August 9, 2016 at 8:37 pm

Our family house was built in 1948. Since my father died 2 years ago, his siblings wanted to sell it. They wanted to have their own shares. Recently, the family feud is starting to circulate among my father’s siblings. I am not taking seriously at this point time. If it happens that they sold the house, we just need to have our share and find a new shelter for us. The only thing that makes us sentimental is being in this place for so many years. There are so many memories lingered in every corner of the house.

August 21, 2016 at 12:11 pm

I moved away from my family’s neighborhood due to the fact that I had to make a life and there was no way I could get a salary that would allow me to lead a decent life-style over there. now we visit each other from time to time

August 21, 2016 at 1:01 pm

i had been staying here my current house for the past 22 years.

Good thing that me and hubby bought this house under our name.

My in laws stayed with us but they told neighbors that they bought the house and gave it to us.

We were surprised until lately my neighbor told me this news, which after my in laws had moved to one of her sons house.

Anyway, you are lucky that your dad’s siblings are willing to share the money after the hse is sold.

My father-in-law house was sold but he put the heir under his  oldest son’s name.

He refused to share the money even though my father-in-law had told him to do so.

So, you are really really lucky.

August 21, 2016 at 5:16 pm

@alina I understand what it is coming from. I will also do the same thing in chasing my dream to a have a quality life. My mother had done this during her younger years.

@peachpurple It wasn’t that lucky my dear friend. Once we moved out and had our shares from my father’s sibling. The relationship will be cut too. My father side doesn’t consider us their family. Basically, we are going to leave our past behind that includes them.

August 21, 2016 at 5:54 pm

http://172.104.9.193/members/shavkat/

Ah, this is the normal reaction for your dad’s sibling because they find that it isn’t fair for them to share with u eventhough you have the right to have the share.

In other words, jealousy, they can’t stand it.

They wanted to have all the share.

But in my opinion, you should be happy that you got the share.

I would rather cut off the relationship with them since they don’t treat you as part of the family.

Better than not getting a single cent.

Ps, I know because it happened to us too

August 21, 2016 at 6:20 pm

@peachpurple Thank you for the understanding. We haven’t got the share. But it will happen soon. With this kind of situation, I take it lightly and go with the flow of circumstances.

August 21, 2016 at 6:33 pm

http://172.104.9.193/members/shavkat/

yeah, go with the flow, ignore them if they are too much

August 21, 2016 at 9:38 pm

@peachpurple I will, my dear friend. It has been years that we don’t communicate with them. We act as casual as possible to my father’s siblings.

August 23, 2016 at 12:41 am

Let me speak for myself right now i have lived in our family neighbourhood for the longest time. Since i finshed my high school I have been living there until now. I am so attached to this place that when I think of living I feel like something huge is missing in my life. I know I can’t stay here forever I will eventually have to leave to start my life over again

August 23, 2016 at 10:11 am

@anitah I know that some things are temporary. We may  leave the place, but the memories will remain in our heart. It is a priceless that can never be forget.

August 23, 2016 at 11:21 am

@Shavkat I sold my share in my ancestral house to my siblings and bought another one in the same city long ago. I am glad our relations are normal and we can still visit each other without any problem.

@Anitah Gimase  I chose a place about 16 km away from my ancestral house in an open area with lots of trees and space for gardening and having all modern facilities which were not available in my old house.

August 24, 2016 at 5:54 am

@suny That’s nice it turned to out to be fine. The 4 hectares of my grandpa in mother side has a big problem. The youngest sister of my mother committed fraud and tried to grab the land. I took an action and filed an Adverse Claim. I don’t know what’s going in this world. But the family just let it go and move on to our lives. I still cling to my belief in bad karma will takes its course.

August 24, 2016 at 9:24 am

@Shavkat Actually I have learned to live with the situation so I do not want to make it complicated for myself going against the tide or think too much about problems. I take them all in my stride and feel satisfied even with  smaller gains.

August 24, 2016 at 9:42 am

@ Shavkat  I have been living at my current house since 2004. We were living in another city but due to some family problems, we had to move. My father sold that house and we shifted to the current city I am living in. In any case, my father always wanted to move back here as this is our native place and all my fathers’ brothers are living here. Fortunately I won’t be facing any of such problems as I am the only child of my parents.

August 24, 2016 at 10:33 am

@shaloo walia I wish I could say that because I would be shifting to another country in near future permanently and I will have to sell my present house within next year or so. I have been living here for years now although being in a job I have stayed and lived in many places in between.