August 4, 2016 at 5:53 pm

There are so many instances that people love to backstab us. I had so many of these bad friends. Most of these people flocked in a working place. They like juicy gossip about a co-worker. It is terribly unprofessional for them to do such an act. I had learned to fight back in a professional way because of them. It is not worth to waste time with these people. In most instances, they are the menace of the society. All I can say, it is a sign of being insecure to oneself.

August 6, 2016 at 8:52 am

I totally agree. Why be nice to someones face then turn around and do something hurtful against them. Ridiculous. It has to be either low self esteem or jealously.

August 6, 2016 at 8:57 am

@melissa1024 I really cannot understand why some people do such an act. When I was still working in my previous regular jobs, backstabbers are so distinct in the companies. But I never give them a chance to pull me down without a good fight. After so many incidences, they stopped doing it. My tolerance is too low with these double face people.

August 6, 2016 at 10:33 am

@Shavkat I know. When I was still working it was like that. I did home health care and the other employees would try to steal your patients from you where they could get overtime and more money. It is ridiculous. I put a stop to it many times and finally got the point across and they left me alone and went on to some other unsuspecting soul. I mean we were all there for the same purpose that was just greedy. I am like you, I have a very low tolerance for two faced people. Do not be nice to my face then talk junk behind my back. If you have something to say, say it to me not behind my back. If I have something to say, I am going to say it to the person it is about not someone else. I think everyone should say what they think to the person they have the problem with and it would be a whole lot less confusion and trouble. Just my opinion though.

August 6, 2016 at 11:11 am

@melissa1024 I totally agree with you. There are so many instances that need to put an end. We are trying to live a decent life but we need also to be sensitive. I can imagine how you confront these people. That’s the reason why I decided to work online. Since I cannot stand the bad elements in the company.

August 6, 2016 at 11:48 am

@shavkat Yes, I solely work online now. It is so much better. Yes, we work because we have to so I do not understand either  why they want to be like that. You have to be confrontational with them or you will not succeed it is really a shame. People should be more caring, kind, and sympathetic for others but they are not and those whom try to do these things are walked on. It is awful. I too am glad I work at home.

August 6, 2016 at 12:59 pm

it is true.

I had several backstabbers which were closed to me,

my sister in law, my close colleague and my own brother

These are the people who are beside me and knew me very well.

They could tell tales behind my back, and got me into trouble that I could had avoided.

I lost my job, almost lead to separation, family relationship breakdown.

Sometimes, back stabbers are not strangers or your enemies, they are the people beside you

August 6, 2016 at 1:33 pm

Most have back stabbers and that is due to their own insecurity but because of that others suffer.  I too have had them in offices, among friends and among family. I have moved on leaving behind those that interfered with my life.

August 6, 2016 at 2:32 pm

@melissa1024  I guess we are the boss of our time working online. I also think that working at home is far better than socializing with these people.

@peachpurple Some of my father’s siblings are the one who had created troubles to our family. We can’t control the situation. It is just simply happened. I am sure family members will have reconciliation in time. We can’t force  to make the family reunited without the healing process from within.

@bestwriter I always thought of such overpowering word insecurity. They love seeing others to suffer than helping them. Betrayal is always there.

August 6, 2016 at 4:49 pm

@Shavkat, let us not mind those kind of people, they are useless and nothing to our daily needs and tasks.They cannot buy us food, let them die in envy.Those kind of people are so insecure and they do not have talents and skills like us.They cannot even write .They belong to slow minds and do illiterate. I am thankful I haven’t encountered someone or co-worker backbiting me, or else , I will turn their heads in the opposite direction hahahahaha.Maybe those who know me don’t dare back bite me for I am good to them, and they also know that I am a striker, Strike right away.

August 6, 2016 at 9:59 pm

@lovern I will also do the same thing. I usually ignore these people. However, if they tried to loosen up my patience; there will be another chapter of their life.lol We really cannot avoid these people who are full of themselves.

August 7, 2016 at 2:57 am

@shavat Yes, being the boss of our own time and what we do and not having to deal with these people is by far better than what we were.

August 7, 2016 at 5:21 am

@melissa1024 One from my previous job, a project manager drives me crazy. He ruled the team with so many comments towards his team. At the end of the day, the team realizes that our project manager is incompetent. He controlled me when I needed to go to the headquarter. Well, he can’t put me down that easily.

August 7, 2016 at 5:42 am

I lost two good jobs due to backstabbers.  One was a coworker who did it to me because I did my duty to call child protective services about a student who was being abused at home.  She was mad I’d done it because she should have done it but did not.  I guess she was afraid someone would find out she hadn’t and her job would be in danger.  She then sabotaged me so much that I ended up having to go out on sick leave due to stress then lost my job.

I don’t understand what people get out of backstabbing others.  I guess that is because I’m just not that sort of person.  I’d rather build people up instead of tear them down.

August 7, 2016 at 5:47 am

@lola I am sure that makes your feel so terrible. I do think that some people would rather withdraw themselves from the situation and prevent an argument with colleagues. I am for your patience and understanding with your co-worker. If I am there with you, I will be stood up and fight for you. I can’t bear myself seeing someone nibbled by others.