May 13, 2016 at 12:45 pm

First, I tell myself before starting this post “Really, I am the one will start this post knowing I have a low self-esteem and always negative????”.

Second, yes I am starting this post and I don’t care!

Third, I am negative and I have low self-esteem too, but not 24/7. I could be someone very positive if you need some lifting up. Even if I have my own problem, when someone ask my help, I help them when I can help because it lifts a single thorn stab on my should, not literally, though, but internally. That is good in something bad already, isn’t it? You still able to help people in the midst of you having your own problem to deal with.

I remember a classmate during high school. She said that they have many tables already and she was even happy. I did not get her words but she told me the whole story. When her parents had a fight one night, her dad crushed the glass dining table they were having for 10 years. This table has been with them for quite a long time and very expensive. While they were cleaning the dining area, she told her siblings that they have a lot of tables as the table cracked and there were pieces everywhere. That was a humor actually. I told her, nope, what good on something bad on that story is that good thing her ill-tempered dad crushed the table and not her mother’s face. No offense meant, just a part of an explanation.

Do you have a story?

May 13, 2016 at 1:19 pm

@grecy095 This is a very beautiful forum topic. I believe that whenever we help someone, we light a candle that dispels our own darkness and you are more aware of other people’s problems when you are in pain yourself.

Those who have known me for long know that i had given birth to daughter 15 years ago. Her lungs were not fully developed and right after birth there were complications.

Her death changed me a lot. It taught me to be more grateful for all things that I have and not to forget those people who lack many things in life. In her memory, I give away clothes, books, toys, blankets, even socks and shoes to those who need it because I keep thinking, if she was here with me I would buy these things for her.

I am sorry to say that i was living a very carefree life in a bubble and not very aware for poverty, sickness and problems all around me. Her death opened my eyes and now I begin each day with a thanks for all that I have. I believe my daughter and i will unite in heaven one day so I have not really lost her.

May 13, 2016 at 1:25 pm

@dawnwriter oh sissy, I never thought you have that kind of situation until you open up. It leaves my mouth open while reading it and I cried. You lose someone very special to you. I know you will never move on from it, you will never forget her, but you are doing this on a positive side. I love learning you donated toys, clothes, blankets, etc. I know you did not lost her for sure one day you will be seeing each other but not too soon, okay. We still need you, we need each other here. I am glad that despite that heavy story of yours, which I think when it happened to me will crush me for sure. I admire you for being strong and continue living. I am proud of you for sharing this one. Do you feel everyone of us are getting intimate now? We are getting closer and closer to each other.

June 21, 2016 at 7:29 pm

When father died, we found the traitors in the family, friends and relatives. The bad thing is we lost our beloved father and good thing is we found the true colors of people surrounding us. I was thinking that even from the last journey of my father to be buried under the ground. He still showed us the people who are not trustworthy. I must admit that we had lost people whom we thought are good friends. The mere fact, they are not.

June 22, 2016 at 5:34 am

@shavkat I still feel bad that you lost your father but I guess the good cause is that you finally know who are the people you should trust. Yes, I do believe it was your father who showed you the people who will be there through thick and think for you and your family to be careful for them.

June 22, 2016 at 7:59 am

@grecy You said it right. It was really a good thing we found the people who can be trusted. I just felt bad that we never did bad things to them. So I agree that bad things can bring good things to us.

July 18, 2016 at 4:52 pm

Okay it’s okay to start this thread after all we all have something negative about ourselves, in fact if anything I think this is the right platform, you will be shocked that even if you are a negative person most of the time, you still help people this is like a therapy for you if you don’t know. because through this advices that you give it will make you realize that you can actually also apply it on yourself and become a more positive person life so keep up and you just might be shocked one day

July 18, 2016 at 4:58 pm

@downwriter wow your story is quite something its a mazing how kids change us and what they do to us. I can only imagine the kind of pain that you had to undergo when you lost your child, but God knew why like you said you used to be a carefree person before you got her and that taught you how to be humble and appreciate the little things in life. so I sometimes think things happen for a good reason and that’s why we are told sometimes to just let go off somethings and let God work out the rest. am glad that you accepted your daughter’s death and that you are okay now.

July 18, 2016 at 5:03 pm

@shavkat I too lost my father and it was very hard to deal with the fact they he was not going to be there anymore, and it is through that time that we got to know the people that are for us and those that are not. we saw the true colors of people, some people are total users all they want to grab what you have and leave you there suffering but God is always watching over his children.

July 26, 2016 at 3:32 pm

@grecy, I am happy to see you in good health again.Iam happy your liver no longer requires operation. I remember those days how you suffer the agony of your sickness and the need of money. I hope that you will follow your doctor’s order.

July 27, 2016 at 5:26 am

I am good at finding good from something bad and last year’s min tornado that visited is the perfect example  What I saw was nothing but devastation but to see those chopped trees and then getting new shoots and fruits that could be hand picked is one good thing I saw in there. The water tank falling down and the other one being raised to cat to the area that particular tank was providing proved to be a blessing as the force of water incrAesed all over.

I could go on and on as I have the ability to look at those silver linings in any clouds that visit me.

August 14, 2016 at 9:28 am

I want to share the story of a friend. She was living in Leyte before and one of those that became a victim of Typhoon Yolanda. She shared a wonderful opportunity to me way back in 2012 and it is called Bubblews that is why we became friends. As I said, she is one of the the victim of Typhoon Yolanda in 2013 and was very devastated. I donated my earnings from Bubblews just to helped her. I withdraw the money to my bank, I asked a good friend who will be going home at Leyte to meet with her. She able to hand over the money to her successfully. She said to me that despite the devastation, she never thought that she will able to know who her real friends are. She said she found it in me. This story is a perfect example of Finding Good in Something Bad.