November 22, 2016 at 5:11 pm

There are parents who display favoritism to their children at home, which many do no like. I, for myself, a victim of this favoritism at home.  My mother died when it was 6 years old and it was our elder sister who took over the responsibility of my mother,but sad, as years go by, my sister showed favoritism at home. Despite in a tender age that time, but I can sense through my eyes how she cares much my sister next to me. I felt my heart prick with jealousy. This is one reason why I posted here about a topic Jealousy Kills, for I was once a victim of this feeling when I was a child.

When I was in college, still my sister showed favoritism to my younger sister. I cannot describe her  fond moments with my younger sister. When talk about grades or performance in school, I always topped and graduated with the highest honor, but my sister, not. She has average IQ.Despite my younger sister has low or average IQ, but she so so beautiful. My sister is so proud her beauty. My sister was adjudged the prettiest girl in our place. She has beautiful eyes, with velvety skin and face. She was once adjudged in her work place as MISS DEL MONTE PHILIPPINES during the beauty contest.

That might be the reason of her favoritism for I am not as beautiful as my younger sister. The feeling sucks.

Image here is me.

November 22, 2016 at 6:12 pm

We cannot deny the fact that favoritism is always in the nature of most.

Parents may say that they do not favorite one, but through there actions, we can discern it. There are many causes of favoritism in the family. Either the child is more intelligent than the other, the child is more appealing and beautiful, or the child is generous than the other and more reasons. It is a challenge to all children who are not the favorite to strive more and gain the parents attention. It is very hard challenge cause sometimes, children will just surrender and ruin their lives because they think they are useless or not important to the family.

Although, there are those parents who did not show their favoritism attitude towards there children which is very good. They treat each child fairly.

*Ma’am Cely you have a nice shot there in your picture. 🙂 

November 23, 2016 at 8:53 pm

Yes, I am guilty of this. I show favoritism towards my youngest child over my older children. The reason why this is because my oldest children do not want to come see me or contact me whereas my youngest is always wanting to come to my house. So I do more for him. Why should I put in more effort for someone that wants nothing to do with me? I still love them but I won’t allow them to use me like they want.

November 24, 2016 at 4:48 am

@nehemia bayawa , Hi? Thanks for your very nice thoughts on this topic. This is very important for if this cannot be given attention, it may lead to possible destruction in a family. What is child’s mid, empty; they cannot explain his feeling . He may become rebellious for he cannot get what he wanted to get from his family.Eben in a class, there are teachers who play favoritism to their students leading others to fee insecure. They might think that they won’t get a passing grade.The students will also complain to their superior,plus the teacher might lost a job after the negative evaluation from the students.

I think favoritism cannot be avoided and denied. There are really sibling that we like and love much than others.Yes, you are right that due to individual differences, human as as we are, favoritism cannot be avoided, but at lest the parents must not show it to other children. They truly feel insecure.

November 24, 2016 at 4:56 am

@evilelf , I thin you are not guilty my dear. For me that surely happens for they never appear  at your home to check your status and to pay respect your feeling of missing them, so they have to come to hug and kiss you, to mean they miss and love you too, and only the youngest always showed up and that is how when a person always cares us.

What you are doing is not favoring one, but it’s they who refused to be loved and cared about anything. I also appreciate your youngest boy for  he has the heart on  you.I know that when the elder children  see  or visit you, your heart will also jump for joy. If they won’t do it even once a month, then someday, somehow, they will also experience what you experience now.