Things happen, and sometimes we may not even have the words to explain it. We are a family were also in the same predicament only that this was my older sister who was in campus at the time. It was the most better pull for my mum to swallow when she found out. I remember i used to share a room with my sister at the time and i kind of noticed her frequent visits to the bathroom, and one morning I followed after her when she went to the bathroom, she didn’t know that I followed her. A few minutes later I heard her vomiting and i was so shocked to the point of panicking. And that’s when I decided to tell my mum about what was going on. My mum being a nurse at the time took the opportunity to talk to her and she admitted that she was pregnant. It was trully a shocker given that my sister was one of those kids who were well respected because she was quiet, loved God, and she was a good example to the rest of the kids in the estate. Being the very first child to join campus in the whole neighbourhood, that said something. So it happens usually it’s the polite ones who normally do things that may shock many, unlike the unruly ones. At least for us I got to know about it before anyone else. They later got married and had two kids before she finally died may get soul continue to rest in peace.

I experenced it and I removed my shoes and let the small stones roll on the floor hehehehe,People smiled at meas I smiled at them too pretending my case as on a shame mood. I just told myself to be honest to my feeling.I noticed that there was also one guy tat followed whet I did, He also put off has shoes and let some stones out hehehe.
The shoes I wore that time was easy to remove and did I get some stones? I passed by my neighbor’s house having many loads of gravel near the road, so unconsciously feel right away small stones like gravel in sizes entering my shoes.

That was funny, but I was just true to myself.

Hi @Dina, it seems you are bursting a lot with the issues on living together with the in-laws. It’s always a not a easy task and always bring some issues when getting married and consider to live or not to live with the in-laws.
Do correct me if I am wrong, I think this only happen to Eastern societies and Eastern culture. To the Western, and the Russian society, they prefer the daughter live far away from them after getting married. This is the make sure the newly married couple can have their own life, and won’t always go back home for assistance too.
In my society, the Chinese couple used to go back in-law either wife side or hubby side’s house for dining after working. It could be a good bonding for the two generation, but I would say it could make the new couple still living in at comfort zone which make them not matured enough in handling own life after marriage.

Anyway, again, all decision has its advantages and drawbacks, God bless you, Dina!

Living with your in laws is the last thing anyone in their right mind should do or even think about. How now how do you start, what would make you even think about it? It is not a good idea to move in with your in laws, if you do that then you can kiss your privacy goodbye, because it’s at that point that your business becomes everyone else’s business. You cannot do anything without someone butting in. Your better off having your own home then sharing a home with your in laws. In our community when a man gets married he is supposed to get a piece of land somewhere else and build a home for him and his family. The only time he can stay at his parents home is when he may not have a piece of land. But he should be organizing to get one as well. I have seen so many conflicts come about with mother’s in law and their daughter’s in law living in the same house or compound thereby causing misunderstandings between the children and parents. So I wouldn’t advocate for couples living with their in laws