jayeoba peter
@peters active 7 years, 6 months ago-
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I simply hate all those so called infants who don’t have the ability to take their decision on their own. Your parents should be your guide who shall refrain you from doing anything wring but depending on them for each and everything is completely unacceptable.
Such people can never ever live a happy married life. This is a hard fact and if parents don’t realize this and try to make there kids independent then they are really ruining the life of their children.
It is a reality of life that each and every child has his own life and will have to manage it on his own as well. This is really important for everyone to understand.
It is the choice of parents whether they want to raise dependent kids or successful kids.
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Exactly. Parents have to raise people, not children. Independent, capable people
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Fortunately, I was able to raise our child well. At her grade one in elementary I initially taught her on her homeworks. Then I would review her for her tests.
However at the middle of the school year, she told me that she can manage already and would just ask me for help whenever she can’t understand her homework. But since then, she never asked me again to assist her on her homeworks. She was one of the top 5 in grade one.
Comes, grade 2 she was the top 2 and she graduated valedictorian in elementary. At high school, she was a scholar at a Philippine Science High School. So with when she was at University of the Philippines. She graduated cumlaude.
Because she’s a cumlaude, she passed for a scholarship at a posh hospital’s school and graduated in Medicine as top 3.
Now, she’s a doctor. 🙂
What is a bit disappointing though, is I feel that I wasn’t much needed by her in terms of her studies. Though, she raves fro my cooking and would request for them whenever she’s at home for vacations.
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The point is to teach a child how to learn, and step back and let them. Once you gave her the basics, she’s supposed to be able to manage. It is like teaching her to ride a bicycle. There comes a point you let go. And she goes on herself. So you did a very good job.
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For me, much better if parents will teach their children at the young age to become independent. In that matter they will grow independent, wise, and can be able to decide for themselves unlike most children who become dependent on their parents in every aspect of their live without having the courage to with their own two feet. Truly, family is the best foundation to teach their children all the necessary values thet should know to become a better person in the near future.
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Exactly. Too many parents smother a child, don’t let them exercise their judgment, and constantly try to make their lives too easy. They don’t develop the skills to be independent.
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It is a big error for parents to always treat their children as kids even when they had grown up. They should allow them to be independent, to learn and lead a life of their own.
Parents can only give some advice if their children seek it; they can just guide their children to the right path of maturity.
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One has to start young, raise them to feel they can make their own decisions, then, when they are adults, they are capable of doing this and parents can be so proud.
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True I have observed many such cases here too. One of the reasons for that is the parents indulging in ‘Helicopter Parenting’. They do not allow children to take decisions and own them up whatever the consequences. They say why are you doing these works we are there for you. Why do you have to go to the shop we will buy what you want for you. Why do you worry about money just ask what you like we will buy it for you. So on and so forth.
This same trend continues unfortunately even after marriage and it will lead to a mess as the children are still having the same mentality of the child and have not grownup. They have not been enabled by their parents. The parents on the other hand feel they have given the best to their children and have taken 100 percent care of this. While they have basically made them incapable, dependent and dysfunctional. A good topic well highlighted.
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During the teenage years, children’s need for responsibility and autonomy gets stronger – it’s an important part of their path to young adulthood. To become capable adults, teenagers need to learn to make good decisions on their own.
The process of helping children take responsibility and make decisions is a key task for parents. You have an important role to play in training and supporting your child to be ready for more responsibility. This means you need to plan when and in what areas to let your child start making decisions.
How quickly you hand over responsibility to your teenager is up to you. It depends on many factors, including your own comfort level, your family and cultural traditions, and your child’s maturity.
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Independence starts developing when you choose to stop actively controlling your child’s life. Instead, you give your child more autonomy and responsibility for her actions in some areas. You might not like all her choices or the results, but learning to be independent and responsible helps your child develop skills for life.
When you’re trying to decide whether to give your child more responsibility for a decision, you have three options – yes, no and maybe.
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You are right; people should not just believe hearsays as if it is the truth, and then they will be affected or stressed by it. It is better if they hear or experience it on their own.
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If people would relax, listen, comprehend, they wouldn’t panic over things and be able to slowly deal with any kind of challenge. But getting worked up about something that may not even be real is the problem.
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yes, right
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People just have to know that they don’t know…
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They don’t always work in real life but in some cases they do. People just need to dedicate their lives into doing what they like and what makes them happy. Make the best of any situation. Little by little things will come together.
Of course there are some epople that have bad luck and have no way to get theirselves on track, but sometimes people actually have a heart and help out one another to help these peoples dreams come true, even if it is having a low salary job and a roof on their head. Some people are already grateful for what they have and don’t complain about what they dont have.
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In many stituation i guess they do, as what not work for you could work for other peple
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A good article covering important aspects and relationships of life. While a family may not be always happy it may not always be sad either. While in a many cases I have seen what you have expressed in the family happy ending section to be true. But I have also seen others who are also happy. A life without a mixture of happiness, problems, bad patches, potholes, adventures, drama and climax is not a life lived fully. As they say life is a roller coaster ride. Enjoy the package.
While I completely agree with you when you say we cannot make all people happy all the time. It is practically not possible as human behavior is dynamic and changes constantly it becomes difficult to adjust to many people and see that everyone is happy at all times.
In the third case the monetary issue part which has been stated by you is very true. Unfortunately people are more interested in knowing what the other is having or how much money the other person is earning rather than being content with what life has offered him or her. They end up constantly comparing themselves with others and see something which they do not have and latch on to it. Every one has been blessed by his or her own Karma and has to go through it and face it boldly. But people always want goodies and not the tough things in life.
The last part what you have mentioned about living life in the present and taking each day as it comes is the right approach which we must try and stick to. I know it is easier said than done. But we can aspire to achieve that state of living in the present and enjoy life and be happy with ourselves rather than thinking about the past or mulling about the future. Hope the information and feedback provided is useful. Best wishes.
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do not work in real life is not right, but may not work in real life is more approprite
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It must be scary to be around these animals most specially the Black Mamba.
I am so scared of snakes that even pictures of it, i wouldn’t want to see. On Tv , i also don’t like seeing them. That’s because i will haveanightmare of them, even just seeing them on TV or pictures.
So, if ever I see a snake passing by , i will run away as fast as I can. -
It is agreeable that there are many dangerous and deadly animals in this world. Thank you for sharing this, at least it gives us reminders to be always careful in dealing with animals, especially the unknown ones.
Aside from your list, I also add Ascaris roundworm.
The Ascaris roundworm leads to an infection called ascariasis that kills an estimated 4,500 people a year, according to a 2013 study.
The WHO (world health organization) notes that the infection takes place in people’s small intestine, and it’s a disease that affects more children than adults.
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the cone snail look very dangerous to me because as innocent as it looks, it will attract children to go and play with it without knowing how poisonous they are. the only problem is there were no pictures of all the animals to help us identify them easily in our country.
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You have no chance of winning over an angry person. Yes, just let him say his peace and just be calm.
That’s actually how we are when we are angry, we are ready to attack with our mouth and sometimes with our fists. But once we have unleash it we realize what we have done, but too late to repair the damage that was done.
Though, in what you call the rabid Anti-Putin, it is best to just keep your silence on the subject.
I learn that politics and religion are two of the most sensitive topics actually.
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And when people get too emotional…it is time to run
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