May 5, 2016 at 5:58 pm

@jentleheart Our kids really give us lots of power, more than we can imagine. Glad that you were able to think of that when you were feeling so depressed.

I always have that thought when I was depressed about my work. But now when I think about it, it’s just work, and why I’d die because of not meeting the deadline? That’s so silly! I didn’t have kids at that time, and I guess I just couldn’t handle the stress and wanted to escape from it. Glad that I didn’t really take action.

Now I always ask myself this question: Is this essential or important in my life? How can I make a change in order to make it better if this is disturbing me?

Actually another way for me to relieve my stress is to come online and express myself. Sometimes I might just want to write it out, and I’ll feel better. 🙂

Let’s move forward!

May 5, 2016 at 6:25 pm

I talk to my husband first and he’s the only one I talk to about what troubles me. When I was still single, iut was my younger sister who I’m best buds with. But since she now lives in a different place, I always go to my husband to seek advise, to be comforted etc. I know that men are not good listeners but my husband is and thats why I feel lucky just to have him in my life

May 5, 2016 at 7:04 pm

I have to disagree with this statement: “But we don’t realize that being alone is just making things worse for us. ” On the contrary, I find being alone is helpful for me to figure things out and decision on the course of solutions. 

Sure, it is nice to talk to your friends or your family, but each one of them will advise you to do something totally impossible in your situation, and ended up more confusing than before.

When all else failed, it is best to pray and find a solution to move on!

May 5, 2016 at 10:47 pm

It really depends. If I am feeling depressed, which usually happens a lot times lately, I tend to keep it to myself. I deal with it alone. Before, I used to be sharing everything with my bestfriend, but I felt that I am giving her an additional weight on her shoulder. She have her own problems to deal with so I must be taking care of my own problem. Actually, I only share because it lightens me up a bit. I also needs some advises, though some are not applied because it still depends on my situations.

There are problems that I really don’t know how to handle so I ask people especially technical stuff, however, there are some that I keep to myself because it is too personal, degrading and I know it will be hard on the other person hearing me suffering, so I am also counting how I will make them feel. When this comes, I keep it to myself. I deal with it alone. On some problems, I surpassed it, but not a lot.

May 12, 2016 at 2:38 am

I think when I have a problem and need to take a step away from people, I will try to find a creative outlet and see if that will help. If it was something to do with work, I would put my heart into being with my children and not thinking about work. If is something concerning my children, I will turn to my sister or my friend and see if they could watch the children for a couple of hours so I can have some much needed time alone. Of course, I do not ask this very often because I do not want to just push my children on to other people, but as a single mother sometimes it is necessary.

May 14, 2016 at 6:41 pm

Just a request @jentleheart.

Can we have a photo or picture to go along with this group. It looks a little empty at the moment. You can download free images from Pixabay.com

June 21, 2016 at 6:41 pm

If I feel so low, I need to be alone and have reflection of what makes me in a failure. I don’t usually speak to others about the problem. I need sometime to figure it out by myself first. Then, I will consult and reach out some people for possible advices. Eventually, I will have the final decision of my own.

July 7, 2016 at 6:50 pm

When I feel that all has been said and done I walk away from that trouble. I am very good at spending time on my own so getting away from it is not a hard thing for me to do. I will either just take a trip to spend some time with someone who will not share negative vibes with me and that will get away all the troubles that might be in my mind.

July 7, 2016 at 6:55 pm

I think we all have different ways of dealing with issues in our lives. and I tend to think that time alone can help solve issues as opposed to being with people, but like you have said @icybc when all fails the best thing is to commit it in prayer well said

October 25, 2016 at 9:06 pm

I used to have a friend I could talk to on a daily basis. We would talk for hours on end but somehow things have changed and now we don’t talk as much. I feel so alone with no one to talk to. He was my best friend. My only friend.

October 26, 2016 at 12:03 am

When I need some space to myself, I move away from everything. Usually when things atent working for me or aren’t going my way, I will always try to find something fun to do or travel away from it all. If am not able to do that then I engross myself in stuff that will distract my thoughts.  Many are the times when things have weighed heavily on me to the point of giving up on doing anything entirely. This can sink someone into depression very fast but I always keep reminding myself that God out me in this world for a reason and a purpose. Am still here because I have not fulfilled my purpose in this world. So thinking positive is a good way to push on.

December 15, 2016 at 11:25 pm

For me when all else fails… Pray.

for the longest time i wasn’t happy with a lot of things  in my life and this led to a lot of disappointments, i would start a business, it picks but a couple of months in, it would collapse, i would get employed, three months in nothing is working so i get fired, business partners, everything would just go wrong, many at times i used to blame myself, till one time someone told me pray.

I always prayed, to me it was that simple, i doubled in the prayer session, joined a novena group,went  to church,  you name it i did it, buts still nothing worked. Finally, i went back to the person and asked them what am i doing wrong? i pray, go to church,i do novenas often but still nothing and she told me, listen to the voice of God, it will guide you.

One time almost four months ago, i was in church and the priest kept talking bout people joining a group for young adults, the first couple of sundays i ignored it, till this particular sunday, it was like he was talking to me, from the sermon to the preaching to the invite. After church, i walked out and crazy enough the, joining tent was on my path out of the church, so joined the group.

To my surprise,  i met like minded people, with diversity of cultures, lifestyles, and character… te group is filled with both single and married people, single parents…. i couldn’t believe  things i hated doing now i do and enjoy them, one being hiking, they got me out of my comfort zone, and now almost 3  months in I’m in the leadership team. i found my prayer.

it wasn’t kneeling down and praying but focusing my strengths into a different channel, church work. get to do what i love and i finally enjoy it.

this prayer, showed the side of me that i never want to be, it showed me why i failed, it showed me what i was doing wrong. and i’m forever grateful, to the person who told me to listen to Gods voice. indeed it has shown me the way

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December 17, 2016 at 7:24 pm

I admit that sometimes when i feel like just being alone, i do just that sometimes it drpends on what made you to have certain feelings or who did what. Most of the time when i find myself alone its always about someone doing me wrong. And being the scorpio that i am i will ve quiet won’t say a thing and just keep it quiet for a while, and as am doing that i keeping myself busy and listening to my favorite music. When i ginally get enough of the music and i feel more calm i usually just approach my best friend and just open up to her and we chat after that am good and everything resumes back to normal.

April 28, 2017 at 11:52 am

At those times it is natural to feel like shutting us down from the world and not talking to anyone and let the time just pass. I usually am like that. I will go to a room and spend some time alone analyzing the problem, the cause of the consequence. As the time goes by I will relax and talk to my best friend about it.

I know to be alone at times like these will not help and will only make the situation worse. Also, we will end up in unwanted negative thinking. By doing this we will not get a solution until we talk it out to someone who will understand you and gives us some suggestions and ideas to tackle the problem. It is good to have people who will not only share your happiness but also share your pain.

Another way which will help is by writing it down in our diary or in a journal. This is actually an effective way to relieve the stress. Writing it down and looking back at it after some time or some days after the problem is over we will have a sense of confidence that will boost our energy and gives us the strength to tackle any problem easily the next time.