May 11, 2016 at 6:52 pm

@bestwriter Yes, I totally agree with you. I always like the grandparents to spend time with the grandchildren, and also children of course, but the parents’ responsibility should really give back to the parents, not the grandparents. 🙂

Yes, there are surely some conflicts while bringing up kids. I am really glad that though my parents, parents in law and our thoughts on this are quite different, they respect us as parents. So, we always have the decision on how we want to bring up our kids. Of course, it took time for us to reach this stage. At the beginning, when we first became parents, they did not trust us to be able to do this job well, so they actually interfered more. Slowly, they found out that we actually have the capability to raise our children well, so they understand us and trust us more too.

I guess this is something grandparents or parents need to learn to let go. As parents, I know I will surely have to let go of my children when they have grown up, I can’t just tie them with me all the time. They should go free when they are ready.

May 11, 2016 at 6:33 pm

@grecy095 Thanks for your love! 🙂

I was just interested to find it out, and think it might be useful for others as well. Sometimes I think I am just too busybody, but this can be helpful for someone too. 😀

I wish I can spend more time here and be able to cash out very soon, so I can announce that LiteracyBase pays, and this will certainly give confidence to others. But, I think I will need to stop working hard here and work harder on my software project, as it’s been neglected for quite some time, though I have been working on it daily too, I am pulled to this site very often. 😀

Hope you will find a way to cheer up yourself soon! 🙂

May 11, 2016 at 6:07 pm

This is so beautiful! I have always been seeing those blank coloring pages, without colors. Colors are really like magic, as they make the blank page becomes so impressive! I feel calm and peaceful even looking at your work.

I notice that there are some uncolored areas. Did you color it white, not yet color, or purposely leave them uncolored?

Also, I think it’s good to buy a good quality set of color pencils, am I right?

May 11, 2016 at 6:03 pm

@haraka Thanks for creating that topic. Hope many people will share there, and I will go and take a look, though I don’t think I will share any.

I always think coloring is more tedious than drawing, even when I was young. 😀
I am not good at drawing as well, but it doesn’t really matter, as it’s just a way to express myself, so there’s no right or wrong.

As for Mandala, I think it originally should be a form that we draw freely (according to some format), then some made them as a coloring patterns as well.

I am happy to share more about homeschooling, but I am still a beginner, as my son just started his grade 1 journey. I learned or plan to learn all these handwork because of my children. I would like to teach them, so I have to learn all these. So, homeschooling actually lets me learn more than my children, though I am supposed to be the teacher. 😀

May 11, 2016 at 5:54 pm

@bestwriter I do not think my parents and aunts think that, as they actually have their own activities to do and their friends in home town. But it’s just that they might be too protective to the children, or the children are too dependent on them, so they just have to help out the children. Of course, they are always happy to help the children.

I just think that the children (I mean my generation) need to learn to take care of our children on our own, and let our parents be free. We can’t just think that we need to work, so we always ask our parents for help to take care of our children. Some of my friends’ parents even stay in another state or country to help to take care of their grandchildren, but the grandparents actually prefer to stay in their home town, as there are more friends in the home town, as compared to a foreign country or state.

Of course, I think it’s good to let the grandparents and grandchildren have some family time together, but I just think we should let the grandparents rest more and do what they want to do, but not give them the responsibility of taking care of the grandchildren.

Well, it’s just my thought. I said these because I have heard those grandparents complaining that they have no time for themselves because they have to take care of the grandchildren. 😀

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May 11, 2016 at 5:46 pm

@haraka Yes, I haven’t spend enough time to explore Tumblr yet, though I’d love to. My id in all these social media sites is kaka135. Feel free to add me. 🙂

@ruby3881 Good to know that you think StumbleUpon is easy to use. I really need to go and learn more about it, as it seems quite complicated to me.

May 11, 2016 at 5:05 pm

@dawnwriter Yes, I agree with you that children actually like to make their parents happy. They do not purposely make us angry. I also think it’s good to let the children know what the boundaries are, and as parents, we need to stick to the boundaries firmly, consistently but lovingly too, otherwise children will be confused. I totally agree with being the role model as well. Children really like to imitate us. They are really a mirror to me.

Whenever I get angry, my little girl always brings me the angel doll or shows me her smiley, and tells me not to get angry. This always calms me down. I always told that I am learning from the mother angel, I am learning to be gentle and not to get angry. I also always invite them to learn together with me, as mom is not perfect too, and we are always learning, and learning together.

There are still many challenging moments for me as a parent, but I am sure we will all learn and grow up together.

May 11, 2016 at 4:52 pm

@peachpurple I always think it’s not easy to study and work at the same time. It really needs discipline and perseverance to do that, and hard work as well. Good that you were doing it together with your husband, so both of you can motivate each other. So, are both your husband and you work in IT firm? Were your son already born at that time?

@grecy095 Then I think you are gaining quite a lot from your Chemistry course, which is good that you can also apply them in real life.

May 11, 2016 at 4:42 pm

@sunil Do you mean it was not in your friend list? I don’t think we can only comment on blogs that are written by our friends. I am thinking even non members can also leave a comment on the blogs, am I right?

