So sorry you had such a negative experience! It makes you wonder if there was any kind of oversight at this facility, anyone licensing them or verifying the well being of their clients?

The experiences I’ve had with in-patient psychiatric care were very different, both in short-term and long-term care. I’ve visited friends in short-term care in a general hospital after a suicide attempt, and found the staff to be very attentive to the physical well being of patients, if not necessarily nurturing or sympathetic to their emotional needs.

I’ve also worked in chronic psychiatry, in a veterans hospital. Most of my patients were men who’d been diagnosed schizophrenic or bipolar, and they were probably more heavily medicated than they needed to be. Many had been decades in hospital, and had seen much less humane treatment in the “cuckoo’s nest” era. I sound it difficult sometimes, knowing there was more that probably could be done to improve their quality of life and help them stay more oriented.

But still, they had a warm place to live, clean rooms and bedding, and good food to eat. The men were free to come and go on the hospital grounds, which had a lot of great recreational facilities and beautiful gardens to enjoy. Many of the staff were very friendly, and enjoyed organizing BBQs, outings, bingo and other activities. So there was plenty to do. And no deeply probing group therapies, either! It wasn’t perfect, but I think most felt they were at home.

In my opinion and from experiences when my son was in treatment centers, most of them are understaffed!! Also, my son was in one that was cold as well. Anyway, back to the lack of staff. One of the RTCs that my son was in the employees would even state that they were understaffed and over medicated the clients. In fact one of them my son had to go to the ER because he had fell and cut his chin open and had to have stitches. The staff said he did it to get attention. He had a staff member with him 24/7…what more attention could one get???

He was then transferred to another RTC. There he was diagnosed with seizures. I asked the doctor if they could be caused by all the medications he was on. The doctor didn’t say that they were, nor did he tell me that they weren’t. After he was taken off those meds, he has never had a seizure since then!!

Very sorry to hear about your bad boss.
Anyone working with a bad superior or boss sure had a hard time to survive in the company unless you have to resign from your post.

alternatively, you make your boss leave her post then !
I had a manager who co-operate with my collegue to kick me out of my job.

They stabbed my back and were cruel. I wasn’t strong enough to fight back.

Thanks for sharing.

Oh, how fun!!! Congratulations on the godmother role as well!!

Congrats ! to both you as a new godmom and the mother of this child.
It is an honor to be a godmom , isnt it?

Godmom is not a popular trend here.
However, in the past, my mom had a godmom of her own.

She was a kind lady, always inviting her over dinner, group prayers and gave her a Holy Bible, the new and old testament, hoping for my mom to become a stronger person.

Godmom is alike an aunt to the child. Not just see once in a while and disappear in the wind.

I had a godfather but he disappeared too. So, I find godparents should be chosen carefully.

Do have fun for this baby shower

I felt the same way when my brother and sister had their oen kids. I mean, I never realized that the kids’ birth would be a great deal. But when they were born, I feel like their own mom and I don’t love them differently from my oen kids.

I find it interesting to act as godfather when I was still working at the bank. One of the bank’s borrower had invited me to stand as a godfather for his first son. Since we were a good friend, I never denied the request. As I held my godson with my right hand for a picture taking, I was very happy to realize how important to share with other’s parental burden with my friend. As far as I could remember it was sometime in 1975. Wow! It was already 41 years ago. So my godson has already his own wife, family to raise.

Congratulations on being a god mother. It’s so nice to see the baby, even in the womb, we can tell how cute she is. I can understand your excitement. Everytime when I heard others having baby, I am excited for them too, even though I do not know them. Bringing baby to the world is such a joy!

Sorry to hear about your relationship with your god parents. Let it stay in the past, and move forward, and hope you’ll enjoy spending your time, establishing the relationship with your god daughter. I am sure she will treasure it!

I do not have any god parents or children, though I wished to have a chance to take care of my elder brother’s children first, he hasn’t get married until now, and my elder son was my first experience taking care of a child. I really enjoy being a mother and taking care of children. I knew this even before I was married or even before I met my husband. I just love taking care of kids. Glad that I didn’t spoil my children, as many people thought I would. 😀