This blog touches the different aspects of human relationships especially those of family relationships. These relationships have been made too complex by people of today’s time and age. The sooner they reduce this complexity the better it is for the people. There has always to be a give and take in a relationship if it is one sided then it means it is heading for trouble. This is better avoided by all parties concerned. For the sake of the relationship. Whether it be a boyfriend girlfriend relationship of the one between the husband and wife. Thanks for the share. Good to see you back to writing blogs.
I pity your teacher friend. Her mother is quite selfish for not allowing her to enjoy her own life and career. Her mom could afford a caregiver, but she insisted on having her (daughter) by her side. She would be so lonely if her mother dies, leaving her alone.
But it could have a blessing in disguise because it is said that caring for a sick or old mother/parents will be rewarded in the future. It is good karma! Who knows, someday she can also meet someone whom will be with her for a lifetime.
Or it could be blessing in disguise because if she married now and met a wife-batterer husband, she would regret it, and think that she should had listened to her mother!
There is no such thing as loving in spite of being a “punching bag” of a husband! That is not love but being a martyr! (or false love!).
Thank you friend for you very nice thoughts on this blogs, yes you are right, each one must evaluate the gravity of the cause to avoid sufferings, and endless unhappiness. I am back to write for pleasure .
love is happiness, how cana separate them, they are one, love is situatons tha make o u ahppy, love is meaning full life togeether that make you happy, love is school of hapinness, love is work toegether to be happy, love is support each other which make humans happy, so how can love be soething elss than happiness, no way, for sure no way, love is the world the maily the friens the husband and wife the friends and kids and enighbors , its God love the suport you i all times
Love is the only reason why we endure and why we still have the strength to carry on. Love is so powerful that everyday we ignore the pains we hold and keep because we are afraid our love will not be happy if see us in bitter days.Though not anymore happy but love is the binding block to make the whole part of the family intact.
If we give a serious thought to it we can arrive at a conclusion that there are no such things like ‘love’, ‘hate’,’affection’, ‘hatred’ etc., Everything is situational dependent. You can never have a perfect love from anybody and also for anybody. Once you realize that no one will be with you forever it goes towards ‘MAYA’. This is not the topic for present discussion.
I really pity the teacher. Her mother is selfish because there is no one to lean on except the daughter who is earning. If the daughter is married she can not take responsibility and take care of her children. This is one aspect. If she has not allowed her daughter to marry or to have a bf only for losing financial support then we have to think that this has become quite common nowadays. But, this is very cruel which has relegates to corner all the human values.
This is prevailing more in Brahmin families nowadays who are treated with great respect and honor for their knowledge. They do not care to earn money for their children without realizing the fact that money has got some value in the present day society.This is due to their ignorance.
But, there are some rich and wealthy families. The situation mentioned in the blog is prevailing in financially well-off families also. The sons do not take care of their parents and move out of their house in search of their own job, get married and stay somewhere. The daughters who are married have to take care of the parents. In such situation, the parents stoop down to such a mean level of getting her married daughter divorced and keep her along with them. They create some misunderstand or the other between husband and wife and see that the marriage relationship is broken. What should we call this? This I have noticed personally.
Everybody has to devote some time for one’s own happiness and personal comforts. Even a person having a good family should devote or allow some time for his personal happiness which can be experienced by him only as per his desires and wants. It does not mean that he should become an addict to it and neglect his family. He should also allow other members to spend some part of their time for their personal happiness.
@Ruby, That is a very nice question if we both are happy in the road we chose to traverse, for me yes, of course for I love my family and each of us at home got a nice job. We have our teamwork. But there are others I knew having a problematic marriage and because of their children the wife remains a martyr.My female friend and neighbor for example has a younger sister living with them she is grade 7,but one day her husband attempted to molest her sister. I told her to blotter it to police her answer was her husband pledged never to do it again and he can never do it. I asked her why she cannot leave her husband, her answer was, no one to feed them she and their 2 year old baby girl. That husband might have a karma someday. Her husband was sued in DSWD and he pledged there never to harm her young sister in law, what a shit guy.This is it now the example living in pain and need and love despite not anymore happy at all in their marriage.
@Krishna Kumar , Thank you friend for your very much appreciated share of this blog, you are right. Let us hope that no one suffers a burden own by others. The feeling is so bad if hard to escape the place that gives and brings so much pain and struggles. It is not easy to cross and surpass all kinds of struggles; after all…Love.
@sivasubrahmanyam shatdarsanam , Thank you so much for sharing synonymous experience to my teacher friend.Her siblings 3 of them work as nurses in United States and keep on sending money to them, plus her mom has her own pension and pension she receives monthly from her deceased military official husband. They are not poor by the way, they just do not understand circumstances once the mother leaves her daughter forever.I do not like that kind of life, so unfair; yet because of love, she could remain with her mom despite not happy at all.
look, god created us to choose which way or path that we must follow and sometimes we choose whats right whether its family, friends, or enemies. We choose the next best thing which is the right thing. You have to be happy in order to seek love as well. For us females we will choose if we are happy in a relationship before we even think about taking it a step further but we to also make sure that our family is ok with us being in this relationship. Maybe she choose what was or what she felt that was best for her.
@Latisha Perkins, at least you have your own interpretation of the quote of this famous writer. There are many people experiencing this kind of life, just to show sign of gratitude and for the sake of God to persevere the struggles in life because of love despite no happiness at all. Sometimes you just close your eyes and cry to mean too uch to bear that kind of life. Love is indeed the reason why persevere.
This blog touches the different aspects of human relationships especially those of family relationships. These relationships have been made too complex by people of today’s time and age. The sooner they reduce this complexity the better it is for the people. There has always to be a give and take in a relationship if it is one sided then it means it is heading for trouble. This is better avoided by all parties concerned. For the sake of the relationship. Whether it be a boyfriend girlfriend relationship of the one between the husband and wife. Thanks for the share. Good to see you back to writing blogs.
