vanessa jongma
@nyasa active 8 years, 1 month ago-
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If a man doesn’t want to have any more children with the wife then he could always get a vasectomy. Why do men always rely on women to get some type of birth control? It is not just the woman’s fault when and if she does get pregnant. If she does get pregnant why would anyone want to kill an innocent child? If the man or woman refuses to protect themselves then they should simply stop having sex. I am really sick and tired of men, in general, putting the blame on women when they end up pregnant.
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If both do not want to have children and want to enjoy then they can use many methods available in the market. If she wants sex, does not want children they can come to an understanding. If she wants sex, children, but not husband nobody can say objection. If she develops a mentality why somebody should dictate her terms there is no meaning. She can open a shop in the market.
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In response to your comment, don’t you think the man would have been more carefull if he knew the woman had plans and wasnt taking the precautions given to her by the doctor? Do you think it pleases the man knowing that the woman doesn’t have remorse for her deliberate act? Especially after accounting doing same for the last child by say after 3 months? She should have seen how good the man reacted in the last child for her not to make it agin as a trap for him. I know this story clearly because the drama is still on and it’s happening ro someone very close to me. The only reason the man hasn’t moved out is the love for the 2 kids, he doesn’t want to miss them but he said he will continue to be the father of the kids but not a husband because of the woman’s dishonesty and he doesnt know her next plan.
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Okay there is no saying that the woman was right or wrong, but i can say this if this woman did what she did knowingly then that was very wrong. Its like she was doing it to purnish her husband for some reason, which is the worst way to go. Because of her bad decision the husband has decided to leave her and go on without her, so does that make her life better or good? Of course not she is just going to be more depressed. Sometimes it’s good to look at your decisions closely and weigh youroptions to avoid making mistakes that will cost you big time. But sometimes the contraceptives that women take do fail so we can’t really put theblame entirely on the woman a man also needs to take caution on his side as well to avoid any kind of unwanted circumstances. We can’t really tell what exactly transpired it could have been a mistake or maybe just malice, but all the same, that should not be reason enough for the husband to move out of the home. Even thoughhemay not be working they can somehow come together and try to work out something for their survival.otherwise moving out is not a good option. And then if course they need to talk this matter over to come to an agreement on whether they want another child or not.
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@Anitah… Thanks.. The man decided to move out because the woman doesn’t feel sorry for her dishonesty, she could do it again or sometime worst. The woman said to the man i agreed before so we don’t have to aegue, she was only waiting for it to happen and see what the man will do, which is bad. The woman futher went on to say that for the last child, she knew she was pregnant but decided to hide it for 3 months before saying it. If the man knew she wasn’t using the contraceptives, i think he would havw been more carefull. Friends and family continue to plead on her behave but she makes troubles and fights with the man. What option does the man have?
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I think the woman is at fault. There is no point going against the will of the husband especially when both parties have agreed to the terms at the initial stage. I see that as betrayal on the part of wife. However,as much as the wife has her fault it doesn’t justify the decision of the husband for not wanting children for fear of poverty, because God is the master provider for all. This is the way I view it.
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@Ibrahim… Thanks so much for your comment, this situation i know very well and you have judged correctly. But i see it dubious for a woman to agree that did it purposely. If the woman was taking the precautions given by the doctor it would have been ok if it happened so, but she has hidden them and the husband was confident. You know it’s not because they are poor but the man was stopped from his job because they have asked to quit the country, too much uncertainty at the time the woman choose to hit. The man saw it as wickness and evil because he becomes more depressed of the fact that he is running around to relegalize their stay and the wife bretrayed him and openly said i did purposely and i did same for the last child by telling you 3 months later.
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@Shavkt… Sure you are right, family planing done and agreed and then from no where there is betrayal? If one can betray with life, that same person can do worst.
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