May 23, 2016 at 1:40 pm

One of my cousins is getting married Sept 9th.  I want to RSVP to attend but –

• I am having surgery at some unknown point between middle of July and then.  I don’t know how hard the recovery will be, it will involve swelling and bruising of my face (impacted wisdom teeth coming out), and it can’t be put off until after the wedding ceremony.
• My best friend is due to give birth Sept 10th.  She is a high risk pregnancy and likely to go into labor before then.

What would you do?  Go ahead and send the RSVP and just send regrets if these things prevent me from attending?  Send the RSVP but also contact my cousin and fill her in ahead of time about the above things?  Do things a different way?  Any advice is welcomed!

May 23, 2016 at 2:20 pm

I think thast it is bezt to inform your cousin your desire to be on her wedding.  However,  there are certain possible events that may happen on ber weddinh day.  Just inform her that if you will not be tied with any of the two instances you have mentioned,  that you are sure to come.

May 25, 2016 at 10:03 pm

Thanks for the advice.

I found out my surgery consult will be July 14, so surgery could certainly be a issue in early Sept.  I decided I will certainly talk to my cousin privately about what is going on and let her know I plan to be at her wedding but something might interfere.

May 25, 2016 at 10:16 pm

@lolaze if you have 3 weeks between surgery and an event, trust me that is more than enough. In fact you will be troubled only 1 week, including extra swelling and pain, so don’t worry.

But if your surgery is inside 7 day of an event, I don’t think it is wise to have that kind of a combination.

May 25, 2016 at 10:24 pm

@rapidblue

Thanks for the timeframe.  I know that for 7 days I’m going to have stitches in so certainly no events in that time.  I’d prefer to give myself 14 days as I’ve been told I will look like a chipmunk, and not a cute chipmunk from the swelling.

May 25, 2016 at 10:36 pm

@lolaze I had some procedure done, my family members and a few friends. I would say a week in average. It is not about outside, you can always mask it but inside is a problem, also there is no use to torment yourself if you feel bad.

If you can reschedule your procedure for after the event then do it.

May 25, 2016 at 10:38 pm

I’m hoping not to have to put it off past Sept 10th as I’m in quite a bit of pain from these darn teeth 🙁  The dentist has me on strong anti-inflammatory and muscle relaxers right now.

May 25, 2016 at 10:50 pm

That could disrupt your immunity, I mean it is a long way till September.

My condition worsen during the teeth therapy, I have some bone changes as well, I don’t feel some parts of my face, but the worst thing was that the meds ruined my immunity so after a while I had these strange symptoms, all kid of them, it was like a black magic or something.

Just take care of immunity as well and get rid of those buried zombies,they are nothing but a  bad news.

May 25, 2016 at 10:53 pm

I’m supposed to come off the meds in a few days, but if I start hurting again then I’ll have to go back on them in spurts until these little ‘you know whats’ as I call them come out!

Yeah I was warned about the possibility of some nerve damage or irritation to the nerves in my face.  Been told the teeth on the bottom are going to be the worst to get out as they are sideways AND twisted.  At least my dentist is honest with me, she straight up said “Its gonna be a ____”

May 26, 2016 at 1:09 pm

@Lola I think you should talk to your cousin and let her know about the situation. Since you now know the date of your surgery, at least one thing is clear. I hope you will be able to recover well in time.

June 22, 2016 at 2:13 pm

Weddings have always been a joy to attend especially if it is of a family member but there are some things that cannot be avoided i think the best thing is for you to talk to your cousin and just tell her about all the things you have mentioned, then let her be the one to respond first and from her response you will be able to know what position to take without offending her. that’s what i think at least that way whatever decision you make she will take it in a good way because you have told her about your schedule

June 28, 2016 at 7:53 am

@lola  I find no complication. Just inform your cousin about your circumstances and tell her that you will be sending the rsvp but may not attend if things that you would be explaining to her, interfere.