February 5, 2017 at 3:54 pm

Relationships form an important and integral part of human society. They are a very important institution for people, families, groups, societies, regions, states and nations of the world to evolve. Relationships are like plants in a garden. As one would have to take care of the plants well to have a beautiful garden so does one have to nurture relationships to see that they stand the test of time by sticking through the thick and thin of all kinds of frictions and other situations in life tests them in.

No relationship can be smooth and it should not also be so. The reason is there should be elasticity in the relationship which has to be built up. This happens over a period of time. As the small branch of a tree is flexible and amenable to moving whichever side it gets sunlight and air, similarly should relationships be flexible there should be give and take and a good amount of understanding and mutual respect is required for the others points of view. There should be acceptance of differences and it should be appreciated as a garden has different plants so does life consist of people with different personalities.

A child when it is born starts the process of building a relationship. First it is the mother, then the family, next after a few years it is relatives, neighbours, classmates, friends and others. As one grows as a child and ones knowledge about the world also grows. Then relationships are adjusted unknowingly by the child and teenager and later even by the adults. They see and analyze where and how the relationship is going  and what course correction needs to be done to enhance or improve the same. In all these stages one tries to optimize the relationship to the maximum and see that it flourishes well.

Frictions are like tests or challenges for a relationship so that they can grow strong and reach the next level in the stage. For this to happen some amount anger, frustation, unhappiness about a situation, difference of opinion, wanting something to be done in a different way but not being able to due the relationship, feeling getting stuck in a relationship, monotony, taking people for granted, not appreciating others point of view, being unable to put ones point of view clearly without hurting the other sentiments, thinking everything from ones selfish view, squabbling are some of the common kinds of things which should be taken as tests which one has to pass and successfully take the relationship to the next level which should be a grade better and higher than what it used to be before.

If this is done in a positive, meaningful, genuine, understanding way then many of the relationships whichever they may be will go strong from strength to strength. A strong relation will make the people with whom you are building  a relationship happy and raise the bar for them too to rise to the occasion. There should always be some give and take in any relationship. Remember it is always easy to snap a relationship in a second but difficult to build one and more difficult to nurture and make it strong and healthy. Dear readers what is your opinion on this topic. Think about it.

• This topic was modified 7 years, 9 months ago by  Krishna Kumar.

February 7, 2017 at 3:26 pm

An interesting topic and an important part of life which all of us know the importance of but tend to neglect and take it for granted. Every day the world runs on relationship. Relationships are the driving force behind human relations be it for interaction, communication, language, economics, trade, finance, sorting out issues, diplomacy and what not. Where there is human element involved there are relations. Relationship are the foundation on which the house of all human interactions are built.

If you are a good communicator the chances of you landing up in a great job, getting the big contract, getting the perfect partner or a best friend and what not are all possible. So dear readers stress on relationships and see how your relationships are with different people whosoever you happen to interact daily on a continuous basis and do necessary course correction where required.

February 7, 2017 at 8:45 pm

I concur with you on this one. Relationships are tricky and they need all the nurturing that it needs to grow strong. There is no relationship that can work if there is no understanding. We have be there for one another always standing for each other in the times when people or family may be against us. Relatonships may be strong when both partners know what brought them together, and when there is understanding that we are both not perfect then there will not be extra ordinary expectations from either side. When such things are communicated between the two parties th3n there is nothing that will stop the relationship from growing from one level to another.

February 8, 2017 at 2:23 pm

True in the case of a couple or in any other kind of personal relationship acceptance of the opposite person as how he or she is the key and that happens only when each of them are clear and have been communicated what the others expectations are of them and that individual too. It is  a practical thing to expect that everyone has fallacies and no one is perfect as each of us are unique in our way.

A couple is like the two wheels of a cart and only when both move in tandem does the cart move forward and vehicle of relationship goes on in life smoothly. Thank you for sharing the insight and appreciate your point of view. Best wishes for a happy relationship.

February 8, 2017 at 4:04 pm

i have understand over time that human being does not live in a vacuum. an indication that one has to establish a relationship in order to live purposefully.

many friendship has been destroyed due to the negligence of nurturing the relationship, truly, any surviving relationship have been well nurtured and that is why it could survive.

in a relationship (let’s say a couple), that only one party gives, but the other always, receive, such a relationship can not last. both parties should complement each other, that way it can work.

February 8, 2017 at 9:28 pm

Agree with your point of view as it a universal truth. Not only that when you start appreciating the opposite view with due respect to the person. One starts giving value to the same with all shortcomings as we too have similar negatives thus it is a  matter of give and take. With the motto live and let live.

This way relationships deepen and there will be a sense of harmony which is very much required to nurture the relationship. Such people will also be a role model to the children who tend to learn many things form parents  and to others in the society who will be looking for the right role models so that they can mold their lives in the right direction and build their relationships.

February 9, 2017 at 12:23 am

1. Absolutely, relationship is the driver of man’s existence. It is the nucleus of every habitat occupied by all forms of living things. But it is unfortunate that this all important aspect of man’s existence is not really taken seriously. Like the saying goes, no man is an Island, therefore no man can relate with his or herself absolutely and successfully.                            I have always been a proponent of letting other people’s opinions count, respecting the views of others and always agreeing with others. No wonder when Jesus was about to create the earth,  He said, “Come let us make man in our own image” this depicts a cordial relationship that existed between the three supreme bodies there.            Whether you relate with a spouse, boss, siblings, colleagues, friends and so on, always make sure you agree with one another. Always let other people’s opinions count and always prefer one another.                     Even though in today’s world people are only concerned about themselves, a good relationship will leave thinking of how not to hurt your partner, how to be of help to one another.                     If we do this,  trust me the world will be a better  place.

February 9, 2017 at 12:30 pm

This is such a very interesting topic. And I also conform with you that relationship starts on the day that we were born. It begins with our family members at home.This relationship flourishes as we grow.

“No man is an island” This is the saying that really suits this topic. Nobody can live a happy and contented life here on Earth just by himself or herself. Belongingness or the feeling that we belong is one of our basic or biological needs. We need to feel that we are accepted. We need to have somebody in our lives. Be it our mother, our father, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends or neighbors. These people completes us as a person. Without them, this thing called relationship will not exist.

Relationship is built through trust and understanding. If we don’t trust each other and if misunderstanding always occur, good relationship will not be maintained or prosper. It will not last for long.

So if we want to have a better world, we must have a better relationship with each other.

February 9, 2017 at 2:10 pm

Thank you both for the valuable perspective from your end on this particular topic. It is interesting to note many of the responses which have come till now are from the people who understand the value of relationships and are in one sort of relationship or the other which may be going strong of many in different spheres. What it shows is that is one of the driving forces which keeps us ticking in life.

While this may be the case with us no doubt we too would have had faced the challenge of building a successful relationship over a period of time. What made me write this particular article is the fact that that I see, read and hear through sources of many relationships breaking this is not only among couples but among parents and children once children are married and they neglect parents, friends who avoid the other with who they were very close and used to spend time quite recently as they have got some new contract or job, ego problems between couples leading to tragic breakups, sibling rivalry causing breakup in relationships and so on and so forth the list is quite long. Hope whosoever reads  this article would take some time pause and think on this issue and invest some time to not let go of relationships due to negligence and indifferent attitude.