March 8, 2017 at 3:01 pm

There are many articles which would be written today about International Women’s Day and womanhood celebrated all over the world with many seminars, marches, buildings being lit up in pink, symposiums and events held by different organisations in their own unique way. But the moot point is do we really need a day to celebrate womanhood?

Are they not to be celebrated all through the year rather than a day and then forget about them till the same date on the next year? Here are some of the simple ways which one can celebrate women all through the year rather than on a day.

Respect women and their opinion or choice do not impose your views on them. If you feel you need to say something to them tell them in a polite way and see they you do not offend them as then what one is doing is not according to the spirit of the day.

Do not look at women as commodities or property as they have an independent free thinking mind of their own and they know what is good or what is bad for them as men do. Let them lead their life freely.

Do not be overprotective about women. While it is good to show that you are really  concerned and mean well for them, do not end up being overbearing on them. That will spoil the very spirit of what you are trying to do.

See that you share the household work with them and reduce their burden and labor. Do not dump every work on them and expect be to be there at your service all the time. They need some personal time too. They too are humans and not machines so do not overload them with work.

If one cannot share the work with them at least do not increase their work by placing undue expectations on them. This will put pressure on them and after some years will lead to one health issue or the other which is best avoided not only for the woman but the family too as all will suffer.

See that they feel well attended to and their problems are taken care of or sorted out. If you cannot do so at lease do not complicate their lives further. It is better to be safe than to be sorry when it comes to relationships.

See that their health issue physical, mental and emotional well being is well taken care of. Do not treat them like you would treat an assistant in your office. Many women nowadays have to work and also take care of home which is back breaking for them. See that you share some work load and ease their burden. So that they too can breathe fresh air.

Make sure that you maintain a proper emotional bonding with women be it your grand mother, mother, sister, spouse or daughter or any woman in the family. Se to it that they are comfortable in your company and feel welcome to the best extent possible. Be just and fair with all relationships do not give more importance to one over another.

If you have any differences with them speak and sort things out and do not expect them to think and speak the way you would want them to or the answer you are expecting to hear from them. Give them the freedom to speak their mind and allow them to release their pent up emotions or frustrations which they too will have. It is natural and normal so do not make a big fuss of it.

In any relationship difference of opinions do crop up it is natural more so in the case of humans. If there are any please sort the things out before going to bed. See to it that, that particular day’s problems get sorted out that day only it is good to start the next day on a fresh and positive note.

Hope the above information is useful for readers to build and have a healthy and positive relationship which both the parties will cherish for their life time. While celebrating International Women’s Day is good, it is better to think on a daily basis rather than plan on a yearly note for relationships to stay strong and cemented.

March 8, 2017 at 4:56 pm

I think the best way is to respect women, and maintain a distance, especially those who are not our mother, wife or sister.
Even with mother, wife or sister, we need to regard their feelings and not be aggressive or dominating with them.

March 8, 2017 at 5:03 pm

Happy Women’s Day. You are right when you elaborated some of the rights of women and how people should regard them as human beings with rights and feelings. I am happy because so many people now appreciate and treat women the way they should be.

March 8, 2017 at 9:20 pm

@PEEUSH TRIKHA

Totally agree with your view regarding maintaining distance out of respect especially with people who are not related to us or those whom we know very little about or strangers. We should see that they do not feel uncomfortable with our presence due to ego, attitude or any sort of domination as mentioned by you even in the case of family members. As long as they feel comfortable with our communication or our presence and would feel not intimidated by our presence it is ok, or else it is better to understand and keep off from them. Appreciate your view in this regard.

March 8, 2017 at 9:35 pm

@acelawrites

Happy to hear from you and feels good to know that people nowadays treat women the way they should be treated with respect. But there are many places in the world where woman are discriminated for different reasons. Like in the case of salary, facilities which are not gender neutral in many countries especially in the private sector, women having to fight a lone battle to get their due rights which are enshrined and guaranteed in the various constitutions of different countries, lack of social justice, lack of financial independence, having to take up the total burden of the complete household and also work outside which takes a toll on their health and many more such reasons.

While it is good to know of success stories and the respect women are getting in some segments of society or industries and companies. It is still unfortunately the majority of women who seem to be suffering especially in the third world countries and in the villages. This problem in my opinion has to be ironed out by the respective countries and their authorities which will take some time but will ultimately change for the better. Best wishes and regards.

