August 25, 2016 at 11:21 am

Traditionally, the person who leads in the family is the oldest. My father leads the family all throughout the years of existence. Now that he is gone, the eldest child will take his responsibility. Most of the family in the Philippines have the same traditional thinking and cannot be denied by my fellowmen. How about in your country?

August 25, 2016 at 12:19 pm

@Shavkat In my case it is not the same but I let all of the siblings add their suggestions despite being oldest in the family and that too we all living separately.

August 25, 2016 at 2:59 pm

like most traditional families in my case the leader is my father. he was the one who always took the decisions about pretty much everything. anyway I must say I wouldn’t want my own family to be like this. I would waNT me and my husband to take decisions in common

August 25, 2016 at 4:37 pm

@alina my father is no more and my mother went to meet her maker even before so being the eldest I am the head of family but I try to take everyone in account and take a combined decision.

August 25, 2016 at 5:03 pm

@Shavkat  Currently my father is holding all power, and I am really fine with it as I can do well with his experience. I always used to follow his advice even in my work.

August 25, 2016 at 5:34 pm

Personally i tend to believe that the man is the head of the house all over the world. but it could also be different with some people with different cultures. People have different ways to showing it or doing it. there are some families where the lady is the head of the house, because they are the ones who do everything in the house whether there is a man or not. Other families we have are run by single parents.

August 25, 2016 at 5:47 pm

@Anitah Gimase  exactly, I know in many parts of the world woman is head of the family like in our country itself there are many states where the reins of the household is in the hands of women.

@Anand I am sure you are an easy going person so you must be happy under your father’s control 🙂

August 25, 2016 at 6:25 pm

@suny  You know me really well. Yes that is true. I am easy going person and I want peaceful life. I am happy with whatever I have, and don’t want more either. My dad has gave me always good advice, so I am glad to have him.

August 25, 2016 at 6:36 pm

@Anand I hope you remain the same under your father’s kind attention. But I miss my dad who left us for his last journey almost 6 years before. I wish you all the bet in your future life!

August 25, 2016 at 7:18 pm

@ suny  Thanks suny for your kind words. And feel sad about you, I can understand your feelings.

August 25, 2016 at 9:59 pm

@Anand Never mind, I have accepted the fact as it is very much part of the life and we have no control on such things. 

August 26, 2016 at 7:17 am

@sunil In terms of giving opinions about something, my father asked me and the siblings. For the final discretion, it would be the head of the family. My siblings and I are grown up and need to be heard our voice. Unlike when we were still toddlers. I think it would be ideal to talk certain issues within the family circle.

@alina Well, I cannot blame if all final decisions will be from the head of the family. Since it is influenced by culture. It is also pretty much the same in my country. However, the old practices are starting to change with equality in making decisions.

@naruto100 I also do the same thing. I asked advice from the old folks. However, I still have the final decision.

@sauda It all depends on its culture from different countries. I also think the mothers are the light in the house and the fathers are the foundation of the family as a good provider.

August 26, 2016 at 8:40 am

My father always led our family when he was alive as he was the oldest and the male in the family (traditional old style American household).  Now that he’s passed away and it’s just my mother and I we both share responsibility.  My mother does handle the finances though as I don’t have any income coming in at the moment due to being unable to work.  Everything else we pretty much share in decisions about.

August 26, 2016 at 9:03 am

@Shavkat on the contrary my father was kind of dominating, he never asked us but gave us orders and we never hesitated carrying them out.

@Lola My mom was a kind lady who never tried to dictate terms but as far her work culture she was firm and final her decisions. My father always respected her opinion.

August 26, 2016 at 9:56 am

I am married, staying with my in laws

Ironically, it is my mother in law who leads in this family, not my father-in-law

I once was told by my father in law that he was being bullied by her ( his wife).

He said that my mother in law refused to cook for him that he had to cook his own meal

In addition, if he does anything like gardening or cooking, he will be scolded by my mother in law.

I had noticed that it is true.

Then I realized when my hubby told me that her so called “friends” had brained wash her that husband are good for nothing

So, wives should take over the household, be bold, be loud and scold hubby is the right way to “control” him

Anyway, that happens in my in laws household.

Not my own family.