May 17, 2016 at 1:43 pm

My husband always said I was too naive and I seemed to live in a separate world from others, I did not know school bullies existed in our days and even in my school.

I stayed in the hostel when I was in high school, so I got to know friends from different grades and classes as well. But, I have not met any bullies before. I am really sorry to hear so many children have been bullied.

I think parents should always pay attention to the children, so if anything goes wrong, they can find out earlier. If the victim does not speak out, nobody else will know about it and can’t help either.

@lolaze I am sorry to hear you have gone through those. Yes, I agree with you, we should teach our children to stand up, defend and protect themselves.

@nakitakona13 I agree with you. I don’t think bullies actually wanted to be bullies at the first place, they did not just wake up and plan to make others’ life miserable. I guess they are lacking of love and security from their family. Hopefully the teachers or counsellers can take some actions and help them too.

May 17, 2016 at 4:43 pm

I was only bullied by my older sister but I never did allow anyone else to bully me – didn’t take it from anybody else either. Growing up I was always the weird one, different and usually quiet and I keep most to myself. I have few (as in few) friends who I can really depend on. One time, there was this bully who came over me and tried to make a move on me,. I looked at her intently in the eye and tried my best to look “Go ahead, try me” then she backed off. And she did that to me more than once but I never flinched, not once. So she left me alone.

I always keep in mind that bullies smell fear and if you show any sign of it, they will always take the opportunity to pester you until you become depressed. I never fought with anyone at school, I never do what others did. I only look and look I will until you do what I want – to leave me alone.

That was how it was for me.

May 18, 2016 at 9:59 pm

@peachpurple it has different situations here. Some poor families, those who are hollering around the streets are the bullies of the streets as they are throwing stones to the cars. At school, some kids who have anything because it was all given by his or her parents, bully someone, thinking that he or she can get all, even making other students uncomfortable of their presence.

May 19, 2016 at 2:52 am

@slayer08 Thanks for sharing your experience. I agree with you, we need to stand up and protect ourselves. Since you were not disturbing others, I do not understand why there was people trying to bully you.

I just asked my husband lately, and he told me he has experienced the similar thing as you too. He was quiet in school as well, and did not disturb others. But, there was a bully wanted to punch him. He told me, he just stood up and got ready to defend himself. But, when the bully saw him “being armored”, he backed off too.