May 19, 2016 at 1:40 am

Earlier this month it was my Aunt’s 80th birthday.  I haven’t seen her since my dad’s funeral and she was not well behaved at all there!  She spent the entire time flirting with an old school friend!!!  She’s spoken to my mom a few times on the phone since then and invited us over last Christmas, but we declined because it was too close to the first anniversary of my dad’s death and we weren’t celebrating the holiday.  Lately my mom’s been trying to call her but the phone always goes to answering machine.

I found out via Facebook that last weekend her kids, grandkids, and great-grandkids had a big birthday party for her…with even her daughter from Texas coming in for it.  I feel like my mom and I (and possibly my half sister, not sure) were intentionally left out.  We are the only family of her passed half-brother after all and would have been invited had he still been living.  I feel really offended.

Do you guys think I’m right to feel offended in this situation or am I just overreacting?

September 21, 2016 at 6:02 am

Both are correct it seems.

Family Relations are being spoiled just because fo improper and untimely communication

You could not accept her invitation as it was too close to your Dad’s first anniversary. You should have made it clear to her. She might have taken  it to  heart. You think from her side also.

Now you are not invited. That’s all about it.

September 21, 2016 at 6:12 am

You are looking at things from your angle only. See the things from her angle also. It is just because of improper communication only the relationship has ended. There is no recovery for it unless someone takes an initiative and visits her being your Dad’s sister.

You are feeling for not being invited for her Birthday. in your case your Dad is the half-brother of your Aunt.

But in my case, my uncle has not invited my mother being his own sister for a social gathering where everyone was invited except my mother  It is just because of financial status. Now he is living along with his wife in a big building  and no one is there to inquire to inquire about them. His money has not come to his rescue. Last year I visited him and he started weeping when I inquired about his health. I asked them to come together and stay in my house as long as they wish. For me it is nothing . But it is now for them to take a decision.

September 21, 2016 at 11:03 am

Since you av your excuse to give to her due to your Dad anniversary and you said you guy try to reach her but not avail so you av no right to feel offended to was your self and never thing you left out from the occasion cos we till av all different anniversary to celebrate with each other if we are till exist in life…..and if you over reacting may be I can’t say only thing you need is to calm your nerves down and get yourself nice warm coffee 😀

September 27, 2016 at 12:27 am

I think your at t is being selfish and at the same time she is being unfair and overreacting over nothing. Why would she not consider inviting you to her birthday if she was not having the intention of hurting you. She must be having a personal vendetta with your mum and she doesn’t want to let it out. Such people really piss me out. If at all something happened between her and your mum why not come out and say it then get a solution to it? Instead of drugging everyone else with your problems. I really don’t think it’s just about your dafs death there must be something else. Anyway I wouldn’t say that your wrong to feel the way that you do it’s only natural that you would react that way after someone close did something like that to you. Anyway whatever it is it will pass and she will probably ask for forgiveness when she realized what she did.

September 29, 2016 at 12:31 am

Do you have to go to every birthday celebration your aunt has? It seems from what you wrote that you don’t like some of the things the aunt does but that is your choice. Your aunt is grown and is not a child and can flirt with whomever she pleases. Now since your dad is only her half brother I am not quite certain how close the two were. I know I’m not close with my half siblings so I don’t get mad when I’m not invited to anything of theirs.

If anything at all, reach out to the aunt and let her know how you feel about what happened. It could have been overlooked since you did decline her first invitation.