July 6, 2016 at 4:51 pm

i come fro a family where we are very loving towards each other and we have the unity that a family needs to have to keep it going. but there is this thing fro relatives or outsiders that really makes me mad or gets me thinking why people do the things they do. for instance you may have a big enough house where you can host visitors, so you decide to host a relative for sometime providing everything that they need, but after sometime you realize that there are certain things that are going right in the house or stuff is missing or you and a member of your family are suddenly not getting along. so you decide to get to the root of it all only to find out that the relative ha you were hosting is the reason for your clashing what would you do would you throw hem out of your house and never contact them or would you sit them down and ask hem why they did what they did.

July 6, 2016 at 5:33 pm

family is family if there is a problem among the family the family members themselves are the one to helping to get things in disarray settled your problem you presented it here is typical happening to any family for that matter it couldn’t be avoided the point there is to keep to be frank to them that your family has worked for that to get those valuables for your own family to value to be proud of to be happy about it if I were in your place I would get angry too however it wouldn’t make that person be embarrassed in front of my visitors I would call him in private and to talk to him in that case our family would be broken our relationship would be still intact we have still a good relationship and others especially the visitors would be distracted, would be disturbed or even embarrassed that is I think the properly of handling things in the family in trouble and what we h ave done to our family could also affect our community status our regards to the eyes of our friends, neighbors in our case we do have a high regards with our family for we believe that family could be together if you still remember there is an oft-quoted phrase that says the family that pryas together stays together so there should be order there should be a good communication to avoid clash in the family this comment of mind is very well understood if it is written in order I did this purposely in reaction to your post here I think anyone would be confused of reading it what do you think communication is well understood if there is order think about that.

July 6, 2016 at 6:23 pm

My family is so close together. We don’t care what other people say about my family. It is not our concern to explain anything to them. It is not also healthy to confront these nibblers.

July 6, 2016 at 7:49 pm

I have not encountered this yet but my sister in law did

She invited her younger sister and her family to stay with her since her younger sister’s house was under renovation.

For a few months, they had been living there under one roof, eating, sleeping, using literally everything that her sister owned.

Of course, her hubby doesn’t feel at home when they had “occupied” his favorite chair, sofa, food, snacks, etc.

Then one day, she even used her sister’s car and “kissed” a strangers car.

Of course, she wasn’t going to pay for the accident.

She insisted that the owner of the car was her sister and she had to deal with the stranger , insurance and police statement.

That was the final draw when she kicked her sister’s whole family out.

You see, family members take for granted, they don’t appreciated the good things they had received.

July 7, 2016 at 6:04 am

Third party interference is quite common. It is best that you deal with it in the manner that is most suited even if it means asking the person to leave.

July 7, 2016 at 9:52 am

I have yet to find someone in that category in my household but if I ever did I will get rid of them right away because I am not the one that tolerates a trouble monger around my household or workplace.