May 29, 2016 at 4:21 am

Some times a family consists of “his” children, “her” children and “their” children.  I guess you could say a blended family.

I had 2 children by my husband and we divorced and I had another child by another man.  My youngest son treats his step-dad just like his real dad, I think even more so.  Both of my older sons have children by different woman that they are married to.  The oldest son has another child and  also has a child by the woman he’s going to marry and she has two children from two different relationships.  The middle son has two children by another woman and the woman that he is married to has 5 children by other relationships.

Are you in a “blended” family/or do you have a blended family?  Do you treat each other the same?

May 29, 2016 at 7:16 am

We aren’t blended in the usual sense. I have four kids, all with my husband, and neither of us had any kids before. My parents also had just me and my sister, and have been together now for over 50 years.

But hubby’s family was a little unconventional. His mother divorced and remarried, so my kids and I always thought of his stepfather as the primary FIL/grandfather on his side. And because he and his sisters were all raised separately, it sometimes feels like a blended family.

We still all treat each other the same, though. There’s no difference between full siblings of half-siblings, or between parents and step-parents. We just all love each other.

May 29, 2016 at 6:46 pm

I guess when you treat someone a family, he or she is a family whenever he or she came from, even not blood related. I am not blended family. I am inside a family, with my parents and siblings. My sister has her family now, her husband and my nephew. Aside from that, is the original family. I never been married and I am not seeing myself getting there either.

May 29, 2016 at 9:35 pm

You’re absolutely right, though mostly you give up a relationship and have a baby, I think we must consider the well who we close, because not often one who wants to have a relationship with us can accept and with one or two children.

However my parents broke up 16 years ago, and now I can say that my adoptive father was like it was the first time be my real father.

Everything depends on us and how much we want to be a fulfilling family and a great character to be able to pass any weight.

June 21, 2016 at 5:59 am

http://172.104.9.193/members/4cryingoutloud/

wow, your family members included your own children are different from our Asian culture.

Normally, when a woman is divorced, she either remarries or stay single.

However, she would not encourage or allow her own children to do the same, divorce or remarry and give birth to another child with different spouse.

Most people here who are divorced are considered as “Problematic Person”.

So, they are cast aside as “weirdo”. That is very sad and injustice but that is the way of life here

Married couples do not divorce easily in our country because of this assumption from the public.

So, children are always “Ours”. There isn’t his, hers, or theirs.

Just ours.