Well, I will try to comment on a blog that is not from my friend list. If it causes error, perhaps we should let support know about this, as I do not think it should be that way, or perhaps support has another thought on this?

May 11, 2016 at 4:38 pm

I never spank my children, and I remind myself not to do that, no matter how. I did yell at my elder son, now I rarely yell at them, but still get angry and scold them sometimes. I learned not to yell, and now learning not to get angry and scold them too.

My mom used to beat me when I was young, though I always think I am a good girl. I always wonder why couldn’t she just talk to me nicely, instead of scolding or beating me. I didn’t like that at all. Though I understand why my mom did that now, I still think there are other better ways to do so.

I believe there are always ways that we can do calmly and lovingly without spanking, yelling or scolding.  Whenever my children are having any challenging behaviors, I know it’s actually me who didn’t do enough or I have been too busy at my work and neglected them. Connection is the key.

May 11, 2016 at 3:56 pm

@heroine It’s good to get a Mother’s Day message.

@peachpurple I can’t believe your talents are not appreciated by the people around you. I really love your drawings, and how I wish I can draw that. I even thought you are a professional artist.

I agree that as parent, we always feel good when our children just kiss us or hug us.

I am happy to receive compliments from friends on this site, and I am glad I am able to help wherever possible too. My son and daughter wrote/drew me a love note on Mothers’ Day, I was really impressed by them, all the time. 😀

May 11, 2016 at 3:36 pm

@bestwriter Frankly speaking, sometimes I think the seniors I know here take care of their children and grandchildren too much. My uncle and aunt are taking care of their grandchildren, sending and picking them from school, they even help to check their homework. These should be done by the parents, not the grandparents, though I understand their daughter is too busy at work, so they help a lot. Glad that my cousin sister treats them very well and fully support them financially as well. It’s just that, they do not have much of their personal time, especially when the children were still young.

I also sometimes told my mom to let my younger sister take care of her children on her own, she’s always afraid my younger sister couldn’t handle the two young children. I always told them, we must learn to grow up. She has learned and done her part very well, and now it’s time for us to learn and do our part. If I didn’t insist, my parents are always here to help me out too.

It seems to me that the seniors I know are quite different from those you all discussed here. I think they should enjoy their life more, as they have been working hard for quite a long time, now they should relax and do what they really like to do. Well, perhaps many of them still enjoy taking care of the children and grandchildren as well.

May 11, 2016 at 3:25 pm

@dawnwriter I am not sure if my parents have been watching TV programs, online information and they have friends and still go out to have some activities often, they understand that the world now is different from theirs. The children nowadays are different as well. Sometimes, I even prefer them to be a little bit old style. But, I am thankful for their understandings. Moreover, they respect me as the parent to my children, so they try not to comment too much, and leave things to us, as it’s our responsibilities to bring up our children, and we understand today’s world better than them.

@peachpurple The comment your mother in law said about kids do not have to study hard really surprised me. I thought nowadays in our country, people are more focus on academic studies and want the children or grandchildren to study hard so they can enter good university or perhaps get a good job in future. I really think that’s not a good teaching to allow the kids to not finish the homework and let the teacher punish him. I don’t mean not to let the kids play, but they need to learn to be responsible as well.

By the way, are you staying with your mother in law?

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May 11, 2016 at 3:08 pm

I agree that all of us should actually plan for our future, not just the seniors.

My parents already have plans for themselves, so even though we can’t support them financially, they can still live a good life. As children, we just always remind them to spend if they wish to, and there is no need to leave the money for us. Some parents here would like to leave money to the children. We still try to support our parents financial as much as we can. But being a work from home mom that don’t earn much, I can only give them a little bit, just to show my gratitude to them.

I always think it’s good to teach our children to be independent. So I agree with what @dawnwriter said, we should have our plans in future, and children will have to plan for themselves as well.

@bestwriter I think I am really blessed to have my parents. They do not depend on us very much, as they understand we have our own families and work to do as well, they even try to help us as much as they can. They have their own friends and also their activities, so I am happy for them and not too worry about them as well. They also always come and visit us and stay with us sometimes. So, they are not burdens for us at all.

May 11, 2016 at 2:35 pm

Sorry that I haven’t really spend much time reading the blog posts yet, I just read a few. I am still working hard on the forums, and clearing my notifications. 😛

@lovern I think it’d be nice if we visit each others’ blog posts and leave comments as well, as you said, it definitely helps to boost the morale of the bloggers.

If you are mentioning the dashboard for blog posts, go to the Blog menu on top, click on Dashboard. There you will find your submitted blog posts, whether they are awaiting for approval or have gone live.

If you want to visit a particular member’s blog posts, you can go to his or her blog post, click on the member’s name, then a list of posts published by that member will be displayed. For URL, you can access via this link: http://172.104.9.193/author/kaka135/ (Just replace the username for that particular member).

@sunil I have not encountered the issue you mentioned. Perhaps you should tell support about that, try to PM him. For the pay rate of blog comment, I think it’s similar to the forum reply as well. The longer the comment, the better earning you will get.