Agree with the facts stated by you in the article, parents have to be taken care of by their children once they get old or bedridden. But the sad thing is it cannot be expected of this from the children. Many of the parents when bringing up their children provide them all the facilities and pamper them and do not teach them to do the basic things which they are supposed to stay independently and take other responsibilities. So since this is not inculcated since childhood they can neither take care of themselves or their nuclear families properly how we used to live leave alone taking care of their parents which is ones bounden duty towards them.

Till the times things are good and parents healthy and earning they look at them as assets but once their health deteriorates or they are no more employed due to age and incomes are limited from them they are perceived as a liability and are given chores like nanny sitting for their children which they are supposed to bring up. These children still want to behave as children even after growing up and having a family of their own. Many are usually abroad and used to those lifestyle and consider coming to the motherland and meeting their parents and taking care of them as a burden and a unwanted nuisance which they can ill afford as they stand to lose their jobs if they come to take care of parents. This is a materialistic thinking which has been inculcated in them since childhood and society has become like that in general too. The brides nowadays are also too independent and would not want to share or be with the parents of the groom and want a different setup. These are the hard truths.

The best thing for elders is to stay independent and have a different support system which are available in our country even today. As being independent they can lead their lives happily. They should also not expect anything from their children but only give that is the fact one has to live with. If some children do take care of their parents such parents should consider themselves fortunate but stay independent to the best extent possible. Too much emotional attachment should not be there. A well written article.

I always pray that when me and my hubby gets older, we can still take care of each other.

But if that day comes, when one of us cannot anymore, I would ask for the help of our daughter to provide us a caregiver at home. At least, we are at our own house not together with other seniors who would be senile or already demented that living with them will be difficult.

So as early as now, I keep eating lots of fruits and vegetables, exercise my body as well as my brain, drink lots of water , take vitamin supplements and most of all always have a happy disposition.

Explained the concept of self improvement well. I feel we have to keep reminding ourselves of these things as we easily tend to forget what we read or learnt due to the fast pace of life and the overload of information which we are faced with. It is better if we analyze the above issues on a day to day basis in the night and clear our mind of the clutter.

This will help us have a peaceful sleep and wake up fresh next day to take up challenges of that day. It will also lighten our mind and heart too. Many of us are not even having time to have a peaceful meal with the family. Each one comes at a different time in the house and their is no conversation to lighten the burden and allow family members to destress.

I think we have made this generation gap.There is my aunt who behave like kid with kids and elders also looks comfortable with her.There should not be difference between generations.

I am at my 30s.I like all your points.It is very useful.I will keep it in my mind.Sometimes at this age I feel,why I am getting older.But now after reading all your positive points I am very happy.It is giving me all positivity.

awesome thing is self control .if u can selcontroll you can ddo any thing

My problem I get board at work since I am
a greeter a wholesale club so out of the blue
I just quack like a duck some times for no reason
and some times at kids a lot of times the little kids
look at me and there eyes would say shut up I know they want
attend .I need to stop quacking or talking like a duck
so when I open my food cart I will look more business like