March 8, 2017 at 9:49 pm

Treat a woman like fellow human being. Generally, a wife enters your house expecting some hope and support from you. If you deny them, she will go shattered and the trouble starts and may go to any extent. Of course, no lady is timid nowadays to bear with tauntings of the husband. There are still some ladies who are docile and degrade themselves and consider themselves born to serve a husband. They can not be altered at any cost at this length of time. Their husbands I do not know what word should I use for them……calling names is not sufficient.  So better I am leaving the choice to the readers.

Of course, at this length of time, they can not disobey their husbands. They only respect him for their age…the question of love …in my opinion …after so much of suffering is impossible to exist. Still, these husband dogs consider themselves as great, eat the pension of their wives, do not take proper care of the health of their wife.

He always expects his wife to seek his permission even to attend her father who is about to collapse in hours and still expects his wife to prepare a single roti/chapati for his dirty evil stomach full of all diseases found in the medical dictionary.

We can call them STRAY DOGS.

March 8, 2017 at 10:04 pm

Thank you for expressing your point of you in a very direct way. Yes even I have seen many families going through such situations and that continues till years. I fully agree with you when these husbands should just mind their business when they are in no position to do anything and the poor lady has to slog and do everything from A to Z  they still put conditions and restrictions which make it difficult and life miserable for the woman which is a sorry state of affairs. Many of these men even derive sadistic pleasure in seeing their wives slogging and still make them run for each and every small thing which even they can well take care of.

Especially in the Indian scenario we have many such woman facing troubles and still they would never want anything to happen to their husbands. One may call them old fashioned or foolish but that is how they are their mind has conditioned to be since childhood. Even if one of these woman would try to raise a voice she is told to keep quiet by her own parents, brothers, others relatives and the society as a whole. Thus her cry for help is muted and she ends up suffering thinking it is her fate. This certainly will take time to change but the situation will certainly change in the due course of time.

March 9, 2017 at 11:16 am

In the world where women are kept in subordinate position,even in the most developed countries,where women are seen as physical objects,where theyface voilence in home and outside,where a single woman is not viewed with respect, where they are asked to cover themselves because others have dirty eyes,where they are treated as servants …I find it funny to celebrate women’s day.

March 9, 2017 at 9:47 pm

@Manju

I agree with your view that when we look at society and the world in general this is the feeling one gets regarding celebration of Women’s Days. It is very ironical when seen in many different contexts. That is the sad reality which we are faced with today in different parts of the world. But I find things are slowly changing no doubt it is a long drawn out battle in the struggle for woman’s emancipation. Hope is what makes on go through the struggle and adding to this are some of the famous personalities who happen to be woman. And the good thing is this number is increasing which is a positive trend.

But this is going to take a long time and people wanting such a change  have to be ready for the long haul. But I hope many of the things  which you have stated and which are true will undergo change one by one as the mindset of the society will undergo a change for the better. It really pains one to see what all you described happen and sometimes happen repeatedly. It makes one feel distressed.  We can only  hope things change  and do what is personally possible from our side by highlighting the issue in various fora. Appreciate your inputs and participation

March 9, 2017 at 9:59 pm

Celebrating this day is a bit ridiculous. Everyone should celebrate everyday for the life they have. OK. We as woman finally have freedom and respect to do as we please, not in every country but most of them.

We celebrate almost anything now a days, there is a day for almost everything also. I think that if we were to celebrate Woman’s day it would be more to celebrate how we finally have freedom of speech, how we can choose how we want to live our lives, how we can finally pursue the dream that we want.

March 9, 2017 at 10:45 pm

@sarah Freitas

Happy to hear your view and appreciate the same. In our country and many parts of the world it has now become a fashion to celebrate different days especially by manufacturers who need business and have a large segment of the population in the country from whom they want business and profits. I find these companies and shops or malls put one offer or the other for one reason or the other. They seem to be more interested in the money than the spirit behind this. This is a materialistic trend which is now a worldwide trend due to the coming of big MNC’s and big names among the local companies.

The moment this day is over they come up with a big advertisement for something else and make it a occasion to sell their products. So for them it is one day or the other for all the 365 days of the year. These days have unfortunately become moneymaking propositions. Majority of the companies who are involved are the fmcg sector,  jewellery, clothing, online sites to name a few of them. Hope they use these occasions to highlight something useful rather than making money out of this.