October 6, 2016 at 7:49 pm

In my opinion, a person can be a good friend to a whole family if he or she is true of himself or herself. It is not easy to be loved by the whole family if a person cannot give his or her real colors. Deception is a big NO for the whole family. There should no boundaries in loving someone. In some Asian countries, they do practice of loving someone and be extended to the whole family. There is no limitation and pick which is best in the family members.

October 6, 2016 at 7:56 pm

The thing that makes a person a good friend is being loyal to the people around you and being friendly. Many people think that being friendly is only about being good to your friends and family but it actually means being good to your enemies as well that is what makes a good friend. You have no limits or boundaries when it comes to people and that’s very paramount. Loyalty will make you many friends and will make you trust worthy to everyone around you.

October 6, 2016 at 8:42 pm

@sauda Some people forget the importance of friendship. They also need to respect and be honest. It is a perfect combination to attain loyalty. It is not just saying, friends. Friendship should be earned and find ways to win the trust of others.

October 7, 2016 at 4:43 pm

@Shavkat, at home our parents play favoritism even in school. Being obedient and respectful serve as the bases for appreciating one member in our family. When we have a sister or brother that is so obedient, kind, and thoughtful we tend to like her/him and that is not good for me for in a family there might be a sibling who cannot find a job, or hard to get employment due to lackness of education.That sibling will sense that he/ she might not love or like because he/ she does not have a job.

The feeling to a sister or brother who is nice and thoughtful is different to one that is not caring and thoughtful.

October 7, 2016 at 5:57 pm

@lovern It is sad for some family that there is favoritism. With such situation, it is inevitable to have siblings’ rivalry. I am grateful that there is no such way of treatment at home. On the other hand, I personally dislike seeing teacher’s pet at school. I felt that it is not a fair game. I had seen it during my high school days.

October 8, 2016 at 12:26 pm

@Shavkat, After my parents passed away, it’s my sister that shows favoritism at home and to my other sisters who are living independently.My sister is so concern about my younger sister who is living across the city. My sister , the favorite of my elder sister  is a Chem graduate and assigned in the quality control laboratory in Del Monte Philippines, Incorporated, also her husband a Chemist assigned in Nestle Philippines , Incorporated.Maybe my elder sister feels so proud of her because she is a Chemist  with high salary whereas me, just a Ph.D with two masters.It seems my sister does not see me at home. Just imagine she keeps on calling my sister, whereas, me she never dares to call me if there is flood in our campus during strong train,plus, I am her bread winner. Just imagine that cruelty. I paid all the bills at home that almost reach 6,000 plus and buy her medicine.

That is why, I am so happy to have acquired NZ  work visa so my sister will realize that in my absence she will no longer enjoy the luxury of her living because I won’t anymore finance her that big as when I am with her at home.This is the first time that I share my sentiments in this site and to you direct.

Thank you my friend for hearing my heartaches.

October 9, 2016 at 7:05 am

@lovern I am sorry to hear that. I do think that there are some siblings who showed ungrateful of something. Thank you for sharing your sentiments about it. In my situation, there is no problem in the family. I have all bad experiences at my father’s siblings. That’s the reason why I am working so hard to have a possible of moving out from the family house. They treat as like we are not connected to family’s bloodline. I am sure your eldest sister will realize your absence at this point of time.

October 9, 2016 at 4:34 pm

@Shavkat, thanks friend. You are the first person that I’d shared about my pains at home. I shared big amount to our home more that 1 million, and if save those I spent for them , the more.But because I am God-fearing and when God redeems to judge us, He is going to judge us according to our deeds. I hope somehow my sister will realize how important I am at home. I also pray that I could have a better  life in Auckland.

I also pray that siblings in your father’s side will realize their faults and feel you all as part of their blood.