March 28, 2017 at 7:01 pm

what do ladies give when it comes to love or relationship they give nothing, it is more blessed to give than to receive. When you put relationship a percentage you would find out that like 50% of relationship are struggling because the ladies fouled their hands and allowed the guys take up all the responsibility because he said to her I love you.
Why is most relationships one sided, I have asked this particular question like hundreds of times but still there are no better answer in regards to the Question because ladies run away from it. most ladies are selfish when it comes to relationship and that why we are having broken relationship and marriages and all the blame will be ours the good guy’s.
If a relationship stands today its the guys hard work.

March 28, 2017 at 8:30 pm

I do accept with one thing. Ladies are more selfish when it comes to a relationship….relationship, I mean not the one confined to her husband but to his parents and other relatives.

I know a lady who after marriage started telling some lies about her in-laws and spread them to the neighborhood. The only sin the in-laws committed was accepting the marriage of his only son with this girl. They were remaining quiet. But, the lady was also not bad and was not even torturing them. Just spreading and biting the ears of neighbors.

Suddenly, she left the house and settled in her parent’s house and in spite of several persuasions she did not turn up.

when my friend contacted her as to what has happened and what was wrong with his parents she demanded separation from in-laws for which my friend did not accept. He openly said that it will not be possible to leave them as being the only son and that he would consider it better to be away with her.

The meaning of family in her own words was “Husband and Children only. But not in-laws.

The gap continued for years. My friend lost his parents who became mentally sick as they could not convince their only son nor could they ask him to bring the Granddaughter and Grandson who left the house when they were small kids. They experienced mental torture and finally, they both collapsed.

The gap continued for years (nearly 14 years). One fine day she sent feelers through his only sister-in-law and another friend. They failed in their attempt.

As a final call before deciding to sign the Divorce papers my friend contacted her to show the children and that he had decided to leave her once and for all and before that wanted to see the children. She got some sympathy and showed the children and wanted to listen him taking a house for rent somewhere which will be far away from the relatives of the both.

Suddenly, she turned the plate and said that her father and her unmarried sister will also stay with her. My friend now insisted that he would not allow them in his house and better it would be if they stay in their son’s house.

According to her the definition of family now is “Husband, children, her father (widower) and unmarried sister”.

My friend reminded her of the meaning of family and did not accept her. The father and her sister are also not leaving the house and not allowing her to reach her husband to establish her own family. Her brother is not taking his father and unmarried elder sister and allowing them to stay in his house.

The relationship is finally coming to a collapse.

See how played the entire drama. Even after killing the old aged in-laws there is no change in her mental attitude. She does not know the meaning of love and relationship and not in a position to share these qualities with others except her own relatives and parents.

Is she not selfish and cruel?

March 28, 2017 at 10:35 pm

Thank you for posting this… very interesting.  In the course of my life, I have seen this to be true of both sexes and I believe it comes down to this: The condition of the heart.  Most of the time, people rush into a relationship or marriage and marry for the wrong reasons. There are many broken spirits in this world. Some were born broken and some were allowed to break. I believe it is our responsibility, when seeking a partner, to examine the spirit and condition of the heart. It is said that a person can masquerade successfully for about 6 months, before showing signs of their true nature, perhaps some can pull it off for longer, but there are signs. Most of the time, people are in that “infatuation” stage and choose to ignore these signs and suddenly wake up one day and do not know the person beside them. This is why it pays to really get to know someone before making the decision to pursue a relationship. It is hard to realize we have given our hearts to the “wrong” person, but I believe these things happen for our own growth and maybe even theirs. It is not a fair judgement to say all ladies are selfish. There are very selfish people in this world, both women AND men.  Perhaps if we look deeper into ourselves to find the reason why we are attracted to these kinds of people, we can “heal” our own hearts and love ourselves enough to take the time to find the partner we deserve. Just my thoughts…

March 29, 2017 at 11:47 am

Women back in time used to contribute by taking care of kids, house and everything. I mean everything.

But modern women do nothing. And even if they do anything they quantify it and expect you to do something in return. Most of the modern relationships and marriages are give and take. And it’s funny that men end up giving more but get bashed on the basis of how women were treated in 2 or 3 decades back.

So instead of expecting anything from women in modern times. Just do your best in what you can. Ignore being perfect in any woman’s eyes. Because that pleasing a woman never works. Not with the modern women atleast.

Instead of trying to find out “what one gives”, just do your part and move on in life. Beating yourself for another person not performing well in relationship is surefire way of ending in bad situation.

March 30, 2017 at 6:44 am

Some Women in relationships are selfish.Most of them believe that the man should be the one to shoulder all expenses.It “takes two to tango”.Love should be shared not a burden to one person.
Our sisters or women should know that when they contribute, the relationship becomes sweeter than their expectation.Men taking them to bed should not be the only basis of love or relationship.

April 27, 2017 at 4:35 pm

Selfishness is the order of the day, especially in ladies, this issue is increasing day after day and ladies keep on this behavior we kept on asking why our generation change in such a way and remedy to the situation is not yet proffered and this problem is destroying family, relationship community and nations at large.

Now since the situation we have at hand is trying to be bigger than us now, should we fold our hands and watch our society crumble due to the selfish act of some individuals l believe your answer would be no. Let preached selflessness when it comes to relationship so that our families should stand. Thank you