May 11, 2016 at 10:02 pm

@bestwriter @kaka135 I firmly believe that parents and not grandparents should be in charge of bringing up children.

Grandparents either tend to be too lenient towards grandchildren and bribe them with things which totally spoils the personality of children. Most cannot keep an eye on children’s activities in a way parents can.  

Grandparents should be involved in ways like eating meals together, going out for trips and shopping grocery or numerous other small ways but when it comes to discipline or independence it  is parents who should set the rules and have final say.

May 11, 2016 at 5:21 pm

Dua for cure from disease:

It was narrated from Aa’isha (may Allah be pleased with her) that when any of us fell sick, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) would wipe him with his right hand then say:

“Remove the harm, O Lord of humankind and heal him, for You are the Healer and there is no healing except Your healing, with a healing which does not leave any disease behind).”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5675) and Muslim (2191).

This is one of the most comprehensive prayers that i have ever come across because it asks not only for cure from the disease but also from all side-effects and lasting effects of the illness. With children and elderly people in the house, this is one of my favourite supplications for health and cure from various diseases.

May 11, 2016 at 5:17 pm

Dua’ for Stress and Hardship:

Anas (ra) said that when Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. was faced with a serious difficulty, he would always supplicate,

“Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astaghithu”

(O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your Grace).”

Source: Tirmidhi

I recite this short dua often in times of stress and distress.

May 11, 2016 at 4:52 pm

I have never spanked any of my children nor slapped them on face or body.

But sometimes if at toddler age, they threw  a tantrum, I lightly hit their bottom (never too hard) but to make them stop crying loudly.

From a very young age, I tell my children if they are happy, I am happy and we exchange big smiles. Children like to make their parents happy so they come up to me and show smiles and i smile back.

My older children know the limits very well. No hitting, using foul language, stealing, cheating or taking siblings’ things without permission is allowed but the training has to start very young and parents have to be role model first.

May 11, 2016 at 1:35 pm

I think it is a  big mistake not to plan for the future whether you are young and old.

As parents, we are also spending a lot of money on our children’s school fees and other necessities but I do not want to be dependant on them ever even if they are very obedient and supportive.

It is best to save money on a regular basis and find ways of investing safely.

@peachpurple Your husband has the right idea!

May 11, 2016 at 1:20 pm

I am not fond of horror movies. They make me shiver and shudder when I am alone and I feel someone is standing behind me all the time.

I am sure my husband and daughter will love to watch this movie (they are the brave, adventurous souls of the family) but I will make sure I have some very necessary errand to do at that time 🙂 LOL

May 11, 2016 at 10:40 am

@haraka Even if we are born Muslims, I think understanding our faith and religion is a lifelong process.

I believe we should never stop questioning, never stop asking, never stop discovering  and each day brings a little more light, joy and peace.

And there are times when we feel a little lost and then we need a prayer or a friend to lift us up:-)

If you wish, listen to lectures by this guy. His explanation of Quran is amazing.

Nauman ali Khan

JazakAllahu Khairun

(May Allah swt reward you with goodness) Ameen

May 11, 2016 at 10:31 am

I have been here, there and everywhere but at the moment I am active on

Blogjob

Literacy Base

Chatabout

Earnably

MyLot

I spend very little time at Earnably and Chatabout because the surveys and tasks are usually for people from US, UK, Canada etc but still I manage to earn a bit from them.

I log on to Blogjob every day to see if there’s any good news from Sheridan. At the moment, I am focussing my energy on Literacy Base and sometimes i go to MyLot to catch up friends who are not active on other sites.

May 11, 2016 at 10:19 am

Dua’ for Increase in Knowledge 

“Rabbi Zidni Ilma’ [surah Ta-Ha; 20:114]

“O my Lord! increase me in knowledge.”

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ. used to say in the supplication in the morning prayer:

‘Allaahumma innee assaluka ilman nafia, wa rizzqan tayyeebun, wa amalan mutaqabilan,.’

‘O Allah indeed I ask You for beneficial knowledge, and a good Halal provision, and actions which are accepted.’

Ameen.

• This reply was modified 8 years, 6 months ago by  Dawnwriter.

May 11, 2016 at 10:14 am

This is so pretty @haraka and very neat. It must be so relaxing to site down with colours in your hand and create a pretty picture.

I hope you will share more work!

May 11, 2016 at 10:10 am

@haraka That’s correct for farz raka’at 🙂

I try to add the sunnah raka’at and nafl raka’at to my prayers too so that comes to almost 42 raka’at each day.

2 farz, 2 sunnah for fajr

4 sunnah, 4 farz, 2 sunnah and 2 nafl for dhuhr

4 farz for Asr

3 farz, 2 sunnah and 2 nafl for maghrib

4 sunnah, 4 farz, 2 sunnah, 2 nafl for Isha and then 3 witr.

Sometimes I add more nafl prayers to thank Allah for His blessings.

Welcome to the group 🙂

May 10, 2016 at 8:35 pm

@ruby3881 You did read a comment about my chicken dishes and commented upon it. Can you see it now?

May 10, 2016 at 8:32 pm

@bestwriter. That’s true.Parents in 70s and 80s in our part of the world encouraged their children to go abroad for education and jobs. They were very proud of the fact that their children found work in Middle East, America and Europe but these children settled there, got married and left their parents behind

Now they may be well off but grandchildren do not even recognize their grandparents. There are no easy solutions. My household is very different. My grandmother in her 80s, my father in his 60s, my brother in his 30s and my nephew (now 2 year old) all live in same house (different sections).

I never saw my father leave the house before asking for my grandmother’s blessings but it takes a lot of patience and good manners and ability to keep tempers in check. But I also feel there is great blessing in it.

May 10, 2016 at 5:59 pm

Life can be funny sometimes. Going smoothly one moment and at times one feels as if caught up in a storm.

Moving is always difficult and if you have people depending on you and you lack a job, money and resources, it is very stressful.

My prayers and best wishes for all of you. @morgoodie @swalia @grecy095

May 10, 2016 at 5:41 pm

@grace I feel you have kept yourself mentally active and physically busy with gardening, online writing and pets etc. , which is a great thing. You don’t seem to be emotionally dependent on others

Many older people have no activity beyond their children and once children are married, they become rather bitter and lonely.