I pity your teacher friend. Her mother is quite selfish for not allowing her to enjoy her own life and career. Her mom could afford a caregiver, but she insisted on having her (daughter) by her side. She would be so lonely if her mother dies, leaving her alone.
But it could have a blessing in disguise because it is said that caring for a sick or old mother/parents will be rewarded in the future. It is good karma! Who knows, someday she can also meet someone whom will be with her for a lifetime.
Or it could be blessing in disguise because if she married now and met a wife-batterer husband, she would regret it, and think that she should had listened to her mother!
There is no such thing as loving in spite of being a “punching bag” of a husband! That is not love but being a martyr! (or false love!).
Thank you friend for you very nice thoughts on this blogs, yes you are right, each one must evaluate the gravity of the cause to avoid sufferings, and endless unhappiness. I am back to write for pleasure .
love is happiness, how cana separate them, they are one, love is situatons tha make o u ahppy, love is meaning full life togeether that make you happy, love is school of hapinness, love is work toegether to be happy, love is support each other which make humans happy, so how can love be soething elss than happiness, no way, for sure no way, love is the world the maily the friens the husband and wife the friends and kids and enighbors , its God love the suport you i all times
@mangoh, Thanks for your inspiring share to the blog, yes love is truly beautiful for we never care about how we struggle.
Love is the only reason why we endure and why we still have the strength to carry on. Love is so powerful that everyday we ignore the pains we hold and keep because we are afraid our love will not be happy if see us in bitter days.Though not anymore happy but love is the binding block to make the whole part of the family intact.
Someone I knew said that anything you did was your choice and you cannot blame anyone but yourself for choosing that path.
What ever life you took, it is always your will. You can either choose between a yes and a no. But sometimes, human factor comes in.
The story about your teacher friend, maybe her compassion made her choose to stay with her mom and not go against her wishes.
But at the end of the day, the question is: Are we happy on path we decided to take?
If we give a serious thought to it we can arrive at a conclusion that there are no such things like ‘love’, ‘hate’,’affection’, ‘hatred’ etc., Everything is situational dependent. You can never have a perfect love from anybody and also for anybody. Once you realize that no one will be with you forever it goes towards ‘MAYA’. This is not the topic for present discussion.
I really pity the teacher. Her mother is selfish because there is no one to lean on except the daughter who is earning. If the daughter is married she can not take responsibility and take care of her children. This is one aspect. If she has not allowed her daughter to marry or to have a bf only for losing financial support then we have to think that this has become quite common nowadays. But, this is very cruel which has relegates to corner all the human values.
This is prevailing more in Brahmin families nowadays who are treated with great respect and honor for their knowledge. They do not care to earn money for their children without realizing the fact that money has got some value in the present day society.This is due to their ignorance.
But, there are some rich and wealthy families. The situation mentioned in the blog is prevailing in financially well-off families also. The sons do not take care of their parents and move out of their house in search of their own job, get married and stay somewhere. The daughters who are married have to take care of the parents. In such situation, the parents stoop down to such a mean level of getting her married daughter divorced and keep her along with them. They create some misunderstand or the other between husband and wife and see that the marriage relationship is broken. What should we call this? This I have noticed personally.
Everybody has to devote some time for one’s own happiness and personal comforts. Even a person having a good family should devote or allow some time for his personal happiness which can be experienced by him only as per his desires and wants. It does not mean that he should become an addict to it and neglect his family. He should also allow other members to spend some part of their time for their personal happiness.
@Ruby, That is a very nice question if we both are happy in the road we chose to traverse, for me yes, of course for I love my family and each of us at home got a nice job. We have our teamwork. But there are others I knew having a problematic marriage and because of their children the wife remains a martyr.My female friend and neighbor for example has a younger sister living with them she is grade 7,but one day her husband attempted to molest her sister. I told her to blotter it to police her answer was her husband pledged never to do it again and he can never do it. I asked her why she cannot leave her husband, her answer was, no one to feed them she and their 2 year old baby girl. That husband might have a karma someday. Her husband was sued in DSWD and he pledged there never to harm her young sister in law, what a shit guy.This is it now the example living in pain and need and love despite not anymore happy at all in their marriage.
@Krishna Kumar , Thank you friend for your very much appreciated share of this blog, you are right. Let us hope that no one suffers a burden own by others. The feeling is so bad if hard to escape the place that gives and brings so much pain and struggles. It is not easy to cross and surpass all kinds of struggles; after all…Love.
@sivasubrahmanyam shatdarsanam , Thank you so much for sharing synonymous experience to my teacher friend.Her siblings 3 of them work as nurses in United States and keep on sending money to them, plus her mom has her own pension and pension she receives monthly from her deceased military official husband. They are not poor by the way, they just do not understand circumstances once the mother leaves her daughter forever.I do not like that kind of life, so unfair; yet because of love, she could remain with her mom despite not happy at all.
look, god created us to choose which way or path that we must follow and sometimes we choose whats right whether its family, friends, or enemies. We choose the next best thing which is the right thing. You have to be happy in order to seek love as well. For us females we will choose if we are happy in a relationship before we even think about taking it a step further but we to also make sure that our family is ok with us being in this relationship. Maybe she choose what was or what she felt that was best for her.
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@Latisha Perkins, at least you have your own interpretation of the quote of this famous writer. There are many people experiencing this kind of life, just to show sign of gratitude and for the sake of God to persevere the struggles in life because of love despite no happiness at all. Sometimes you just close your eyes and cry to mean too uch to bear that kind of life. Love is indeed the reason why persevere.