June 12, 2016 at 4:34 pm

In friendship, it is inevitable to have arguments over something. There are some situations that relationship of being bestfriend forever is starting to fall apart. How can you mend the broken relationship? Do you behave as nothing has happened? If we do such an action, we cannot bring them together to discuss the issue. It is not also healthy to take the side of one and stop speaking to the other.

 Personally speaking, I would try to talk to each one separately about the situation. Then, I will serve as a mediator for the two of them and let them talk in a calm way. In this way, they will find the time to think it over and realized that the argument from the past is not worth to break the friendship.

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June 12, 2016 at 4:48 pm

I would surely want them to get together but in the absence of knowing the whole truth from both sides it would be of no use to try and make them see reason.  At best I could tell both of them that they should try and make up.

June 12, 2016 at 5:19 pm

@bestwriter I think it is not a good idea to be a mediator if we don’t know the whole truth between the two people. It is better to know the sides of the two and never take sides. We need to be balance and weighs things down before saying a piece of advice.

June 12, 2016 at 5:50 pm

This is for sure an unpleasant situation and there is no right or wrong behavior in my opinion. It’s important to communicate because not talking over about what went wrong can make things even worse. And it depends on how important is the argument, if it was not something of extreme importance, probably things can work out in a short term.

June 12, 2016 at 6:49 pm

@Shavkat Best is to wish that they get together.

June 12, 2016 at 7:22 pm

I am always played the role of the main or major mediator of those who have fought over the trivial matters or even the major one. It is really too difficult to handle such situation. However as the head of our agency or the school where I was working, I have to sit, talk to them and settle the issue. Usually, the common issue is gossiping. Spreading false accusation against each other. Investigating the issue takes time. Sometimes the grieving party would settle for the arrangement. In like manner, the culprit won’t accept the commission of the wrongdoing.

However, I have to settle them in the soonest possible time for their work would affect the whole school system and they show a bad example to their students. Well, a closed door interview and a citation of legal impediments are the last recourse. But above all, it should be done in the amicable, most friendly way of settling the grievances. Well, if it couldn’t be settled amicably or in a friendly manner, the last solution is case filing in the court.

June 12, 2016 at 8:31 pm

@Shavkat  I will keep my mouth shut and look somewhere else. I will let them sort their problem out for themselves.

June 12, 2016 at 8:33 pm

@ Shavkat  I have acted as a mediator and tried to pacify both of them and renew the friendship. But I have learnt with experience not to meddle with others’ affairs. It’s best to let them resolve the conflict and not get involved.

June 12, 2016 at 9:10 pm

@nina For some reason, it is not good to end a relationship without knowing the reason why. In some situation, there are instances that the relationship just ended without any communication at all. Common friends can act as a mediator to fix the problem. In the long run, it can be fixed if both of them are willing to save the friendship.

June 12, 2016 at 9:15 pm

@nakitakona13 In case of work-related dilemmas, I do agree that it should be settled as soon as possible. Since it may affect the performance of people who are involved. Gossip is really a strong causal-effect of having arguments between the two people. I, myself hate gossip within the workplace and can’t tolerate it.

June 12, 2016 at 9:19 pm

@suny You have your own reason for keeping yourself away from the fights between the two people. Being an adult, they need to find its way to solve this misunderstanding. But then, we can still be at the middle of the situation.

June 12, 2016 at 9:20 pm

@Shavkat  In your original post you did not mention about any work related problem. If it was the case I would intervene immediately and see that problem is solved before the work is affected.

June 12, 2016 at 9:21 pm

@shaloo I would also do the same thing. If the situation turned to be out-of-control, I will not put myself to be involved in. I just mind of my own business. If they ask help from me, then I can also be their mediator.

June 14, 2016 at 9:24 am

Frankly speaking, it is better not to interfere in their misunderstanding.

Sometimes, when you try to make them up, hoping that with your words of advice, you could help them to bury the hatches, in the end, you are being accused as the traitor or the enemy

There are other ways you can help them but without them knowing that you are behind it.

Get to the bottom of the matter, find the evidence to prove that the other party is innocent or not at fault.

Get someone else or something to speak to that person who had started the fight. Someone who is not so close.

The person who is closer would get back fired sometimes.

June 14, 2016 at 2:01 pm

I think you have the point here. Sometimes if we help other people, it would be at fault. For me, it happens. I will the cut the relationship right away and forget these people.