December 26, 2016 at 10:49 pm

Childhood is a time with many happy memories and some sad moments for most of the children. Each child has a unique personality and cannot be compared with another. They may be good in some activities whereas  in others they may be found wanting. Accept children how they are, no doubt there is always scope for improvement which can be done in a patient way. Especially with today’s children they have a totally different setup compared to when we were young and one generation of childhood cannot be compared to the other, especially today’s children.

There are potential stresses involved both at the home and at the school where they spend almost more than 16 hours of their active daily life. Majority of the parents tend to drive the children to do what they would want them to do or they would want them to achieve what they could not achieve during their childhood years for some reason or the other. This puts pressure on the child to perform and live not for themselves but for somebody else.

In the process of doing this which they do not want to, they end up losing their childhood under emotional stress and tension which is repressed, which they cannot express to their parents which affects their personalities at one stage or the other in their lives and creates unhappiness at not being able to do what they would like to and leads to emotional, psychological and behavioral  conflicts which get embedded in their mind unknowingly which neither they not their parents or other will come to know.

This creates a rift in the relationship which ultimately gets strained and damaged becoming a irreversible pattern difficult to address.  Here are a few suggestions which may help you to give  a good, happy and memorable childhood to your child. Which will make them emotionally and psychologically better evolved individuals. The results of which you will cherish later in your life when they grow up.

Communicate with your child well that is the first step in building a relationship. If this is done since a young age they will feel comfortable to approach you for any difficulty which they may be going through. They will have the hope that whatever the world says at least my parents will be there for me in both good and bad times.

Spend half an hour to one hour minimum a day with your children. Just help them with little things and listen to them. If they try to tell something do not be opinionated  and prejudge what they are going to say or just brush their views under the carpet. You will be surprised that you will be able to know many things which you would have never thought the child is capable of thinking. Be the wall on which the child can bounce his ideas, thoughts and views.

Help your child in making up their own decisions do not attempt to do helicopter parenting which most of us unknowingly get involved in with all the best and noble intentions. A child who knows how to make decisions and has honed those skills will be mentally tougher and will be better equipped to face any challenge or situation which life will present. If some mistakes are committed in the process do patiently correct them.

Allow your child to commit errors in his childhood and give him an opportunity to correct himself  and see that he does not end up committing  blunders when he grows up. An error during childhood is like an insurance policy for reducing future blunders when they become an adult. Guide them if required by not getting involved directly. Teach them to solve their own mistakes and fight their own battles of life.

See that children do not spend too much of time either on books, games, online games, mobiles or any outdoor activities. Teach them time management as that is a crucial aspect of today’s life. Do not try to overindulge them. Be cheerful with them and do not have a grumpy disposition when spending time with them. Make sure at least one parent is their with them in their formative years. It is a very crucial aspect which is often neglected in nuclear families especially as both parents work. If you have to work try to do it from the house, at least one parent as it makes a huge impact on child’s life.

Try to teach indirectly through educative games or taking the child to different sports or activities as it takes some time for the child to decide and choose what he likes to do, so give exposure before getting him committed. Tell him to decide and think it over for sometime as once he chooses the activity he has to stick by it and pursue it. Who knows it may be his best decision. Do not decide for your children, only help them in their decision making efforts. Tell them to do what they feel happy doing as long it is sensible.

During weekends go for an outing and find out in an indirect way how they are coping with the issues on their hand and what are they looking to achieve. One needs to have a panoramic view and not a myopic view. Check all issues and address them and spend time and reduce their emotional, psychological and physical pressure. Do not play mind games, take them into confidence by telling them what you think clearly.

Exposure is the best form of education and experience which will help them to evolve well. Put responsibility according to their age. Tell them to finish them for them to earn what they deserve. This will teach them respect for labor, work, responsibility and rewards. They will be more contented and will understand the ways of the world better.

If at anytime they are really unwell and would want to take some time off tell them to decide, unless it is something serious which a parent has to decide. This will help them understand their limitations and their strengths. Tell them to accept their limitations and work more on their strengths. They can and will always learn and overcome their limitations during the course of growing up.

Experience is the best teacher, allow them to experience life and learn what it has to teach. Practical lessons life has to give will never go waste, they will understand this as they gain experience from facing the good, bad and ugly situations in life. They will also understand that life and time is a great healer in the due process.

While for some of you this may sound easier said than done, there is no harm in making an attempt for our child’s future Hope this information about some of the fundamentals of bringing a physically, emotionally strong, happy child will help you in improving to be a better parent and guide for your children.

December 27, 2016 at 12:43 pm

Absolutely. Don’t limit the child’s environment. Let them experience everything as long as for the betterment of their lives. Parent’s role is to guide the children. Let them discover their skills and capabilities through interacting with others or playing with others.

December 27, 2016 at 1:33 pm

Thank you for sharing your inputs about the article which is a complex subject to deal with for many parents  in today’s world. Many of the parents are trying to fix children into one particular thing or the or the other thus enforcing their views on the child. This observation made me write this article. Have a great day.