Parents should know about this; especially young parents who do not know what shouting at their children can do to them. Thanks for giving this information; that it affects them emotionally even in their adult lives.

They should really be patient in explaining to their children what they wanted them to do, or for them to behave; it can be done in a nice way.

Very true. We didn’t ever shout at our daughter when she was a kid. Instead , we talk to her in a soft voice about what we would like to correct on her.

We cajole her into following our advise.

For example when we are at the mall and she wants a new dress or toy we will tell her we don’t have that in our budget. But we can just buy one on my payday.

Thus. she won’t insist anymore. From then on, when she wants something at the mall , she would ask “Do you have money, mother. I like that one but if you don’t have the money, we will buy it next time when you have your payday again” .

She grew up to be a smart and thrifty girl. 🙂

A issue which many parents are trying to find out how to cope with this issue. From my experience I have observed is that children are very intelligent and they are able to make out clearly what can get the work done for them. They understand things whom they can trouble and make them run around and who they cannot fool around with. The best answer is one should not shout at them but at the same time be stern in their tone children understand the tone better. Later once they fall in life they also have to be counselled what they are supposed and what is expected of them and why.

If they feel convinced that the rational being put before them by their parents is logical they will most probably understand what is being told and fall in line. It should be a nice mix of different tactics which will make them understand things and most importantly if they feel it is for their good and are convinced they will fall in line and understand. Thanks for raising an important issue which many parents are struggling to figure out and many are confused.

Well, where I come from shouting is the order of the day, but in the end it hardly yields result. Going by this article, it’s like beating a child constantly to change the child, but its the reverse, the child gets used to the beating. I have learnt to control my anger these days, because shouting just gets it done at the moment, but not permanently.

Kids hated to be shouted at, they find mom annoying, nagging and bothersome.
Ends up not listening and lots of argument follows.

I believe it’s not an easy thing to raise a child but yelling and shouting all the time, it won’t help too much. I think it’s better to try and explain things to a child than to yell all the time and stress kids out. But sometimes when it gets overwhelming I think you almost can’t help but shout at kids.