8 months ago

    I have held back from recommended this book, Stranger in a Strange Land.  This is due to a terrible misuse of it, which has tainted it for decades.   The ‘Mansion Family’ attempted o use the book as their ‘ […]

    • This book does sound like a great read. It also sounds like a simple read. Sometimes I avoid sci-fi books because they seem complicated. Also science fiction is not my favorite book genre. I like historical romance. 🙂

      • It is a great read and isn’t that simple. There are many relationships between the people, and events. If you start it you will finish it.

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    kaylar wrote a new post, Some Thing We Learned Growing Up 7 years, 8 months ago

    When I was just a little child, I was taught not to tear down ‘my own’ in front of ‘others’.    You don’t make fun of your race, your religion, your sex, your colour, in front of those who are not your race, y […]

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