May 18, 2016 at 6:00 pm

Would you support financially your jobless partner, whether wife or a husband for a long period of time?
( I saw this somewhere and though this could be fun to discuss)
In my country is very hard to find any job, so we use magic and sorcery to produce an extra income.
I think it is normal to support a jobless partner and I would never bring it about and never point that we are doing not so great because my partner is not providing enough or at all.
In terms of cash I am a very lenient and giving person and I think it is very normal and very natural to nurture and respect my partner no matter of the financial situation.
The only thing I expect is that we overcome the difficult times together and not to split up on the first sign of a trouble.
My spouse is also very nice, diplomatic and well balanced by nature so we never had any marital problems over the money like many of our friends.
I also invest a lot in our kid and I have no problem depriving myself of the air I breathe in case that she needs something.
Unfortunately many couples don’t share this reason, so they split up for money and ‘so that the children don’t suffer’ but rarely I met ones who are willing to work out a way out of it without drama and fighting.

Your thoughts about this?

May 18, 2016 at 8:21 pm

@Rapid Blue  my wife was working as a lecturer before our marriage decades before but I forced her to quit her job and in my views she is not jobless. She is perhaps earning more than me by way of supporting me and my only child. I am grateful to her for quieting her job for me and her family.    

May 18, 2016 at 9:04 pm

@Rapid Blue   I think that should depend on the circumstances. If the partner is jobless for a reason( maybe he/she is trying but the efforts are not yielding fruitful results) or may be if one partner decides to quit job for the sake of raising children or some other family problem then it’s a different issue. But if a partner is jobless because of sheer laziness or may be because he is just a parasite living off his partner’s money then it’s a different story altogether. In any case, it should depend on the mutual understanding of the two partners. If one is okay with it then who are us to debate?

@suny  It’s really so sweet of you to give your wife the credit for sacrificing her career for the sake of the family. I wish more and more men should appreciate their wives for being there for their kids and family.

June 1, 2016 at 11:38 pm

Yes I agree with this, because if I think about in the end we are humans and we need great understanding.

Still not have to exaggerate with helpful partner, ie the years pass and pretending not to work at all can sit at home doing nothing all his life.

But if we have a business or earn a living will learn to do so to help my partner so much as I could.

June 4, 2017 at 6:38 am

I feel like it depends on the spouse or the wife. In my eyes a husband and wife is suppose to have each others back regardless of what the situation is but don’t get to comfortable wit jus sittin back and doin nothin becuz we as women can only support or men for a certain amount of time becuz we have to take care of the kids becuz am the only one that is supporting the family at the moment. So I feel its OK but we wouldn’t be able to survive like that forever.

March 27, 2018 at 12:48 am

No one ever chooses to be jobless this is sometging that can happen to anyone anywhere. So yes i would support my jobless husband. But he should not take advantage of my working to stay home and enjoy himself. There is a limit to everything. He ahould also up his game by getting out there and finding something to do, at least show some effort of trying to fend for his family and not solely depend on his woman to do evwrything. Its usually not easy on the guy as well to keep seeing his woman do most of the things in the house it makes them feel needy and am sure most of the guys here will agree qith me on this one. I will be supportive but to a certain extent.

May 30, 2018 at 11:35 pm

You forced her to quit her job? Or was this something that you both agreed to? By saying that you forced her to quit her job seems very selfish on your end. If this is your wife why would you force her to quit her job? Was it bring her a lot of stress? What was the reason behind it, if it was only to support you and the kids than I personally feel there is something wrong there and I would advise you to make sure she is not harvesting any regrets towards you. Because if that is the case things will not end very well.

May 31, 2018 at 12:04 am

It would definitely depend on the reasons to why my spouse is not working. On top of that, it would also depend on what my spouse is doing while they aren’t working. If they are not helping out with the kids or the house, then I feel then that there might be a problem. I understand though that sometimes when things don’t happen like we wish or expect them we tend to have our own pity parties. Due to this I think that I would just wade it out and be as supportive to let them know that they’re not in this alone and as long as we work at it we will and can get through anything.